Archive for January 23rd, 2010

From: “Virendra Mandal”
To: am-global@earthlink.net
Subject: Are You Worried About Your Teenager
Date: Sat, 24 Jan 2010 22:41:44 +0530


“Tiirthe tiirthe ghuriya’ kla’nt haye esechi dva’re…” (4112)


Baba in search of You, after wandering around the globe in various holy
lands, I am completely tired; and in that state now I have reached to Your
alter. Baba, be gracious, please do not turn Your face away; and please do
not become unhappy, angry, or furious on me. Please open the door and
allow me to come inside.

Baba, look towards me; my whole body is completely tired and exhausted. My
feet are full of dust. Wandering around in the sun my whole body is
sweating. I am completely tired and exhausted.

By Your grace now I feel in my heart and repent how my whole life got
wasted. I was tied up in the noose of dogma. Just I was performing various
rituals, wandering in holy lands, moving from one tiirtha to another
tiirtha, from one Baba’s Quarter to another Baba’s Quarter, in search of
You. By Your grace now I understand that You are hiding sitting in my
heart– smiling.

Baba, I am surrendering to You. Please accept me as Yours. Do not leave
me to wander to this and that dogma– involved in one or another ritual.
The path which I was crossing through, that path is dark & full of
hopelessness. I wasted a lot of money, time, and energy but nothing was
gained. And now I am too tired. I want Your divine direction.

In spite of moving on the negative path, by Your grace in the garden of
my mind some flowers have bloomed for You. I want to offer those flowers at
Your lotus feet. Now the creepers of hope are swinging and the feeling is
coming that You will allow me.

By Your grace, Baba You have already given me the longing for You in my
heart. So now please allow me to come close to You to touch Your feet.
Baba, I am Yours and You are mine. I am surrendering everything to You.
Please accept me…


In many sectors we see that the children of senior margiis are not very
involved in our AM way of life. There are so many examples- especially
with our teenagers. Yet Baba has given us a very great tool for
reversing this negative trend so that we can successfully raise our
children as margiis.

And in general, in this world, all want to get success. And even more
than that, everyone wants their children to become successful.

Yet, it is not so easily done, especially in this day and age when there
are countless challenges, struggles, distractions and obstacles.

This letter addresses the matter of success – both inside and outside of
Ananda Marga – and how we can help our children attain it. In
particular, the points raised apply to our youths and teenagers, i.e.
kids aged 9 – 19.


In a number of discourses, Baba has graciously given the special
guidelines for attaining success: Namely, the seven secrets of success.

In the past, various letters have discussed different aspects of the
seven secrets. Here are a few for your review.

This letters focuses primarily on point #2: Dvitiiyam’ shraddhaya’
yuktam’. Specifically what does it mean to have “reverence for the goal”
and how does it manifest in daily life.


Generally when we use the word goal, we mean it with a capital “G” and
the Goal refers to Ista or Parama Purusa. That is the purely spiritual

But in one of His many discourses on the seven secrets of success, that
is not Baba’s central meaning with regards to the word “goal”. He has a
different intention. As we know Baba often explains the same shloka in
different ways. With regards to, Dvitiiyam’ shraddhaya’ yuktam’, He
refers to it being a spiritual goal in some discourses and sometimes He
talks about it in mundane ways. So this point is applicable in both
manners: mundane and spiritual.

In one such discourse, Baba is using the word goal to refer to one’s
endeavors in life – whether they be work, school, research, sports,
repair, or almost anything at all. In all these circumstances if one has
reverence and regard for what they are doing then they will feel linked
with their work – and that brings success.


Let’s say a person is involved in their studies – perhaps mathematics or
literature. If that student feels that this subject is silly and of no
value, then no matter how long they study, they will not gain mastery of
the topic. What to say mastery – they will hardly learn anything at all.
Because they are unable to fully embrace the subject.

In contrast, if a student has great interest and regard for a particular
topic and they have the strong feeling that, “This topic is of great
importance and I must learn this”, then it is certain that they will get
success. They will become quite adept in that subject.

It follows then that if a father desperately wants his son to be doctor
and the son is more interested in Sanskrit or mathematics, then the
child will not succeed in the study of medicine no matter how much
pressure the father places on his child. Because the child does not have
the requisite reverence for that topic – he does not want to study to be
a doctor.

Likewise if one only “learns” because of the pressure of an upcoming
examination or because they will be punished if they don’t study, then
whatever they “learn” will be forgotten very quickly. That knowledge
will not stick.

Shraddha’, or the 2nd point of the seven secrets, relates to when one
has great interest in the topic at hand.

This sense of shraddha’, or deep reverence, for all endeavours in life
is one special ingredient for achieving success. And it is especially
useful for teenagers for a few reasons. First, they are in a great stage
of development in life – they have to learn many things: School,
friendship, summer jobs, and other responsibilities. Second, if they
develop this sense of shraddha’ now, they it will be a lifelong tool for
them. Then they will always know what type of mind-set is needed to get

Shraddha’ indicates that one feels that a particular action is the right
and ideal thing to do. Such is their mental feeling. Thus it is not just
respect or reverence in a general sort of way.

For these reasons and more, as margii parents we should all be keen to
help our teens cultivate a strong sense of shraddha’ for all pursuits in

Very importantly, it will also carry over into how our children approach
Ananda Marga. We must logically convince our children of the value of AM
teaching so they feel ready to embrace them.

Teenagers are in a very important phase of spiritual development – for
the first time ever their glands and minds are duly awakened and they
can easily conceive of higher aspirations and grand ideals.

Baba says, “The dream of the future first crystallizes in the mind of
the adolescent. So adolescents should be taught, without indulging in
narrow-mindedness, through the medium of idealism.” (HS-1)

Naturally then, if that sense of shraddha’ – deep link with their work
– is instilled in the minds of any teenager, then their journey into
our AM way of life will be fruitful.


The next critical matter is how to inculcate that sense of shraddha’ or
deep link and feeling for one’s endeavour.

Firstly, as parents we must convince our children of the importance of a
given task through logic and reasoning. Our children must know why it is
important; then they will get convinced. Then they will embrace the
point internally.

If our children thoroughly understand the benefits of a vegetarian diet
then they will follow sincerely it and not be swayed when they see
others, especially their classmates, eating meat. That is the way to
instill the point of shraddha’ – through logica and reasoning. Then the
mind will be set in its endeavour. We should all do this with our
children regarding all facets of AM ideology.

Unfortunately it can happen both in AM and certainly in the general
society that parents just tell their kids what to do but do not convince
and educate them on the importance of the point. Without that, the
children feel forced to follow it but in their hearts they are not
convinced. In that case there is no shraddha’ and they will not gain
success. In that case such parents do a disservice to their children.


Now comes the next step. Why is it so important for us to convince our
margii children through logic and reasoning when so many of the various
religions need not take this approach.

The answer lies in numbers and popularity.

So many of our margii children are not involved in AM, whereas so many
Muslim and Christian children are involved in their religions.

Those Muslim and Christian children are growing up in areas where all
their friends in school also follow that religion. In that case they
believe their religion is is good simply because of the sheer popularity
of it. They do need logic and reasoning to be convinced to follow those
tenets. They just do it because everyone else is doing it.

Whereas in AM most margii kids are not around any other margii children.
They are alone. Without any peer support, they need maximum logic and
reasoning. They will have to be internally convinced that AM is the way
to go. Because when none of their friends are following AM then they
will be prone to think that our AM way of life is silly or stupid.
Because none of their friends are involved in this way of life; AM is
not popular. To overcome this, logic and reasoning is needed. If our
children are taught the real value of AM ideals, then they will follow
them – even if it is not popular in their school – even if their way of
living is different from all their peers.


The key point behind it all is that one must value what they are doing.
If even one of our revered Wts is given work by his superior that he
feels is useless, then he will not be able to do that work properly. And
that project or job will just be half-baked. It can happen.

So regardless of one’s stature in life, the point of shraddha’ applies
universally to all. It is a quality of mind and outlook and is not
achieved by post, power, or social stature etc.

And that sense of shraddha’ – of maximum respect and reverence for the
task at hand – will generate tremendous mental force. It will give one
the stamina to overcome obstacles and difficulties and achieve great
things in life.

Thus inside or outside of AM – in the general society – in all kinds of
communities and endeavors, regardless of the nature of one’s goal (i.e.
work or study etc), if one has shraddha’ then they will get success in
that activity.

That is Baba’s distinct guideline.

Whereas the moment one thinks that “This work is stupid” or “This job is
meaningless” then one’s efforts are doomed. If one is a President or a
street-sweeper, the moment they think in that defective manner then they
will never get success.


By Baba’s grace He has endowed us the way to get success in all our
pursuits in life. We should share this great teaching with our children.
The moment they understand the value and importance of an endeavour and
cultivate deep regard for their work, then they will get success in
every sphere of life – now and in the future also.





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