Archive for April 22nd, 2011

From: Terri Deva


Subject: Disconnected Children

Date: Fri, 22 Apr 2011 14:01:19 -0400



Note: Just this week a six-year old in Houston Texas (USA) brought a gun

to school which fired and three young children were injured. Sadly this

tale is but one of many as each and every day mounting horror stories

emerge about child related catastrophes in the west, most notably in the USA.

This below letter examines the root cause of such issues.


As we know children represent something very special: They are the hope and

future of humanity. That is why the raising of our children is so very


Because it is in those early years during childhood that so much tangible

and intangible growth occurs, in one’s mind and heart. And this remains

with children and fuels them throughout their life.

That is why Baba Himself places tremendous importance on the caring and

raising of our children.

Tragically, in this modern, materialistic era, in certain countries a

distinct gap has occurred in children’s development.


It is the common phenomenon around the globe that people automatically

assume that each and every aspect of human life in the so-called

first-world nations is the absolute best. From popular music to automobiles

and from food to education etc, people think that the Americana way of

doing is the greatest. Citizens of the materially impoverished

“third-world” nations are especially inclined to think like this. They are

most susceptible to this false outlook.

When in fact the truth stands that in so many aspects of life the western

nations are faltering terribly. Homelessness, psychic depression,

pollution, crime, inequality, sexual harassment, and poor health are but a

few of the things which hound and plague the materialistic societies of the

west– especially the USA.

In addition, one other problem is rampant in US life: Namely, the raising

of our children.


In a very brief nutshell, let us take a look at how children are commonly

raised in the US. Following are just a few points and others can write in

with their observations as well.

– Starting from that very tender moment when they are just a few months

old– or even less, often are children are separated from their mothers.

Either due to the pressure of their mundane job and professional life or

due to family instability like divorce etc, mothers are often not involved

in the direct care of their babies. This is the common phenomenon.

– In that case, toddlers, infants, and crawling babies are shuttled off to

day-care centers where they are but one of dozens of children being watched

over by a single, under-paid attendant. At these “day-care” centers,

children are often neglected if not outrightly abused. Instead of getting

that needed motherly love and affection, they grow up in the cold,

factory-like environment of a commercial day-care center. Where they are

but one of dozens of crying children looking for some love and support, but

hours and days and months go by and they never get that compassionate touch.

– And in other situations, due to divorce or other family problems,

children may be forced to grow up in a house that is different from their

mother’s residence. That is their mother may be living in California and

those tiny infants may be living in some far away place– thousands of

miles away from their mother– such as in Atlanta, Georgia etc. For

whatever reason such as financial strife etc, the children may have been

sent there to live with a distant relative.

– While in other scenarios, due to the fast-paced modern way of living,

children may grow up as a mere ghost in their own house. That is, due to

their business and hectic lives, parents may not give hardly any attention

to their children. They may not give them any personal care. Such parents

do not have time to listen to their children’s stories; they do not have

time to ease their children’s worries and concerns; they do not have time

to sit and laugh and play with their children. Just with a blank face such

parents frantically roam from one activity to the next– not giving any

attention to their children. Instead they try to appease their kids with

mundane gifts such as video games and movie players etc, but that does not

satisfy a child’s inner heart and longing for parental love and affection.

– These are some of the very regular events in the life of so many children

growing up in various so-called first world nations.

By all this even the common observer can immediately see that there is a

lot of instability and lack of love in the life of many “first-world”

children– American kids.


Whereas we see that children growing up in many of our so-called

third-world nations are often given a lot of attention, love, and affection.

Especially in India, it is understood that children are never separated

from their mothers. Rather those infants are in their mothers arms all day

long– and all night long as well.

In that case those children always feel cared for and sheltered. Of course

there are always exceptions to the rule, but this is the common scene in

much of the “developing world”.

And this is further evidenced by the fact that children growing up in those

areas and turn into well-behaved students and ultimately become responsible

members of society who are concerned with the world around them. This

happens most of the time.


But as described up above, children in “first-world” nations face an

entirely different situation while growing up and subsequently the outcome

is totally different also.

Due to on-going neglect, being left all alone, and a distinct lack of love

and affection, children often grow up disconnected from themselves,

separated from their parents, and alienated from the world around them.

And this is evidenced by highly disruptive behaviours both at home and at

school– as well as in their social life.

And when they grow up such children become adults who are engrossed in

their own troubles and not at all connected with the society or the world

around them.

This is the on-going and disturbing scene unfolding in contemporary

American life etc. About this hundreds and hundreds of scholarly articles

have been published and in addition millions and million of first-hand

human stories about this are available on the street. Indeed so many have

their tales to tell about this Americana syndrome– where people grow up

haunted by their own childhood.


Here Baba warns us about what happens when children are raised in an

atmosphere of neglect and abandonment etc. And side by side Baba guides us

how important it is for children to grow up in a well-balanced, stable

environment where they get an ample amount of motherly love and affection–

all day long.

Baba says, “At the beginning of evolution, humans used to lead libertine

lives without any consideration for family obligations, but they gradually

developed a family instinct. However, that family instinct was no different

from that of the elephants, lions, pigeons, etc. Due to this inborn

instinct, males and females arrived at a loose but workable compromise

regarding family life. But in that there was no sense of responsibility

born out of a developed conscience; rather, due to their loose

relationships with each other, one person used to desert another and go

anywhere he or she liked. The number of such libertines was very high, and

they used to disturb the peace and harmony of the so-called family members

and become the cause of many serious quarrels.”

“The male libertines would not take responsibility for their offspring.

They used to wander freely, and as a result, the entire responsibility for

raising the children in their infancy would devolve on the mothers. But it

was not possible for the mothers alone to bear the responsibility of

maintaining the children, as a result of which many children died in early

infancy. Those who survived felt themselves to be in a sea of troubles

after they were weaned from their mother’s breast milk. Then they would be

deprived of their mother’s love, since she had to take care of the next

baby. Those were the days of the prehistoric humans. One should remember

that even in those prehistoric days, some portion of the Vedas was

composed, chiefly by the so-called family people. The life of the

libertines was just like that of the animals…”

“It was not easy to know the fathers of children even in the case of the

so-called householders, far less in that of the libertines. Children would

know only their mothers. And after they were weaned, they would forget

their mothers also. Thus being deprived of motherly love and affection at a

very early age, they had no opportunity to develop the sweeter and finer

sensibilities of the human mind. The human mind, the human intellect, was

nipped in the bud; those people had no opportunity to blossom, to gladden

the heart of the world with their sweet joy.” (NSS, Disc# 9, Shivokti-2)

Unfortunately this very situation from the days of old is also rampant now

in this modern world, most notably in our so-called first world nations.

That is the tragedy in this modern era.


By Baba’s divine grace the day is sure to come when all children will grow

up in a loving environment and become great human beings.

Baba says, “Children will become assets of society in the future to the

extent that their parents or guardians discharge their duties properly.”

(Human Society-1)




Here Baba describes more about the tragedies children face in this modern

era in “first-world” nations like America.

Baba says, “If the mother or those with whom the children spend most of

their time is obstinate, the neglected children will, in most cases, become

noticeably obstinate, and they will have to carry this psychic ailment

around with them for a long time…”

“In some families the parents have lost their peace of mind due to

poverty or some other cause and oppress their children with or without

reason. Naturally the children lose respect for their parents, which

further aggravates family indiscipline. The parents have to put up with

more unrest, adding to their lack of peace…”

“Some parents may claim that it is impossible to maintain a balanced

life in an age full of problems, where they are extremely busy with

numerous activities. I maintain, however, that it is possible for an

intelligent parent to avoid the mistakes I have discussed. If parents fail

to carry out their basic duties, I am compelled to say that, although they

live in society, they are guilty of encouraging an antisocial mentality…”

“The main point is this: for want of a little care, children are

deprived of the opportunity to become complete human beings, even though

they have a human structure.”

(Human Society-I, ‘Education’)


By His divine grace everyone’s future is bright and guaranteed as all are

His divine children.

Baba says, “You are all human beings. You are all dignified human beings.

Forget all fissiparous tendencies that sometimes function within the human

mind. Remember, you are the loving children of Parama Purus’a, and your

goal is Parama Purus’a. Your goal is the Supreme Entity.” (AV-14)


PS Intro: In the below song, the flower garland stands as a metaphor for

superficial worldly achievements such as prestige, money, wealth, name and

fame etc. And the thorns on that garland represent a bewildered and chaotic

state of mind– devoid of any peace. That is the ongoing metaphor

throughout the song. In addition this song also teaches us that one should

not ask anything from Parama Purusa; one should only say, ‘O Parama Purusa,

what is best for me You know better than I, that is why I request You to

utilise me per Your desire.’

“Toma’r deoya’ jayer ma’la’ jayer ma’la’…” (PS 4840)


Baba, the garland which You have given is filled with sharp, piercing

thorns that burn and sting. Baba, in this relative world human beings long

for and desire name, fame, and prestige. Those worldly enticements are the

flower garland. Yet side by side when You give those very worldly gains and

enticements, i.e. when they receive that flower garland, then invariably

that creates huge angst and frustration in their life. That is those angsts

and frustrations act as sharp thorns that scratch and cut them. This is the

way it all works; this is the natural law.

Baba, whatever You give with the right hand, You take back with the left

hand. That means with one hand You give wealth, prestige, and power,

according to people’s desire and with the other hand You grab their peace,

tranquility and happiness. That means when human beings ask You for money,

name and fame, and occult powers etc, then You grant those things. But then

their mind becomes intoxicated with that and they become completely

restless and lose all their mental peace. They become mad and insane and

invite their own destruction.

All around we see that high dignitaries and heads of state have to give up

their freedom and instead live like jail birds– surrounded 24hrs by

parliamentary bodyguards. Such persons of high social standing cannot go

anywhere. So on the one side they receive a high post, yet on the other

side their entire existence is like living in one jail. That is what it

means that He gives with one hand and takes back with the other. And that

is why those with huge wealth and social status have terrible tension in

their lives and all day long they suffer from so many psychic diseases.

Mental peace and contentment are beyond their imagination. Baba, in

exchange for worldly gains they lose their inner peace. Even then due to

the magical spell of maya people chase after those things. This is the

eternal liila of Parama Purusa.

Baba, Your liila is unfathomable, You entice and appease people with

khelana’*, i.e. toys; and You dress them in King’s garments etc– that is

You present them with prestige, post, and power. And in their ignorance

those common people become satisfied with those toys and they believe that

they are really a King. They actually think that their worldly empire will

last up to eternity. This is their false assumption. Baba, in this

transitory world You make everyone dance in tune, melody, and rhythm.

According to Your direction You make everyone move. Yet in their egoistic

way they think they are doing everything. Baba, this liila of Yours is

beyond human understanding.

Baba, please remove all the ignorance from my mind so that I will not

run after transitory worldly gains. Make my mind straight so I only cry and

long for You– for You alone…


* “Bholao kata khelana’ diye”= This line depicts how He tries to appease

devotees with various toys– i.e. worldly enticement– instead of giving

them Himself. In the following quote Baba explains more about all this.

Baba says, “A mother tries to coax and cajole her crying son, and offers

him some toys to divert his attention, so that she can work in the kitchen.

The child stops crying and forgets his mother for the time being. But if he

is a bit naughty, he will again resume his effort to reach the breast of

his mother. He will throw away the toys and cry for Mother only. And the

mother ultimately has to come and take the child on her lap. A devoted

sa’dhaka is like this child. He or she will say, “O Father, this world that

I see all around is a plethora of toys. This world took its birth at a

certain time, so it will also come to an end at some time or other. This

world has not been given permanently to anybody.” If God is asked whether

He has given this world-toy to anybody forever, He will not be able to

answer, for He does not give things forever. He gives with the right hand

and takes away with the left.”

Konuha’sa kiimananda nittam pajjalite sate.

“This means that Parama’tman has given you a rope, one end of which you are

holding, and on the other end of which He has lit a fire. Sooner or later

the fire will burn all of the rope and your hand as well. Hence one should

not ask anything from Parama’tman.” (SS-21)


There was a General Darshan given on June 3, 1990 during the time of DMC–

sometime after Baba had already delivered His RU address. And at that

General Darshan, Sadguru Baba graciously gave the purport of the above

Prabhat Samgiita, song #4840. In giving this purport, Baba spoke in both

Bengali and Hindi. Printed below is the transcription of the original Hindi

section followed by the English translation of both the Hindi and Bengali


Here is the original Hindi Section as spoken by Baba:

“Param Purus se kuch ma’ngnii nahiin hai…Ma’ngne se uska’ natiija’ akhir

tak accha’ nahiin hota’ hai. Tum tuma’re ba’re men jitana’ ja’nte ho,

tuma’re ba’re men jitanii ja’nka’rii hai, Param Purus usse adhik ja’nte

haen. Isliye tumha’re liye kya’ hona’ ca’hiye, kya’ nahiin hona’ ca’hiye,

kya’ tumha’rii sahii ca’h hae, tumse Param Purus acchii tarah se ja’nte haen.”

“Param Puruse ke bolte habe, ‘Tumha’ri jo khva’his ho, vahii karo jii. Tum

jo ca’hate ho, vahii karo jii. Mae kuch nahiin kahana’ ca’hata’ hun’.”

(June 3, 1990)

Here is the English translation of both the Hindi & Bengali sections:

“One should not ask anything from Parama Purusa. Why should you invite

trouble by asking. Ultimately the result of making such a request will not

be good.”

“With the left hand He is giving something and with the right hand He is

taking back. He is giving money and wealth and You have to give back Your

mental peace. Do not start making requests of Him. Do not move on that path.”

“What you know about yourself, and how much you are aware about yourself,

Parama Purusa knows more than you. So, what is good for you, what is not

good for you, what is your real need, Parama Purusa knows better than you.”

“You should say to Parama Purusa, ‘Do according to Your desire, do whatever

You like, I do not want to ask anything from You’.” (June 3, 1990)



In this entire song– Prabhat Samgiita #4840– the key point that Baba is

gracing us with is that we are not to ask anything from Parama Purusa. That

is the golden guideline which He has given in this song. However, around

the globe, it is the common custom of human beings to ask something from

Parama Purusa. Irrespective of their nationality and religion etc, those

who believe in God often want some worldly thing from their Lord– rather

than desiring the Lord Himself. And in that case they ask for Him for

mundane things like money, prestige, etc. Most religions are sunk in this

faulty approach. But Baba’s dharmic teaching is the exact opposite. He

guides us that we are not to ask anything from Parama Purusa. That is why

in Ananda Sutram He has given, “Pra’rthana’rcana’… bhramamu’lam” (Sutra

no. 3-11). In that sutra, Baba is pointedly warning us not to engage in

such requests. One should not ask for any worldly things from Parama Purusa

as that will invite one’s demise– i.e. one will lose their peace and

tranquility. This is His divine teaching.


The Bright Future of Sadhakas

Baba says, “Degradation is impossible for those who have accepted the

Supreme Being as the ideal of their life. Indulging in mean thoughts only

engenders crude vibrations in the citta, as the result of which you will

have to take rebirth in lower species in order to suffer the lowly

samskaras created by those crude vibrations.” (SS-3, p.63)

Note: In His above guideline Baba is warning us about what happens to those

who fail to follow the path of sadhana. Thus sincerely doing twice daily

meditation is a must for one and all. Otherwise they will suffer the fate

which Baba describes above.



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