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Subject: Re: Domestic Issue: What Will You Do In This Situation?
Date: Tue, 8 Jan 2013 12:46:10 +1100
From: Marika and George Baumann
To: AM-GLOBAL

Baba

== RE: DOMESTIC ISSUE: WHAT WILL YOU DO IN THIS SITUATION ==

~ Part 2 ~

(Note: This is the second letter in this series; as it is very short, the first appears in its entirety below. – Eds)

Namaskar,
Of course what the girls did was wrong from both Ananda Marga and ordinary moral perspective. They cheated when they spiked the drinks, which is a form of lying. This is against Satya. Not only that, but they showed disrespect to the parents of one of them, and went against their wishes.

And not only that, but they secretly administered medication to them, which might have caused them real harm had they drank all of it. Where was their love for all creation, not to speak of their love for the parents of one of them?

So there is no doubt that the girls acted in an unethical way when average girls of that age would have been aware that what they did was wrong. Therefore, assuming that these girls are of average social and emotional intelligence, some form of negative consequence for them should flow from this.

In our family, and families we know, if something like this occurred, some significant privilege would certainly be withdrawn, like an exciting holiday cancelled or no computer access for a year. But much more important is to talk to one-another. If the girls did this out of unthinking teenage silliness or naughtiness, they should be given a stern lecture about thinking before they act, then forgiven if genuine contrition is shown. If there was malice in it, it is much more difficult. It may even involve therapy or mediation (not to be confused with meditation, though that is always good too!). Ideally, direct communication, involving really listening to each other should come first.

Reporting the incident to the police, and what is more, apparently pressing charges against them is something which I, as the often unsatisfactory father of three daughters and a son have never contemplated or had to contemplate. Nor has my wife. Nor have any of our friends. On the other hand, they never put drugs in our drinks or any equally immature or malicious acts like that.

Thinking about this particular situation, I would speculate that there must have been a great distance (lack of real connection and communication) between parents and children. Unfortunately being the grown-ups, parents are usually more responsible for this than their children.

The ten o’clock curfew for internet use seems reasonable, but this should normally be relaxed on some occasions, e.g. weekends and school holidays. Maybe the parents were fearful that while they were not watching, the girls might access inappropriate material on the internet. Whether this was a reasonable fear or not in this case, I don’t know.

But the fact that the parents went to the police and had the girls charged is immediately disturbing. Was this the last straw, were the parents at their wits’ end trying to discipline or control these unruly children? Reporting children to police often happens if parents feel physically threatened by their children, which in this case may be justifiable.

Or did they decide to take this action because they either couldn’t (consciously or unconsciously) or didn’t want to approach the children and try to have a deeper relationship with them? Many parents are busy and tired, and because they have no time or energy to develop a really loving relationship with their children, they might see the police as another service, like a school or a doctor.

I believe this is a mistake. Being arrested by the police must be a traumatizing experience for young people. Also, these girls, if charged and convicted, may get a criminal record. This would affect their work and other prospects for the rest of their lives.

So my conclusion is that, unless some of the parties are below average intelligence, or affected by drugs including of course alcohol, or the parents felt for some other reason that the relationship with their children had irretrievably broken down, reporting this matter to the police and pressing charges would not be advisable.

All the best,
George.

From: “Sushiila” s.u.bhakti@lab…edu
To: am-global@earthlink.net
Subject: Domestic Issue: What Will You Do In This Situation?
Date: Sun, 06 Jan 2013 11:21:48

Baba

== DOMESTIC ISSUE: WHAT WILL YOU DO IN THIS SITUATION? ==

Namaskar,
Please read the following short article where parents had their teen-aged daughter arrested: “A daughter and her friend allegedly put sleeping pills in the drinks so they could break a rule and use the Internet past 10 p.m.”

According to Ananda Marga philosophy, what is our perspective on this matter? As an Ananda Margii, what you you think should be done in such a circumstance – should the daughter have been arrested?

Awaiting your reply,
Yours in Him,
Sushiila

Girls accused of spiking parents’ milkshakes

A daughter and her friend allegedly put sleeping pills in the drinks so they could break a rule and use the Internet past 10 p.m.

Kate Mather, Los Angeles Times
January 4, 2013

Two teenage girls were arrested in Northern California this week after they used sleeping pill-laced milkshakes to drug one girl’s parents because they wouldn’t let her use the Internet past 10 p.m., police said.

The incident unfolded in Rocklin — about 20 miles northeast of Sacramento — the night of Dec. 28, when the parents fell asleep about an hour after drinking milkshakes their 16-year-old daughter and her 15-year-old friend brought them from a fast food restaurant, Rocklin Police Lt. Lon Milka said Thursday. The parents woke up in the middle of the night feeling “really groggy” with “hangover symptoms,” Milka said, but had not been drinking.

When they woke up again the next morning, they still felt “really odd,” Milka said, and “figured that something was wrong.”

The couple went to the Rocklin police station and picked up $5 drug kits typically used by parents to test their children for drugs, Milka said. After the tests picked up traces of drugs, the parents contacted authorities and took their daughter to the police station.

Investigators later learned that the girls crushed prescription sleeping pills and put them in the milkshakes so the parents would fall asleep and they could use the Internet past the 10 p.m. curfew.

“Mom and Dad had the Internet cut off nightly at 10 p.m.,” Milka said. “The daughter wanted to use it past 10 because I guess they’re like most teenagers and the Internet is their life.”

The parents didn’t end up drinking all of the milkshakes because they were “kind of gritty” and “really funny tasting,” Milka said.

The girls, whose names were not released because of their ages, were booked on Dec. 31 in Placer County Juvenile Hall on suspicion of conspiracy and willfully mingling a pharmaceutical into food. Milka said it would be up to prosecutors to decide whether charges would be filed.

Milka said it was unclear what websites the girls accessed while the parents were asleep.

“It’s the first I’ve ever heard of it,” he said. “Kids are crazy these days.”

http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-0104-parents-drugged-20130104,0,6488064.story

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Date: Wed, 09 Jan 2013 21:59:48 -0000
To: am-global@earthlink.net
From: mahesh/matt mjp@broadview…
Subject: Cause & Treatment of Various Psychic Diseases

Baba

== CAUSE & TREATMENT OF VARIOUS PSYCHIC DISEASES ==

Namaskar,
The following letter addresses various psychic diseases and their cure. In the life of a sadakha, a disease-free mind is essential. If one suffers from any psychic disease they should try to remove it so they can move forward properly. Otherwise, that mental disease will impede their progress.

Fortunately, if anyone practices sadhana regularly, their psychic disease(s) will naturally dissipate and disappear. If anyone is deeply involved in meditation and doing very good sadhana, by His grace, then their psychic disease will quickly be removed from the mind.

The tricky part is that the mind burdened by a psychic disease cannot do deep sadhana; that is the problem. Hence, psychological training in the form of auto-suggestion and outer suggestion is needed to get rid of the disease. And that is what is discussed below.

SHE SAW A GHOST AND DIED

“I had a certain acquaintance whose garden was quite large. One night his wife thought she saw a ghost in a corner of the garden. In Bihar, a female ghost is called “cuŕeil” in Hindi. At the sight of the imagined ghost she cried out in fear, and fainted. She never regained consciousness and died some time later. The next night the same gentleman came out of his house at the same time. He also thought he saw the ghost. “Why should people have to die one after the other in this way?” he thought. Stepping forward to strike at the imaginary ghost with a stick, he suddenly saw that it was nothing but a bush which, in the moonlight, looked just like a human being. His wife had died for nothing, terrified by the deceptive image of a bush. Most so-called ghosts are like this. Towards the end of the rainy season rotting vegetation often gives out a gas, called marsh gas or will-o’-the-wisp, which bursts into flame when it comes in contact with oxygen. This burning gas may easily be taken to be a ghost. This is how a fear complex can develop.” (1)

“The defeatist complex also strikes deep in the human mind. “How will I possibly be able to do the work? How will I be able to fight against such heavy odds? How will I be able to do my job properly?” Because people think like this before they act, they are unable to do their work properly. The defeatist complex weakens their minds. Had they been bolder they would have been more successful.” (1)

“One must uproot all sorts of complexes from the mind. No complex should be entertained in the physical, psychic or spiritual spheres because all are equally detestable.” (1)

HEADS WILL FALL BACKWARDS

“Due to a defective social order. Some people have to live like slaves in the society and thus suffer from a strong inferiority complex – their heads remain forever bowed – while others inherit vast wealth as well as family pride from their ancestors and keep their heads held so high that at times it appears as if it will fall backwards. These complexes are due to a defective social order. The complex is in the crude physical world and in the socio-economic strata.” (2)

“All are the progeny of Parama Puruśa. Even so, some people think that because they are endowed with less intellect, knowledge, financial capacity or physical strength than others, they are inferior. Such an inferiority complex contracts their minds and retards their progress. It must be overcome.” (1)

CAUSE OF DEFEATIST PSYCHOLOGY

“At the very outset, the fascist exploiters select a weak community which inhabits a region rich in natural resources. The fascists socially and culturally uproot the victimized community by imposing a foreign language and culture on them. Because the local people cannot easily express their individual and collective feelings and sentiments in a foreign language, they develop a defeatist psychology and inferiority complex with respect to the exploiters. This defeatist psychology destroys the natural spiritedness and will to fight of the local people, and the fascists skillfully utilize this golden opportunity. The primary interest of the fascist exploiters is to gradually suck the vitality of the local community so that they can pillage and plunder their natural resources, but if necessary they will even obliterate the local community from the face of the earth.” (3)

“A person must not suffer from an inferiority complex, because that person and his or her friends and siblings are all the progeny of the same Progenitor. They come from the same origin [as all]; they are of the same Father. So why should a person suffer from any inferiority complex? Again, you should not suffer from a superiority complex, because all are your brothers and sisters. All are the glorious children of that Supreme Father. No, you must not develop any superiority complex.” (4)

AN OLD WIDOW OF, SAY, 100 YEARS

“Nobody is unimportant, nobody is insignificant. Each and every existence is valuable. And the life of an old widow of, say, 100 years, is also not meaningless. Her existence also bears certain significance. If an ordinary ant dies a premature death, the equilibrium of the entire universe will be lost. Nobody is unimportant, so you must not develop the psychology of helplessness or hopelessness or defeatist complex or fear complex, because the Supreme Father, the Supreme noumenal entity is always with you.” (5)

“Why should you suffer from a fear complex or an inferiority complex, when the Supreme Father is your father, when you all are the children of the same Father; why should you suffer from any inferiority complex or any fear complex, when the Supreme Father is with you? You are not weak. You are very strong, because the Almighty Father, the omnipotent Supreme Father, is with you to help you – so you must not encourage the psychology of weakness, or an inferiority complex or a fear complex. He is with you, always He is with you to help you. You are never alone.” (6)

SOME SCRIPTURES ARE THE WORST ENEMY OF HUMAN SOCIETY

“In the field of spirituality there must not be any complex, neither fear complex nor shy complex nor any other complex. So the scriptures saying that if you do not obey Him you will go to Hell, like this, these scriptures are the worst enemy of human society. Because these scriptures create a complex, a fear complex, in the human mind, and that fear complex creates disparity in this human society.” (7)

FLOWER THAT DIES BEFORE IT BLOSSOMS

“There cannot be any complex in the spiritual level or existential sphere. In spirituality there is no complex because every person has contact with Parama Puruśa on a purely personal level. There is no third existence between them. There are only two – the spiritualist and the Parama Pitá [Cosmic Father]. Spiritualists move towards the Cosmic Father and sit on His lap. To do this is every one’s birthright. Nobody can be debarred from doing so on the pretext of inferior caste, colour, education or poverty. Since this is every one’s birthright there cannot be any complex in the arena of spirituality. The defective social order injects an inferiority complex in the mind which often persists even when people enter the spiritual field. They feel that as the Cosmic Father is so great, how can they, being of low caste or poor or uneducated, go to Him? This is called mahimnabodha in the shástras [scriptures]. But one should not forget that the relation of father and child exists. Even if the father is a great scholar, the uneducated child will go to him and ask for whatever he requires because he or she has affection for the father. Just now I said that in the field of spirituality there cannot be any complex, but there are complexes due to social defects. It is our spiritual duty to rectify the social order. If we fail, there may not be good spiritualists. Even those who have the potentiality to become good spiritualists may not progress. They may be like a flower that dies before it blossoms.” (2)

“I cannot allow this to happen. For this reason the theory of Prout has been given so that every person can progress speedily in the field of spirituality without any complex.” (2)

EVERYONE IS THE CHILD OF THE COSMIC FATHER

“In the existential sphere, too, there should not be any complex because everyone is the child of the Cosmic Father. If there is any superiority complex, it should be the common one that one is the child of the Cosmic Father who is so great, so potent. One may only have this superiority complex. Whatever people possess is given by the Cosmic Father and therefore no individual has the right to have a superiority complex. So in the existential sphere there is no reason for any complex to remain. In other words it can be said that there will be a common complex that all are the children of the Cosmic Father, no one being inferior and no one being superior.” (2)

CRIPPLED BY CREATING A TREMENDOUS COMPLEX

“Kabir and Mahaprabhu launched open revolts against the casteism which had kept Indian society crippled by creating a tremendous complex of self-aggrandizement in one section of society and a terrible inferiority complex in another section. Although Mahaprabhu had been born into a well-known Brahman family, he suffered many insults because of his opposition to casteism. Despite this he remained steadfast in his ideology.” (8)

YOU MUST NOT SAY, “OH, LORD, I AM A SINNER…”

“Now, in this process of spiritual march, march towards the spiritual nave, humanity sometimes for want of proper guidance was depraved, was degenerated, and under such circumstances it suffered from the psychology of sinning, a sinning complex. I told you that you must not say, “Oh, Lord, I am a sinner, I am a sinner,” because it will develop the psychology of sinning. If you are not actually a sinner, you will be a sinner if you say this, if you think this. It is a defective psychic approach. And some people exploited this sinning complex of human beings and created so many differences, so many groups, so many diversities, in this human society which is actually a singular entity.” (9)

GOOD PEOPLE WILL STAY AWAY FROM EGO

“Ego is the root cause of downfall. If ego is present then downfall is inevitable. How is ego manifested in individual life? It expresses itself through superiority complex. I am great and everyone else is small, degraded, lowly. “I am superior” – this feeling or thought is called “superiority complex” in English and mahámanyatá in Sanskrit. Due to this sense of ego one behaves poorly with others. For this reason it is said in the scriptures: trińádapi suniicena. For example, a blade of grass remains underneath everyone. It has no ego, yet it possesses more qualities than anyone. Human beings should keep themselves aloof in every way from superiority complex and pride. Good people will stay away from ego. Why will they do so? Good people know what are the causes behind the rise of ego. One person has knowledge, another has money. A good person knows that this money and this knowledge is not theirs; it belongs to Parama Puruśa. Today it has come to me and again it will leave me. I had none of these when I was born and at the time of death they won’t remain with me. For this reason good people will stay away from ego.” (10)

THERE ARE MANY COMPLEXES THAT PLAGUE HUMAN BEINGS

People are prone to various complexes: superiority complex, inferiority complex, fear complex, defeatist complex, sinner’s complex, melancholia, phobia, schizophrenia, and shyness etc. Those who do not suffer from any of these are in a balanced state – samatabhava.

GAINING SUCCESS IN LIFE

We must also remember Baba’s timeless teaching: To do anything o successfully one must have a free mind – a balanced mind. The mind should be free from all complexes.

Baba says, “To attain complete success in life, the fourth principle is samata’bha’va, that is, mental equipoise, mental balance. There must not be any complex in the mind — neither superiority complex nor inferiority complex.” (11)

COMPLEXES ARE A PSYCHIC DISEASE

MENTAL EQUIPOISE IS A GREAT QUALITY

Here Baba furthermore points out the negative nature of complexes and He simultaneously directs us to keep samata’bha’va, mental balance.

Baba says, “Complex of any sort – superiority or inferiority – is a psychic malady, a mental disease. You must maintain a psychic balance.” (12)

Thus mental balance is one central target in life. We should aim for this in all circumstances. Once again, we should be vigilant to keep the mind balanced, by His grace. Psychic equipoise is one of the best attributes a person can have.

Baba says, “Maintaining a balanced mind is one of the greatest virtues. There are no complexes in a balanced mind. One neither feels inferior nor superior to others; one never fears anybody nor ever gets perturbed. One maintains a mental balance.” (2)

So by striving for and achieving mental balance, so many other plus points arise. The mind will be complex-free, enabling people to generate positive relations with one and all. Because when one does not feel that they are better or worse than the next person, then it becomes easy to establish a heart-felt connection. So that is one distinct benefit.

In addition, Baba tell us that when one is in a state of psychic equipoise, they will neither be fearful nor full of anxiety. They will remain in a natural state of ease and contentment – not burdened by any negative tendencies of the mind.

All these positive outcomes are a tremendous boon for human existence.

WHEN SAMATA’BHA’VA IS LOST

In contrast when due to lack of sadhana we are unable to attain a state of equipoise or if we lose that stance of mental balance, then that invites numerous problems for oneself and for others also.

In that case we are unable to weigh the pros and cons of life and end up making poor decisions – lowering our own position and misleading others as well.

For example suppose Ram or Shyam prematurely forms an opinion about others, a conclusion which is completely wrong or off-base. Then that invariably leads to problems and harms others. In that case, in the future nobody will want to listen to Ram or Shyam’s suggestions or guidelines. Then Ram or Shyam’s ability to help others will be severely hampered. Such pitfalls come from a lack of mental balance.

That is why – among other things – Baba warns to stay balanced and not proceed hastily.

Baba says, “Do not judge anyone to be good or bad hastily, nor express your opinion.” (13)

As we can feel, Baba’s specific guideline is that with a cool mind – a balanced mind– we should view all the things in life, otherwise countless problems will crop up.

Considering all the angles, it is clear that keeping the mind free from all complexes is one key point because with a balanced mind we can help ourselves and help others. And that is the greatest utilisation of this human life. Hence as long as we are alive this should be our approach. Here following is Baba’s dharmic mandate.

Ananda Marga philosophy says, “You should remain in this world and do your duty with a balanced mind.” (14)

HOW TO OVERCOME SUPERIORITY COMPLEX

Here Baba supplies us with the special formula for keeping mental balance and not succumbing to any type of superiority complex.

Baba says, “People must always bear in mind that ‘Whatever I have acquired is all by the grace of Parama Purus’a. If He decides that I should not possess wealth [or any other quality etc], He will take it away at any moment He wishes.’ So no one should feel pride about anything under any circumstances.” (15)

By seeing everything as Baba’s fathomless grace then we will not get puffed up with vanity and instead will be able to maintain mental
balance at all times.

HOW TO OVERCOME INFERIORITY COMPLEX

In His below teaching Baba teaches us how to keep mental balance and not fall into the depths of an inferiority complex.

Baba says, “What about the inferiority complex, that makes you think of yourself as inferior to others? You must have noticed that the minds of those who are less educated become a bit diffident: ‘We don’t have much learning.’ Again, those who are poor suffer from a similar diffidence. ‘We are so poor, and have no one to turn to.’ But what causes such diffidence? [They forget that] everyone on this earth is a child of Parama Purus’a; no one is big or small. All are related as brothers and sisters.” (16)

By remembering we are all the beautiful expressions of that Divine Entity Parama Purusa, then no inferiority complex can creep into the
mind. Then we will keep our mental balance.

THIS FEELING IS VERY DANGEROUS

Baba says, “When samata’bha’va [mental equipoise] is lost, then one begins feeling that there is a group of people far inferior to oneself. Such a pattern is to be observed in the case of people who have come to the city from the village. They say that they don’t feel like returning to the village, as the villagers are illiterate and under-developed. This feeling is very dangerous. And if such feelings creep into the mind as a result of having acquired a little intellectual knowledge, the chances of developing this complex are much greater in the realm of spirituality, when a sa’dhaka begins feeling somewhat elevated with the development of some occult powers and the feeling of a little bliss. In the second stage of spiritual practice every sa’dhaka faces this test. One must be very, very cautious, so that vanity may not develop.” (17)

BALANCED MIND NEEDED TO TEACH AND TO LEARN

Baba says, “The third fundamental of education is that teachers and students should have a balanced mind.” (18)

In His above teaching Baba guides us that mental balance is needed in order to both guide and learn from others.

BABA’S BLESSING

Baba says, “In this universe all entities are divine; only people have to realize it. Nobody is helpless or alone in this universe. We have mundane, supramundane and spiritual relationships with the universe. So it is the bounden duty of human beings to expand their mental arena because basically all finite entities have the inherent wont of universal pervasion. Their goal is the Supreme Entity who is free from limitations. Human beings will have to expand themselves so much that they will go beyond the fetters of limitations. There cannot be and should not be an inferiority or superiority complex in anybody. Those who preach individual racial superiority are committing sins. They are going against human dharma.” (19)

Namaskar,
at His lotus feet,
Mahesh

Note 1: WESTERN PHILOSOPHY IS LAGGING FAR BEHIND

On this key and critical subject of mental complexes and achieving a balanced mind, western philosophy is far, far behind. Only Ananda Marga philosophy can shine such a bright light on this issue.

REFERENCES:
(1) Ananda Vacanamrtam – 7, How Should a Devotee Behave?
(2) Ananda Vacanamrtam – 5, The Social Order and Superiority and Inferiority Complexes
(3) Proutist Economics, Economic Exploitation of Bengal)
(4) Ananda Vacanamrtam – 30, Hara’s Seven Secrets
(5) Subhasita Samgraha – 12, The Noumenal Cause and the Personal God
(6) Ánanda Vacanámrtam – 34, Be Free from All Complexes
(7) Ananda Vacanartam – 12, The Starting Point and the Last Point
(8) Human Society – 2, The Vipra Age
(9) Ananda Vacanartam – 12, The Real Value of the Human Entity
(10) Ananda Vacanamrtam – 9, “Always Do the Kiirtana of the Lord”
(11) Ananda Vacanamrtam – 30, Samatábháva
(12) Kolkata Dec 2 ’79
(13) Caryacarya – 2, ‘Society’ chapter, pt #41
(14) Subhasita Samgraha – 21, ‘Jaeva Dharma & Bhagavata Dharma’
(15) Ananda Vacanamrtam – 16
(16) Discourses on Krsa and the Giita
(17) ‘Dialogue of Shiva and Parvatii- 3’
(18) Prout in a Nutshell, ‘Talks On Education’
(19) A Few Problems Solved – 6, Universality in Race, Language, Religion and Culture

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