Archive for February 18th, 2011

Date: Fri, 18 Feb 2011 12:15:43 +0530


From: “Deva_Sudhakar”

Subject: Baba’s Guideline: Managing Tough Situations









Life is full of ups and downs and unexpected situations. We all face

unexpected times and tough situations that make life overwhelming.

However, even then we will not be at a loss for how to proceed.


By Baba’s grace, He has given us all the right practices and solutions

and addressed every circumstance.


In one particular English discourse delivered in Patna (1971), Baba

graciously gives us an exact 4-step sequence for what to do when we are

in an extremely difficult moment.


By following His below guideline, we are sure to be successful and

maintain proper adjustment and equipoise even in the most challenging

and unexpected situations.





The baby is sick…my father-in-law has fallen…my son got in a car

accident…my best friend was robbed…my deadline at work…my wife is

giving birth…my car broke down…I lost my wallet…my plane was

delayed….grandfather is dying…


So many unexpected and extreme situations arise in life. So many things

occur that are beyond our ability to plan – that take us away from our

daily routine.


Now in this 21st century, life is extremely busy. People are on the go

all the 24hrs. So when one big, unexpected event occurs, then life

becomes beyond our ability to manage. We cannot attend to our regular

duties as we are fully focused on dealing with the task at hand –

whether it be a birth, death, or something critical in between.


It is in that very extreme circumstance that we are to strictly adhere

to Baba’s guideline. Then we will be in accordance with dharma and in

the best position to gain success and serve others.





When common citizens are overwhelmed with life, sleep deprived, and too

busy to take care of their basic duties such as eating and washing due

to a critical dire circumstance, then when they get a spare moment the

first thing they do is eat.


This is the common way most people proceed – or if they are really crude

they will have a smoke or a drink (i.e. alcohol).


In AM also, when submerged in a crises or tough situation – while none

of us will smoke or drink – some will indeed eat food the first moment

they get.


But this is not the proper approach. Baba’s guideline is something

altogether different.





In His highly unique discourse from Patna in 1971, Baba gives us the

following formula for how to proceed in such situations.


When totally overwhelmed by a life circumstance and when thrown from our

daily routine, then Baba guides us that the first thing we should do is



So sadhana is #1.


In His divine discourse of 1971 Patna, Baba instructs us that even if we

have not eaten or bathed or done any of our regular duties because of

unforseen circumstances, then as soon as we get even as little as 5

minutes free, then we should do sadhana.


Because we are mental beings, and by doing sadhana even for just 5

minutes our mental equipoise will be restored. So Baba’s gives top

priority to doing sadhana.


Then if we have a little more time then we should bathe.


So taking a bath is #2.


With the mental stamina attained from sa’dhana’, then we next address

our physical body and attend to basic human hygiene. Taking a bath,

according to the AM system, will allow us to further revitalise ourselves.


Thereafter, when we have done 5 minutes of sadhana and taken a bath,

then Baba says we should take some time to relax.


So relaxation is #3.


Here relaxation does not mean rest or sleep. Actually in the discourse

Baba makes a joke that one should only take rest when they reach the

funeral pyre – not before. Everyone in attendance laughed.


The main point is that rest and relaxation are two different things. By

relaxation, Baba means taking a few minutes to calm the body and settle

the mind. It allows a person come back to their normal flow – reach a

state of balance. This period of relaxation might just be for a few

minutes, but it is very important to do.


Finally, after doing short sadhana, taking bath, and relaxing, then one

should eat.


So eating is #4.


Taking food is the final step of this unique sequence which Baba has

given in this 1971 English discourse in Patna. And by eating Baba of

course means taking sentient food in a calm manner, chewing thoroughly

and keeping the mind in a positive mode.


So these are Baba’s step-wise guidelines for how to proceed when

encumbered by difficult life circumstances wherein one is thrown from

their normal routine.





Of course most of the world’s population is totally unaware of Baba’s

teachings so when they get embroiled in a difficult situation, then they

do not know how to proceed and their whole life falls into turmoil. In

that case, it is not just a single event, but rather their entire course

of life gets negatively affected. In addition to the problem at hand

like an accident or family death etc, they may get sick, suffer from

exhaustion, or fall prey to depression. Or not knowing what to do they

may even get in a fight, injure someone, or unnecessarily abuse a loved

one. All these things may happen in the heat of the moment.


If we follow Baba’s above mandate, however, we will always keep the mind

in proper flow whereby everything will turn out as best as possible. The

situation will not get compounded by other problems due to our own






By His system of prioiritization, it is quite clear that Baba gives

great importance to sadhana. And of course in so many discourses Baba

tells us that sadhana is the main thing in life.


Baba says, “The main purpose of human beings coming here to this earth

is to do spiritual practice…Sa’dhana’ is the main theme of life.

Whatever you do in the world, you should do it with a view to promote

your sa’dhana’ and help the sa’dhana’ of others. Human beings come to

earth to practise sa’dhana’, to move closer to Iishvara, the Supreme

Goal – to come closer to Parama Purus’a [Supreme Consciousness]. Thus,

the deeds of human beings will not be like the deeds of animals.

Whatever human beings will do, they will do in such a manner that the

progress in their sa’dhana’ will go on accelerating.” (YP)





By Baba’s grace our lives are most blessed. He has given us the exact

procedure to deal with every event in life – even unexpected ones. By

this way we can get success in every circumstance and always abide by

the tenets of dharma.


So always remember: First is sadhana, second is bath, third is

relaxation, and fourth is food. If we keep this system in mind and

follow it, then we will be in the best position to handle every and any

situation that comes in life.






PS Intro: In the life of a sadhaka sometimes sadhana is good and one

feels very close proximity to Parama Purusa– Baba. Then everything in

life is pleasing & charming: Blissful. Naturally though, over the course

of their systaltic movement, sadhakas inevitably experiences a phase of

pause in their sadhana. In that time deep, devotional spiritual ideation

and strong sadhana are almost impossible; instead the mind becomes dry.

One’s surroundings become tasteless and in the heart the sadhaka starts

to feel that ‘something is missing’. Because in the absence of the

Divine Entity– Baba– one’s surroundings become bland & mundane. Even

then in the hearts of good sadhakas, they still have deep longing for

Parama Purusa– Baba. And that blissful, devotional yearning is known as

melancholic longing. In the following song, this entire idea has been

expressed through the metaphor of the bakul flower garden etc.





“Jabe ei path diye esechile, viithika’ pus’pe bhara’ chilo…” (PS 2141)




Baba, when You came to my home by this path, that time the garden lane

was full of sweet, fragrant flowers. By Your divine presence, my mind

became spiritually intoxicated with the divine aroma of those flowers.

On that occasion also the flow of songs was floating in the air. Baba,

since You did not come, even today that bakul flower lane is just lying

there vacant– unused. Innumerable flowers have fallen and become one

with the dust. Where has that sweet flower fragrance of the bakul flower

gone. Now all its aroma is completely dried up. O’ my dearmost, since

You have not come to this lane for so long, everyone has forgotten how

beautiful and charming that garden was. Because of Your presence.

Baba, anyhow still today the flowers on the trees are surviving, but due

to Your absence, the garden lane has lost all its charm. So those trees

are just weeping thinking how the days of old were so charming and

blissful in Your presence. Because in those days You showered Your grace

by coming down that garden lane. Those days were so magnificent and

blissful. But now You are not coming. So by remembering Your august

visit those trees are very unhappy. Their melancholic tears have totally

drenched the garden lane. And those trees repeat again and again that

despite having everything: The flower, the lane, the atmosphere, and

greenery– despite all these things, in the absence of the One, i.e. You

Baba, this entire world becomes utterly meaningless and empty.

Baba, please be gracious. Do not remain distant– always remain inside

my heart. Baba, please grace me so that I always feel Your divine





In Real Sense Everyone’s Language is Same


Baba says, “Either from the psycho-physical or theoretical viewpoint, all

the people of the world have the same language. This is because the essence

of language, that is idea, is one and the same for all languages. Phonetics

may differ amongst languages because of differences in geographical

environment, which causes differences in racial and ethnic factors and

results in variations in the biological structure of the vocal chord. Thus

when the idea to drink water appears in the mind, then human beings may

express this idea differently. Some say, A’mi jal kha’ba while others say,

Mu jala pivu, and others say I want to drink water. Behind these different

expressions is the same idea.” (AFPS-9)



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