Archive for May 10th, 2010

To: am-global@earthlink.net
Date: Mon 10 May 2010 22:11:29
From: “Hank & Rita Tomasson”
Subject: Re: Why One Day Is Enough


PS Intro: In the life of each and every sadhaka, at one time or another,
it invariably happens that when they have a deep desire to receive
Parama Purusa, in the grand play of His divine liila He is remaining
distant. The sadhaka may be doing a lot of kiirtan and sadhana or they
may be constantly repeating their Ista mantra and calling Him again and
again with all their heart, but it sometimes happens that still He is
not coming close. Despite so many cries and pleas to receive Him, Parama
Purusa is remaining far. And then suddenly one day when the devotee is
not at all ready for His divine arrival then unexpectedly Parama Purusa
graces him by coming. At one unannounced moment He reveals His divine
Self in the depths of the devotee’s heart. This is nothing but His
divine liila of hide and seek and that is the devotional scene which is
represented in this following Prabhat Samgiita.

“Tumi path bhule mor ghare ele…” (PS 1988)


Baba, I love You so much and I have been waiting for You for so long. In
the upsurge of my devotional attraction for You I have cried profusely
and shed innumerable tears waiting for You. Baba, I have called You
countless times, even then You remained oblivious and did not come. Then
today with no prior warning at all, by accident You came to my house–
You advented Yourself in my heart, in my mental abode. Baba, it is so
beautiful to receive You; it is Your grace. Baba, I love You so much. By
Your grace the devotional longing of my heart was resonating in the far
distant breeze and throughout the great blue sky. Baba, my deep longing
for You could be felt throughout each and every pulsation of this vast
universe. Even then Your deep sleep was not broken by the devotional
call of my heart. Baba, the longing of my heart was resonating all
around, but You remained completely deaf. You did not respond at all. O’
my dearmost, please tell me why You remained far.

Baba, whether You choose to listen to me or not, is entirely Your
option: Paying a deaf ear to my constant calling and pleas is one of
Your roles in this divine liila. Baba, when I was thinking that You
would surely come then I decorated my house in a magnificent way for
Your ceremonial reception; but that time You did not come. Baba, when I
was desperately calling You with all the devotion of my heart, You did
not show up. Yet now when my heart is dry and I am involved in so many
worldly duties You have come. Baba, now when I have so many works and
responsibilities to manage, You have arrived at my door– unannounced.
Baba, today I was not anticipating Your arrival, but by Your grace You
have come. Your accidental arrival at my house– in my heart– is never
a mistake. O’ my dearmost Baba, my heart is always longing for You. It
is so blissful that You have finally come and completely satiated my
internal yearning for You. Baba, You are the dearest One of my heart.
Baba today You have graciously come and made my whole being resplendent.
Baba, You are my everything…


Here is an addendum to the letter about the mother’s day and father’s
day holidays in the materialistic western nations.

Here are some new points that were not included in the first letter.


In the west, the tantric ideal of motherhood is not often embraced by
the general populace – rather it is usually overlooked entirely. In
those materialistic nations, females are victims of the capitalist
mind-set. They are too engrossed in their own sensuality. That obviously
detracts from their ability to serve as mother. Knowingly or
unknowingly, they would rather be seen as sexy or alluring. The dominant
male has imposed this crude notion on them.

For this reason many females in the west do not breast feed, nor do they
sleep with their children, nor do they have time during the day to be
with their children. Mostly those mothers drop off their child at day
care and then go charging off to work to compete with their male
counter-parts in earning a living. And then in the nighttime they put
their toddlers in their own separate bedroom while the “mother” sleeps
alone with her spouse. As soon as the baby is old enough, it is placed
in its own room away from the parents so they can have their privacy.

In this busy cycle, even when they have the opportunity to keep the
child close, they do not hold in the lap. Instead they carry the baby in
a basket. Psychologists and medical professionals have found there to be
a gap in the emotional development of those children who are deprived
the touch of their mother. If children do not have physical contact with
their parents – or if that contact is minimal – then that hinders their
emotional cum psychological development.

Plus the general society in the west is not eager to breastfeed. Some do
but it is rare. Most prefer to bottle feed etc. And those who do choose
to breastfeed then they will usually only do that if they are home, and
not when they are out in public or in the store etc. All these are
instances of females compromising their motherly status.

This below letter describe more about the unfortunate status of mothers
in the west and the terrible effect this has on their children.

Here the point rings true that only those societies and communities
which do not eagerly embrace the meaning of motherhood are anxious to
celebrate mother’s day once a year. They can then give lip service to
motherhood that day with roses and sweet words and then forget about
motherhood the other 364 days. Both children and parents follow this
pattern in the west because they do not have a deeply loving link with
one another.

Please understand that neither am I blaming the mothers nor am I blaming
the children. Just the simple fact stands that materialism drove them in
this direction. If anyone wishes to pass judgment or extend blame, then
we should blame the entire society.


It was Baba’s policy to never go against anyone’s psychology hence
during His marriage blessings He would always speak to the newlywed
couple in a particular manner.

When the newly married husband and wife would come up onto the stage for
His marriage blessing during DMC, then they would always offer a garland
to Baba.

Baba would then give His blessing and return the garland back to the wife.

During this sweet and charming interaction, if the newlywed wife was
Indian then Baba would address her as mother and say, “Take this mala
mother and keep it with you…”. In contrast, if the newlywed wife was
not Indian then Baba would address her as little girl and say, “Take
this mala little girl and keep it with you…”.

Baba took this approach with thousands of newly weds during hundreds of

Here the point is that Baba understood that the newly married wife from
western countries etc, did not like to be called mother. So He called
them “little girl”.

And that is how it is. In materialistic places, even older women do not
like to be called mother, yet in those tantric cultures, even little
girls are addressed as maa or mother.

Baba says, “Very often a doting father will take his little daughter on
his lap and call her “mother”. But everyone knows that the child is his
daughter, not his mother.” (SC-9)

Of course, as materialism takes its unseemly tour through India, females
there too may fall prey to this negative mindset of wishing to be valued
for their sensual allurement and not their motherly status.


By Baba’s grace, as Ananda Margiis and as parents we should stand true
to His tantric system and fully embrace our roles as mother and father,
and not get pulled into the crude ocean of materialistic values, where
mother’s day and father’s day reign.

Baba says, “In the Vajraya’na Buddhist age, the idea first developed
that the basic identity of a woman was neither “sister” nor “daughter”
but “mother”. To support this concept, the Vajraya’na Buddhist Tantrics
used to say that the person whom the newborn baby notices immediately
after its birth is neither its sister, its wife nor its daughter, but
its mother. So that on the wider canvas of this universe the identity of
a woman, from first to last, was portrayed as a mother. She first
appears as a young mother to a newborn and later when she attains
maturity in life, she establishes her identity as the [grand] mother [of
a large household].” (SC-9)

Hitendra & Ranijta


The basic theme of that letter is that only mothers from the west
appreciate the annual mother’s day phenomenon. Whereas mother’s in the
tantric tradition do not. This is a very emotional topic so one cannot
pass judgment: All that I can say is that it is beyond my understanding
why they appreciate mother’s day. Just as bhaktas do now want to limit
their sadhana, bhajan and kiirtan to a single day annually and call it
God’s day, likewise those who embrace motherhood fully do not wish to be
remembered as such just one day a year.

Finally, here is another letter of interest.

Practical Aspect of Mysticism

Baba says, “Mysticism is a never-ending endeavour to find a link between
finite and infinite.” (AV-23, p.101)

Note: Here Baba is indirectly giving the guideline that in the realm of
devotion one should have a particular personal relation with Parama
Purusa. And these relations are known as “bhava”– whether they be
sakhya bhava, dasya bhava, madhura bhava etc. So these various bhavas
are that very “link between finite and infinite”. Because with the help
of these relations devotees gradually come in closer and closer
proximity with Parama Purusa. Until finally by linking up in this way
the sadhaka becomes one with Him.

Read Full Post »