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"...to gain that look - of being beautiful - people are willing to do anything."

"...to gain that look - of being beautiful - people are willing to do anything."

To: am-global@earthlink.net
Date: Mon, 07 Sep 2009 13:32:01
From: “Hank & Rita Tomasson”
Subject: Are You Concerned About Beauty?


“Ba’dha’ eseche bheunegeche toma’r…hoyeche…” (PS 2647)


Baba, by Your grace all those obstacles which have come on the path are
pulverized. They got completely destroyed. Whatever horrifying things were
there– fog, dilemma, confusion– that all disappeared into thin air. This
happened only because of Your divine grace.

In its ghastly attempt, the bad days– the foggy weather– wanted to
swallow everything in its ghastly attempt. And it wanted to submerge
everything into cimmerian darkness. However the demons’ dance, and the days
of hellish creatures and their kingdom– these are gone forever by Your
grace, by Your karuna.

O’ Parama Purusa, the Charioteer of the chariot of effulgence, You have
come. All the confusion, illusion, and dilemmas have been wiped away from
everyone’s mind. It is Your grace.

Baba due to Your holy advent the bondage of ignorance and staticity and
the serpentine noose of maya have been destroyed. With the presence of Your
august advent, Your arrival, all the sins have gotten destroyed. Now
everything is saturated with divine effulgence. Baba, You are



This is one big trend all around the globe these days – now more than
ever. All want to become stunningly beautiful.

And there is nothing wrong with that…

…except that people are looking for beauty in all the wrong places –
i.e. externally – and it is wrecking their lives. Their misguided search
for beauty leads to anxiety, depression, divorce, trauma, frivolous
expenses, financial debt and all kinds of psychic complexes and afflictions.

We may even find traces of this ill-conceived quest for beauty in our
Marga, though in the general society it is much more rampant,
exponentially so.

We should all be aware, lest we fall into a similar pattern. Also with
awareness comes the ability to help others and convince them of the
truth in a compassionate way through logic and reasoning.


The trends about what is beautiful vary from place to place, but now in
this materialistic era, all parameters of beauty are based on the most
superficial aspect of the human experience.

In the US and Europe, white-skinned people generally think that “having
a tan” makes them more beautiful. Thus most everyone in those areas
wants a tan, or brown skin. To get that, they may lie in the sun, lie on
a tanning bed, or even have it sprayed on like paint.

In India, now it is more fashionable or beautiful to have light or white
skin. For this reason ladies may not even go outside in the sun for fear
that their skin will get too dark.

Yet these trends come and go like the wind. One day one wishes to look
dark, and the next white. It can flip-flop anytime. Yet on these
whimsical and fleeting styles, people form their crude judgments of a
person and formulate their own look as well.

Baba says, ‘The notion of what is beautiful or ugly, or good or bad in
human beings changes from age to age, and in different environments.
Those who are black-complexioned will say, “How beautiful black is. Why
is that man so white? Has he contracted leucoderma (white leprosy)? How
repulsive, how utterly repulsive!” That is, human judgement is relative;
it changes according to time, place and person.” (AV-8)

And not just skin colour, but each and every aspect of the physical body
has a trend, or look, or way that is deemed as beautiful. And people go
bonkers trying to achieve that.

They may spike their hair, expand their lips, paint their face, tattoo
their body, pluck their eyebrows, squeeze their feet into small shoes,
whiten their teeth, grow their nails, paint their toes, and the list
goes on and on.

We have all seen it.

They may even visit plastic surgeons to make their nose or breasts
“absolutely ideal”, i.e. beautiful. They may body pierce themselves all
over thinking that this makes them attractive. Or they may get a
liposuction or tummy tuck in order to make themselves look skinny.

In the past in India and other poor countries, being fat was a sign of
wealth and prosperity – they all wanted to be fat. That was desired and
beautiful. Now in those same places, all that has changed. Especially
where the internet is big – like in the Indian cities – all want to be
thin now, because that is the rage in the west.

No matter where one resides, to gain that look – of being beautiful –
people are willing to do anything.

Even in these tough economic times – when cash is sparse – people are
spending thousands and millions even billions of dollars on various
cosmetic medical procedures or beauty supplies in order to enhance their
look. It is a mega industry at present.

And the one who suffers most is the individual – they become a victim of
the times. They ruin their peace and composure by indulging in this
quest for beauty externally, which in truth is destined for failure.


1. Although beauty varies from place to place and era to era, people in
the same place and in the same era chase after the same look. They all
want to be thin, or have their hair in a particular way, and dress
according to the day’s fashion etc. In essence, they become mirror
images of one another – when in truth diversity is the spice of life.
Mother nature makes us all different, even if our parents are the same.
By this way the gene pool of our human society gets stronger and more
developed. To chase after the same look is to going against nature.

2. The beauty business corrupts people’s mind into thinking that beauty
only resides on the outside. They have so many tricks for brainwashing
people, especially young women and teenagers. This is their big market
and they spend huge money convincing them. In turn, the beauty industry
takes in billions. The entire situation is most unfortunate.

3. People naively think that by becoming more beautiful then all their
problems will be solved and everything will be alright – i.e. they will
be happy and all will adore them. This is their day-dream fantasy as
well as the reason why they chase relentlessly after external beauty.

4. Now more and more people are goaded toward external beauty at a
younger age. This imposes a terrible inferiority complex that “I am not
beautiful enough.” Generally self-conscious feelings about one’s looks
occur when one is going through adolesence. But today, in countries like
Brazil and India, girls of 3 or 4 years of age are being dressed up like
dolls and the children get the teaching early on that external beauty is
everything. This is a terrible tragedy and brings about the demise of
the human condition.

5. And there are more points, write us with your thoughts.


All in all, chasing after external beauty is a no-win situation for
anyone, neither for materialists nor for spiritual aspirants.

Materialists, or common people, bank all their happiness on external
beauty and allurements, which is itself fleeting. Most of the time
people are too self-conscious to delight in what beauty they do have,
and even if they do enjoy their “beauty” what they fail to realise is
that their beauty will not last. It is impermanent, temporary. It will
wane, wane, wane with the passage of tiem. Seeing this, people get
distressed and depressed. They worry about thinner hair, flabby thighs,
droopy skin, and so many other things. To make matters worse, people are
living longer now than ever before so while their “beauty” may begin to
decrease after the age of 30, 35, 40, or 45, they now live longer, up to
80, 90, or 100 and in that case they merely extend their days living in
that depressed state. Such is the fate of materialists.

And spiritual-minded people also run into trouble by chasing after
external beauty. They may have lived a most dharmic life and helped
others but because of their lust for external beauty all their good
efforts get wasted and instead of progressing on the path, at the time
of death they get turned into bodyless microvita. Such a horrible fate.

Baba says, “Though siddhas are elevated human beings, those who have
some aesthetic attraction for physical objects like money, ornaments,
etc., become kinnaras after their demise. As spiritual aspirants they
are elevated to some extent, and as human beings they are decent, but
they prayed to Parama Purus’a for beauty instead of for Parama Purus’a
Himself. Such people, after their demise, attain the status of kinnara
devayonis.” (MVNS)

So neither the common materialist nor the advanced sadhaka benefits by
chasing after external beauty – yet so many engage in this way.


The next – or obvious – question then is why do they do it. Why do
people chase after external beauty?

The answer we all know.

When people do not seek peace within then their mind turns to the
external sphere for happiness, acceptance, and approval. And one of the
closest external qualities we have is our bodies. Thus people seek
attention and respect based on their external looks, i.e. “beauty”.
Their figure, hair, shape, softness etc.

But this leads them nowhere other than their demise.

And tragically the trend is only growing. Now more than ever people are
mentally imbalanced due to materialism, and in that precarious state
they invariably look more and more for external beauty as their great
value in life.

This then makes them more insecure and worried and ultimately sets them
up for “the big fall” when their beauty invariably wanes as the body

So it is a vicious cycle.

In contrast, if one is able to find peace within, then they are not so
concerned about their superficial looks. Already they have found beauty
and value in life. And that is the real beauty that will bring peace and


Here Baba graciously guides us where our real beauty lies.

Baba says, “Perhaps you know that mental beauty exercises some degree of
influence on the human body. A woman who is unattractive but is mentally
elevated or has a loving nature will look beautiful to others. You must
have heard that to a child, the most beautiful woman in the world is his
or her mother.” (MVNS)

Thus beauty – ie lasting beauty and attraction – lies in the benevolence
and sentientness of mind.

As a person gets to know your mind, then they will find you to be more
and more beautiful, so long as your mind is spiritually inclined. That
is why people who come close to you and become your friend value you for
your behaviour and conduct, not for your looks. So long as one’s mind is
vibrated, one’s conduct will be proper, and others will be attracted to
you. So the point of allurement is the mind not the body. That is where
lasting beauty exists. That is Baba’s guideline.

Proof of this is that these days so many marriages are made based on
purely external beauty and sexual attraction. But then, as they get to
know one another and see how the other thinks and behaves, then they
develop distaste for one another until finally they fight, beat each
other, and ultimately divorce. Countless high-profile, glamorous
marriages have destructed in this way. And it happens to common people
as well.

The point is that if you do not like the way a person thinks and
behaves, then they will not be beautiful to you, irregardless of how
physically attractive they are. And vice-versa.

Whereas, if one’s behavior and dealing are benevolent and charming, then
everyone will be attracted to you and find you to be beautiful.

That is Baba’s magic formula.

Thus if one is concerned about beauty – they should ensure they are
concerned about their psychic beauty, not the physical one. Only the
beauty of the mind can bring about happiness and welfare to oneself and
others. Only then can on be truly beautiful in the eyes of others.


By His grace here again is His divine teaching. By adhering go 16
Points, doing sadhana, singing kiirtan, and being strict in yama and
niyama, then one’s beauty will increase more and more.

Baba says, “Perhaps you know that mental beauty exercises some degree of
influence on the human body. A woman who is unattractive but is mentally
elevated or has a loving nature will look beautiful to others. You must
have heard that to a child, the most beautiful woman in the world is his
or her mother.” (MVNS)




Baba says, ” Just imagine the situation that will arise in the future as
a result of humanity’s ever increasing thirst for knowledge. To meet
these developments the nerve cells and nerve fibres will have to become
more complex. Consequently, the human cranium will become larger and the
size of the head will increase. The hands and feet will become weaker
and weaker and human beings may even lose the ability to walk…Today we
think that such people will look very strange, but in the future one may
hear people commenting, “Oh, how handsome he looks with eyes as small as
little peas and arms as thin as jute sticks. He can’t hear anything with
his ears. In fact, he hasn’t got any ears at all! What an attractive
man.” Although it seems slightly repulsive to us, this will become the
standard of beauty in future. People will judge beauty according to the
standards of the day, saying, “Oh, those stick-like arms of his make him
look so handsome. The fellow can’t walk properly. How wonderful.” And if
someone can walk, people will say, “How indecent that fellow looks
hobbling around on two legs!” But if he crawls along the ground they
will say, “How wonderful, how beautiful!” If we were to see this sort of
scene today, however, we would say, “How unsightly. That fellow is
uglier than an owl.”” (AV-8)

Samaj is Based on Neo-Humanism, not Groupism

Parama Purusa BABA says, “If each samaj [socio-economic unit] is inspired
by a comprehensive ideology and a universal outlook, human society will
move ahead with accelerating speed towards a sublime ideal.” (PNS-13, p.

Note: Nowadays some group leaders are singing the song of samaj as they try
to forge ahead with their narrow-minded agendas. But margiis can smell this
from a mile away and are keeping distance from such talk. Means other than
a select few, no one is falling into the trap that the spectacle of such
and such WT group is part of samaj theory.


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