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From: Mununda@fourlinks….
To: am-global@earthlink.net
Subject: Where Should I Educate My Child
Date: Tue, 19 Mar 2013 21:06:55

Baba

This entire email is composed of 3 parts:
(1) Posting: Where Should I Educate My Child
(2) Trailer Quote: Correct This Mistake in Your Ananda Marga Books

(#) Prabhat Samgiita #2429;

Each section is demarcated by asterisks (***).

== WHERE SHOULD I EDUCATE MY CHILD ==

Namaskar,
One day Baba’s laokik brother was contemplating where to send his son, Niltu, for his schooling.

Although his plan was to ask Baba for advice, first he brought the matter to various Dadas for their thoughts and suggestions. They were telling him to send his young boy Niltu to one of those prestigious, non-margii schools in Kolkata that offered so-called top-notch facilities and a “high-standard of education”.

After discussing the matter with numerous acaryas, he approached Baba for His suggestion.

Everyone was thinking that Baba will also suggest a fancy school in Kolkata for Niltu to pursue his studies. But that was not Baba’s reply. Instead Baba advised that Niltu should attend the school in Ananda Nagar and get his education there.

Those who heard this felt surprised because those days Ananda Nagar was lacking even the most basic facilities. Yet it was Baba’s firm recommendation that Niltu should do his schooling on our Ananda Marga Master Unit. Ultimately, Niltu attended our Ananda Marga schools in Ananda Nagar.

THE WAY BABA DID WITH GAUTAM

That case of Niltu’s education is not an isolated one. When Baba’s first laokik son Gautam was living with Him – those days before 1970 – then he too attended an Ananda Marga school.

This stands as one clear path for raising our own children, as well as guiding others, if they ask our suggestion.

ANANDA MARGA / NEO-HUMANIST EDUCATION

The main idea is that our Guru has created one beautiful, unique approach: Neo-humanistic education. We need only to accept it and bring it into practice. Naturally there will be a “learning curve”, but the more we practically adopt neo-humanistic learning centers / Ananda Marga schools in our own lives, the better and more established those schools will become. We should not sit back and wait for others to make our Ananda Marga schools famous and well-reputed. We should step forward.

As we know, the Ananda Marga system of neo-humanistic education is the solution for the present-day crisis in schools. But, if in place of using or recommending our Ananda Marga schools, we follow another path, then that is not at all helpful. Rather, it will hinder or even halt progress. The situation may become more complicated and the problem may multiply.

Here Baba guides us how the Ananda Marga system of education aims at the all-round development of the human personality. Neo-humanistic education recognises all realms of life: Physical, psychic, social, moral, and spiritual. In contrast, other systems of education, especially western / materialistic approaches, fall far short of the mark. They merely train students to be money-making machines. They do not address high ideals like a sense of duty, sacrifice, service, or spiritual outlook – all of which are pillars for making an ideal human being. Such qualities are entirely lacking in the western model.

“Defective systems of education also strike a blow at pra’na dharma’…Ananda Marga is ever vigilant in this regard. The Ananda Marga system of education has been formulated in such a way that the fundamental pra’na dharma’ of humanity has been fully recognised. The educational system of our schools is based on the principle of pra’na dharma. It includes the study of various aspects of modern branches of human knowledge, as well as the development of qualities such as reverence, good manners, humility, dignity of labor, social consciousness etc. The western system of education has miserably failed to inculcate these rare qualities in the students minds.” (1)

OUR MODEL OF NEO-HUMANISTIC EDUCATION

IMPORTANT TENETS AND AIMS:

As we know, our neo-humanistic educational model aims for the all-round development of the human personality. Here are a list of topics, approaches, and strategies that are inculcated in our educational system:

1. Emphasis placed on duty, sacrifice, service, and cosmic outlook: These qualities can be inculcated only through sadhana, a spiritual, God-centered vision, as well as via role-models who verily embody these principles. Perhaps above all else, this is the absolute specialty of Ananda Marga and our neo-humanistic model.

2. Infusing within the student a sense of inquiry and reflection: What is life? Children should be encouraged and taught to contemplate and discuss the true value of human life. With sadhana and proper guidance, they will easily understand how they should conduct themselves in order to reach the Goal.

3. Asking and answering big questions:
(a) Who am I?
(b) From where have I come?
(c) What is the destination of my life?
(d) What happens after death?
(e) What is my relation with this creation?
(f) Under Whom do I take shelter?
(g) What is the purpose of life and death?

All these queries, which are verily absent from the present-day western model of education, are key principles of neo-humanistic education. We are to cultivate within the student a broad vision and empower them with the ability and insight to realize their place in this cosmos. By addressing such grand philosophical teachings through practical daily circumstances and stories, students gain tremendous courage and strength to persevere in life and attain the Goal.

4. Practicing sadhana regularly: Without dharma sadhana, the mind cannot develop properly. Baba guides us that every child should start sadhana at the age of five. That ensures proper spiritual growth and a healthy mental outlook.

5. Sing and Dance Kiirtan: Devotional chanting and music awaken the finer sentiments and goad the human heart to the path of bhakti. This is verily a blessing for every youth and sadhaka.

6. Learn Prabhat Samgiita: This will help develop one’s relationship with the Supreme Entity, Parama Purusa Baba. Students will learn how music, song, and dance are for channelizing one’s mind towards the Divine. These devotional compositions provide youths with a God-centered vision and awaken one’s tendencies towards both nandan vijiana (aesthetic science) and mohan vijiana (supra-aesthetic science).

7. Teaching yama and niyama: Students must be made to understand – practically and theoretically – the proper meaning of these moral principles. In the general society, there is a lot of misunderstanding about this. BY teaching young students the right meaning of yama and niyama will fortify them with the tools to live properly in society and proceed on the spiritual path.

8. Following a sentient diet: In our neo-humanistic model, food, diet, and nutrition are key components for learning about human health. Students learn that a sentient, vegetarian diet is also in harmony with caring for and respecting the animal and plant kingdoms, as well as the greater ecosystem.

9. Ensuring teachers practice what they preach: All teachers are responsible for upholding a standard of conduct that is consonant with neo-humanistic ideals. There is no scope for hypocrisy: Teachers must emulate what they teach. Thus they will not indulge in any kind of intoxicants – neither nicotine nor tobacco – nor eat non-veg food.

10. Gender-separated classrooms: No co-education will occur once children reach adolescence. This will aid greatly in the transfer of knowledge as students will focus on the lesson and not be diverted elsewhere.

11. Universal Outlook: The hallmark of a neo-humanistic system of education will be the universal approach where all are looked up as being expressions of the One. There will be no scope for narrow-mindedness etc.

12. Subjective approach and objective adjustment: This fundamental idea of our Ananda Marga way of life will be imparted to all students. They will understand first and foremost that the aim of life is the Spiritual Goal – serving and pleasing Him – and that with this aim in mind all kinds of service should be done in the world.

13. Respect: Values such as reverence for parents, teachers, elders, and acaryas etc will be inculcated.

14. And so many more points related with the physical, psychic, emotional, moral, and spiritual development of the child.

All of these above themes and topics are wholeheartedly conveyed and included in our neo-humanistic education curriculum and approach. This will spark a great change.

Thus far, the western system of education has utterly failed to touch any of these ideals and values. This distinct vacuum has led to the downfall and degeneration of western, materialistic society – as well as any portion of the globe that copied the western model.

Here below are Baba’s teachings related with this topic of education, neo-humanistic schools, and child development.

“A THIRST FOR KNOWLEDGE”

“The thirst for knowledge will have to be awakened among students, and reverence, devotion, orderliness and discipline will have to be taught as well.” (2)

“So as I was saying, it will not do to impart education through intimidation. A thirst for knowledge must be awakened, and, to quench that thirst, proper education must be given. Only then will education be worthwhile and develop the body, mind and ideals of the student.” (3)

“Education must awaken the thirst for knowledge in the students’ minds. The students themselves will create environmental pressure by persistent demands for answers to queries like: What is the answer? Is it correct? The longing, “I wish to know…I wish to understand and assimilate the entire universe” should be created. Such a thirst for knowledge should be created in the minds of students…So a tremendous thirst for knowledge must be awakened in the students’ minds. They will constantly pry their teachers, their parents and their neighbours with questions like: Why is this so? What is that? Why does that happen? Why does this not happen? etc. They are ready to assimilate the entire universe.” (4)

“How many teachers try to awaken a genuine thirst for knowledge in their students?” (5)

“Students go to school and sit for examinations in order to pass. Examiners should bear this fact in mind. They should not adopt the rigid position that “Only such-and-such percentage of students will be allowed to pass.” Examiners should take into account only the range of knowledge and the extent of the thirst for knowledge the students possess.” (6)

TEACH CHILDREN UNIVERSALISM

“Children are by nature most inclined towards play, so a thirst for knowledge will have to be awakened in children through the medium of play – children should be educated through play methods. Children are also by nature inclined to listen to fantasies and stories. Through stories children can easily be taught the history and geography of various countries, and they may also be taught the initial lessons of how to practise universalism in their lives. Children love play and stories almost equally, so in their case the two should be equally utilized.” (7)

MOST ADULTS ARE EITHER IGNORANT OR INDIFFERENT

“The mental outlook of children has already been moulded in a particular fashion by the influence of their family environment before they start school. No matter what or how much they learn at school, it is extremely difficult for them to free themselves from the influence of their family. Drawing on what they have learned in the family, the immature minds of children begin to learn about the world and understand it, and to receive ideas and master language so that they can express those ideas. Unhesitatingly they adopt their elders’ way of looking at the world. Hence the primary responsibility for acquainting children with the world lies with their parents or guardians. Children will become assets of society in the future to the extent that their parents or guardians discharge their duties properly.”
“I have no hesitation in saying that today’s adults have not yet developed a scientific method of training children’s minds. Even most so-called educated and refined people, let alone average adults, are either ignorant about or indifferent to the education of their children. Their ignorance may be pardoned, but how can we forgive their indifference? The family into which a child has been born will naturally have to bear the primary responsibility for the physical, mental and spiritual development of that child.” (8)

“GO OUTSIDE AND START SMOKING”

“Speaking of ideals, yet another point comes to my mind, and that is the moral character and conduct of teachers. Many teachers demonstrate a flagrant lack of restraint over their language. There are also teachers who, after discussing the abuses and evils of intoxicants in the classroom, immediately go outside and start smoking. This sets an extremely bad example. If the teachers would just use intoxicants, without saying anything about them, it might not be so bad. But this approach naturally encourages the students to be undisciplined. They will think that the use of such things must be enjoyable, and that their teachers deprive them so that they can enjoy them alone.” (9)

BOTH ARE RESPONSIBLE

“It must be the teachers’ responsibility to impart knowledge, teach restraint in social life, and give instruction about all the various aspects of collective endeavour, but the parents will have to take on most of the responsibility for the moral and spiritual education of the child.” (10)

“INVOKING IMAGINARY GOBLINS OR FRIGHTFUL GHOSTS”

“The method of extracting work by terrorizing the minds of children is not only made use of by a particular type of teacher, it is also often still more harmfully practised by parents. They frighten their children, tell them lies, engage in scurrilous brawls before them, and deceive and torment them; but they still expect that some day their children will become respectable members of society – that their children will bring glory to their family name. When their children are reluctant to drink milk or sleep, they terrify them by invoking imaginary goblins or frightful ghosts. Children initially have no fear, yet a fearful panorama is played out before them. Through this practice the parents may achieve some temporary gain, but even if the children wait a lifetime, they can never be compensated for the harm done to them. Even when these same children attain young adulthood, the thought of ghosts will not leave their minds – ghosts will become their permanent companions.” (11)

“I AM NOT IN FAVOUR OF STARTING COLLEGES” – BABA

“We must start primary schools throughout the entire world to create a spiritual urge amongst the little pupils. I am not in favour of starting colleges; I am in favour of starting primary schools. In the entire world we have got one degree college at Ananda Nagar and thousands of kindergarten schools. That is why it is desirable in the first phase to start many primary schools instead of colleges. Merely opening high schools and colleges without a proper system of education will not serve the purpose. Rather, thousands of kindergarten and primary schools must be started with this new system of education, to create a spiritual urge amongst children throughout the entire world.” (12)

“It is the birthright of everybody to march in this universal march, to move along this path of righteousness. Just show the path to all– just tell them, ‘Oh, human beings, the path is ready for you, you just come!’ Whoever is endowed with a human mind and a human body is entitled to follow this path.” (13)

“TRAINING THIS TURBULENT MIND”

“For this purpose we should have a two-fold approach. For the purpose of training this turbulent mind, what is to be done? One is to get proper education, one is to be imparted with proper education — not general education — in the gospel of, in the idea of Neo-Humanism. This will help human beings in training the mind. And at the same time spiritual practice should go on for proper psychic remoulding. This what we require most. There is no alternative.” (14)

Namaskar,
At His lotus feet,
Mukunda

References:
1. Prout Nutshell – 18, p. 57-8
2. Problems of the Day, pt #33
3. Human Society-1, Education
4. Prout in a Nutshell – 18, Talks on Education
5. Human Society-1, Education
6. Human Society-1, Education
7. Human Society-1, Education
8. Human Society-1, Education
9. Human Society-1, Education
10. Human Society – 1
11. Human Society-1, Education
12. Discourses on Neohumanist Education: Prama-4
13. Neo-Humanism in a Nutshell – 1, p.66
14. Prout in a Nutshell – 18, p.42

The section below demarcated by asterisks is an entirely different topic,
completely unrelated to the above material. It stands on its own as a point of interest.

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Correct This Mistake In Your Ananda Marga Books

Here is one critical publication error done to the discourse “The Chariot & The Charioteer”. The publishers wrongly wrote: “you have eyes in the back of your head”, but it should be “you have eyes in the front of your head”.

Here is more information about this error.

This discourse “The Chariot & The Charioteer” has been published as the first chapter of Subhasita Samgraha part 4 and the first chapter of Ananda Marga Ideology & Way of Life part 5. In both of these editions it is wrongly printed. In addition, this mistake appears in the Electronic Edition of Baba’s Books. Here again is that critical error the publishers made. They wrote: “you have eyes in the back of your head”. This is the bogus line which they have attributed to Baba in His own publication. Yet, everyone knows that human beings have eyes in the front of the head, not the back. So, what they have published in the name of Baba is completely ludicrous.

Here is how they wrongly printed that portion of the discourse.

“O sádhaka! You must forget all your past deeds, all your tales of glory or ignominy, from the memorable moment you start moving on the path of sádhaná or intuitional practice. Do not look back: you have eyes in the back of your head. As indispensable as it is to be cautious and careful, so that the self-created tornado propelling you forward does not dash you down to the ground to ensure your safe journey ahead, you may sometimes throw back a cursory glance and no more.”

Here is how that fateful line should have been published: “you have eyes in the front of your head”.

Indeed by the context of the discourse it is quite evident that Baba was telling that humans have eyes in the front and that one should not look back and drown in thinking about past mistakes. So Baba is warning us: Do not look back, your eyes are in the front – look ahead. That is the spirit of what Baba is telling. But this simple teaching was lost on those publishers. They could not understand.

They wrongly wrote: “you have eyes in the back of your head”, but it should be “you have eyes in the front of your head”.

Here below is corrected version of how this passage should have been published.

“O sádhaka! You must forget all your past deeds, all your tales of glory or ignominy, from the memorable moment you start moving on the path of sádhaná or intuitional practice. Do not look back: you have eyes in the front of your head. As indispensable as it is to be cautious and careful, so that the self-created tornado propelling you forward does not dash you down to the ground to ensure your safe journey ahead, you may sometimes throw back a cursory glance and no more.”

It is unfortunate that such awful mistakes appear in our AMPS books published by Kolkata publications. Everyone should take note of the above and correct their own personal copy of the discourse, “The Chariot & The Charioteer”. Once again, this discourse has been published in two places – first chapter of Subhasita Samgraha part 4 and the first chapter of Ananda Marga Ideology & Way of Life part 5. It is also important to send this correction to the editors of the Electronic Version of Baba’s books so they can update it in the next edition.
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Prabhat Samgiita

“Sakal duya’r khule dile prabhu, Va’ta’yan-pathe a’lo elo…” (P.S. 2429)

Purport:

O’ Parama Purusa, O’ Baba, You are so gracious You have come and opened all the doors and windows,and inundated this world with Your divine effulgence. On the eastern horizon the crimson dawn is visible. The darkness is fast fading away.

Baba, in the past there was the domination of dogma and groupism all around. Countless superstitions and negative samskaras were doing their naked dance. Now, with the presence of Your divine effulgence, in the blink of an eye those dogmas and negative things have disappeared. The creatures of darkness have dissolved into thin air. I do not know where they have gone – they have vanished.

Baba, O’ my Lord, with Your love and punishment You are keeping everyone in Your shelter. Baba, You are graciously caring for everyone…

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To: AM-GLOBAL
Subject: How to Cure Oneself of Nightmares
Date: Sun 03 Mar 2013 21:34:08 +0500 (IST)
From: Ram Sahay Kulshresth

Baba

This email is composed of 2 parts:
(1) Posting: How to Cure Oneself of Nightmares
(2) Trailer Quote: Misunderstanding about Non-Aryans

== HOW TO CURE ONESELF OF NIGHTMARES ==

Note: This is an important letter and the title itself is significant. All too often people think that nightmares come from outside themselves. So they say, “I need to get rid of these nightmares.” But in Ananda Marga we know that nightmares are a product of our own mind – they stem from inside the mind. So just as one does not get rid of heart disease but rather cures oneself of it – since the problem lies within, similarly, we do not get rid of nightmares, we cure ourselves of them. Because nightmares result from a defect within our own mind – from within our own being. And this is something which one can cure.

Namaskar,
Getting proper rest at night is an important part of the life cycle. Unfortunately, many people suffer from nightmares, bad dreams, and other psychic difficulties while “sleeping”. Actually what they are experiencing is not sleep per se, rather they are in a dream state. And this dream state disturbs both their physical and mental well-being.

As Ananda Margiis, we are working with all segments of the population as we implement Baba’s divine teachings. In this endeavour, we come across innumerable people who suffer from nightmares and bad dreams. This is especially so in this materialistic era when many are plagued by psychic problems.

So we should understand well the science behind their difficulties as well as the practical solution.

POOR PARENTING CAN CAUSE LIFELONG NIGHTMARES

As we begin this topic, here is a real-life scenario that is deeply related with this entire issue.

Whether it be in the remote village or an ultra-modern urban center, poor parenting techniques goad mothers and fathers to use fear tactics to discipline their child. They say things like, “If you do not eat your vegetables, then an ugly monster will bite you when you are not looking”, or they say, “If you do not behave, then so-called goblins will invade your bed when you are sleeping”. Most often parents are well-intentioned, but their approach proves disastrous. Their ploys have a deep-seated effect. This can often result in nightmares and fear complexes for the duration of one’s life. So every Ananda Margii should be aware about this as we address this issue of nightmares.

AN IMAGINED IMAGE DURING WAKING HOURS

In a step by step process, we should investigate how the mind works: Specifically why do nightmares have a much more dramatic effect on the mind than one’s imagination during waking hours.

Let’s say during waking hours you are thinking about a so-called ghost, or reading or watching a scary tale. At that time with the immediate support of one’s motor and sensory organs, that person will realise that their fear is unfounded. Because they will look, listen, touch and even smell all around, and rationally come to the conclusion that it was an imagined image. It is not real. So in a flash that problem fades from the mind and one will feel normal, as if nothing ever happened. So it really is not a big deal at all.

WHAT IS TRUE SLEEP

When one is truly sleeping, then the unconscious mind, kárańa mana or causal mind, is awake – and the conscious mind sleeps. In addition the subconscious layers (i.e. the mind which memorises the day to day events and has the power of recollection) of mind cease functioning. That is true sleep. In that case, both body and mind are getting perfect rest. Then one is in a dreamless state. This happens primarily during the first 2 or 3 hours of lying down.

Unfortunately, in this hyper-busy digital era, most spend very little time actually sleeping.

Suppose you are sleeping six hours and the first three you are in deep sleep. That time dreams do not come. After that when sleep is not very deep, the subconscious mind starts functioning. So many ideas and stories are stored in the subconscious mind. And they start streaming across your mental plate. At that time you feel that those stories are real. And you say, after awakening, that you have seen it in a dream.

AN IMAGINED IMAGE FEELS REAL

WHEN THE CONSCIOUS MIND CEASES TO FUNCTION

For most people, during the majority of their “sleep”, the subconscious mind is busy at work. Only the conscious mind ceases functioning. In that case, various images stream across one’s mental plate. And those images seem real because the conscious mind is not functioning. This is known as dreaming.

In other words during the daytime when you are thinking about so-called ghosts, it feels as though you are just imagining the scene. However during the night when in the dream state, that very imagined image seems completely real and one views that image or so-called ghost as reality. Hence you become terrified by the so-called ghost.

So that which you know to be nothing more than your imagination during daytime becomes very real and terrifying at night in a dream state. Why does this happen? Because during daytime, the conscious mind is working and one can verify with their motor and sensory organs what is real and what is not. Whereas during the nighttime the conscious mind is not working. And when the conscious mind is not working there is no verification process with the eyes and ears etc, so the imagined objects become our reality. Such is the power of those nightmares.

As a quick review, when we imagine the so-called ghost and so-called goblins during the daytime in wakeful state, we do not get terrified by them. The reason is very simple. The conscious mind is also at work, interacting with the physical world via the 10 motor and sensory organs. As noted above, this conscious mind can check anything going on all around to determine if it is real or imagined.

However, in the latter part of “sleep”, the subconscious mind projects an image onto the citta (one of the layers of mind) and one starts dreaming, then that dream becomes our living reality. Why? Because the conscious mind is not functioning. The mind is not interacting with the mundane world via the brain and 10 motor and sensory organs. In that case whatever one thinks, i.e. dreams, one experiences as reality.

One might dream that they are in a business meeting; or one might dream of playing a sport; or one might dream of falling from the sky, or one might dream of so many things. And those dreams that a really scary such as when one is confronted by so-called ghosts or robbers, then that is a nightmare. And one accepts that frightening experience as being real.

BABA’S EXAMPLE:

HOW OUR THOUGHTS DURING SLEEP BECOME REALITY

Indeed, in one discourse, Baba describes how one of his cousins would imagine football matches in his sleep and accept those games as being real.

“During sleep when his subconscious mind was functioning and not the conscious mind, the memory of the football match came alive on his mental plate. As the conscious mind was inactive, the subconscious mind could activate the nerve cells directly, so as soon as his vocal chord shouted “goal” his legs, in adjustment with rhythm of the nerve cells and fibre, kicked the ball into the goal. ” (1)

Here the whole point is that when the conscious mind (wakeful state) is not functioning, then the imagined image projected by the subconscious mind becomes so real such that even the physical body gets involved in that scene. That is why dreams can have such a dramatic effect.

MORE ABOUT HOW NIGHTMARES OCCUR

During sleep one might think of so many things: Visiting a certain place, talking to a particular friend, eating a favorite food – so many images might flash in the mental plate that one accepts as being real.

And when those images are of something scary then we call that dream a nightmare. It might be a monster, a serial killer, a so-called ghost, a so-called goblin, a robber, or a ravenous tiger. When we are faced with such horrifying images during our “sleep” due to the activity of the subconscious mind, then we are tortured by those dreams. Even though they are imagined, they are extremely frightening for us because the conscious mind is not active. Because this is not active that is why imagined objects look real i.e. a so-called ghost, a so-called goblin, a robber, or a ravenous tiger.

This happens to so many people and they become terrified. Not only are they scared while dreaming, but the whole next day as well – even for months or even years after. And it can happen for many reasons. A nightmare might be based on something they saw during the day or it might result from an experience as a child. In any case, the mind has been negatively affected and it projects that image during the time of sleep.

“You may have encountered yet another type of demoniacal possession, which does not weaken the conscious mind very much in the wakeful state; but during sleep such strength of mind does not exist, and as a result during sleep, while lying on his back, the person sees a nightmare of an imaginary so-called ghost sitting on his chest. Dreaming is an act of the sub-conscious mind. In the dream state the imaginary so-called ghost of the sub-conscious mind takes form beautifully and repeats verbatim to him the language of his imagination. In the dreamful state he feels stupefied with fear, due to this excessive stupefaction he starts groaning, and people take it to be demoniacal possession. Thus what is generally called a “nightmare”, is usually the vision of a person whom the dreamer had oppressed in the past and whom the weak-minded oppressor now “sees” after that person’s death.” (2)

Such nightmares are so scary that anyone can get affected. For instance, even an Olympic champion boxer may lie down at night and face all kinds of fears and demons while “sleeping” as those dreams become a reality, irrespective of one’s age or worldly status. That nightmare might occur simply because of what one was told as a child, or because of a horror movie, or for some other reason. And these nightmares might plague and disturb a person for their entire life.

FINDING THE CURE

Now that we have investigated what dreams are and how they occur, it is critical that we understand how Baba says we can cure this problem. After all, dreams, nay nightmares, can really plague a person. They can deprive one of sleep and leave one feeling frightened.

Here following then are some of Baba prescribed remedies for curing oneself of nightmares.

PHYSICAL REMEDIES

In the physical sphere there are a few things that can be done:

1. Don’t eat food late at night or sleep on a full belly: When undigested food remains in the stomach at night, then gas forms and that air rises and creates pressure. In result, the mind is affected and scary dreams, or nightmares, often result. Best then is to finish one’s evening meal 2 – 3 hrs before sleep. Going for a short walk after the evening meal is also advisable. Then the food will be properly digested when one goes to bed. That is one way to help combat nightmares on the physical plane.

2. Be sure to sleep on the left side: The best way to sleep is on the left side as that ensures proper digestion. As Baba says the right nostril must be open for proper digestion and that is what happens when one lies on the left side. In contrast, the worst position for sleeping is on the right side as that effectively blocks the right nostril. Sleeping on the back and stomach are also to be avoided. One way to keep from sleeping on the back is to tie something uncomfortable object there – such as an apple-sized rock covered with a cloth – that prevents one from rolling onto their back. In a short while one will get habituated and one will naturally keep off the back and sleep on the left side. In addition during sleep do not keep your hand on your chest as you might think that is one so-called ghost sitting on your chest.

All of the above are Baba’s guidelines from His discourses and reportings.

PSYCHIC REMEDIES

In the psychic plane, there are a few things one can do that will cure one from having nightmares.

First, in the hours just prior to going to bed, do not watch or see negative movies or films and thereby pollute your subconscious mind. In that case those horrifying scenes will bring nightmares. So the best thing is to engage in quiet, peaceful and sentient pursuits – like kiirtana, sadhana, and Prabhat Samgiita – in the hours leading up to bed.

Secondly, one should avoid any arguments or heated discussions just prior to going to bed. Those thoughts and feelings will then create disturbances in the mind during sleep.

The main thing to be aware of is that the conscious mind should not knowingly be involved in degrading or distrubing activities (movies, scary stories etc) directly before bed. And best is to avoid those things entirely. Then the subconscious mind will not be plagued by such thoughts or images during the night.

SPIRITUAL REMEDIES

In the spiritual field also there are practices to be done that will cure oneself from nightmares.

Singing kiirtan directly before going to bed will purify the mind and create a sentient vibration. In that case one will not be disturbed by foul or frightening thoughts during the night.

Secondly, doing mantra japa with one’s ista mantra will certainly elevate the mind above all such lowly thoughts that might create nightmares. The mantras in Ananda Marga are siddha mantras – they have been charged by Sadguru – so repeating one’s ista mantra will certainly cure the mind of all troubles like nightmares etc.

Thirdly, regular sadhana practice of all six lessons will further bring the mind into a positive track. During sadhana, the entire mind is cleansed and bathed. In that case, the subconscious mind is bound to be spiritually vibrated during the night.

The absolute final solution is to do sadhana in a dark cemetery during the night – alone. This type of sadhana will cure one of all such fears. That is the final solution and can be learned from an acarya.

ONE FINAL NOTE

One last thought on this topic is that one should firmly understand that there is no such thing as ghosts and goblins. They do not exist. Therefore any nightmare about ghosts, goblins or any such monster or supernatural being is baseless and irrational. If a person can understand this in the depth of their mind, then that will go a long way in curing oneself of nightmares.

GHOSTS DO NOT EXIST

In the preface to His book, “Strange Experiences”, Baba clearly tells that He does not believe in ghosts and refutes their existence entirely.

“Let me state at the very outset that I am not a believer in ghosts and spirits, demons and devils, or heaven and hell, because I have found no logic behind their existence. I know that whether ghosts and spirits or demons and devils, everything which bears the imprint of the supernatural is only the play of the mind. The appearance and disappearance of such things takes place in the various kos’as [layers] of the mind due to variations or possible variations in physical or mental circumstances.” (3)

In His above teaching, Baba further explains that the entire “ghost” phenomenon occurs within one’s own psyche. As Baba says, it is just a “play of [one’s own] mind”.

Then in the Q & A discourse, “Some Questions and Answers on Ananda Marga Philosophy – Section B”, Baba directly asks and answers this question about ghosts.

“Q. 56 Do ghosts really exist?”

“Ans.: – Those strange figures which we call ghosts are mainly figments of the imagination. When the mind is in a weak or vulnerable state, what was previously created in the imagination now appears to be real.” (4)

So in the above query, Baba tells that not only are ghosts imagined by one’s own mind but that such so-called apparitions tend to occur with unit minds that are “weak” and “vulnerable”.

And finally, Baba issues this most conclusive statement.

Baba says, “Ghosts do not exist.” (5)

Thus under no circumstances should anyone be led to believe or think that Baba or His philosophy supports the existence of ghosts.

“THIS TYPE OF DREAM WE MAY CALL A SUPRAMENTAL VISION”

Baba says, “There is still another type of dream. Even when people are in a deep slumber, there may arise in their sub-conscious minds through their dreams, the prognosis of some good news or bad news, or even a huge calamity. The all-knowing causal or unconscious mind usually cannot express its all-knowingness due to the unsteadiness of the conscious and sub-conscious minds as well as due to its own expressional inability, but sometimes it can awaken in the calm conscious and sub-conscious minds of people in deep slumber visions of past, present or future and those visions overwhelm the sleepers minds. A surging vibrational flow emanating from the fountain head of the unconscious mind and vibrating the sub-conscious mind, is also a sort of dream; and that dream is not insignificant for its cause is the all-knowing causal mind. This type of dream we may call a supramental vision. Sometimes even in the wakeful state the cognitive flow of the unconscious mind penetrates into the subtle mind, as the result of which people even in the wakeful state, with a little concentration, can know events concerning their distant near and dear ones, this is called telepathic vision. Through the concentrated state of this telepathic vision, when conscious mind is more calm and sedate, people can visualize events concerning their distant beloved ones, enacted before their eyes in the external world or feel as if they are seeing them; this is called telepathic clairvoyance. Mistaking such acts as those of spirits many people come to believe in spiritism or spiritology. Truly speaking such incidents have no connection at all with spirits or ghosts. Telepathic vision and telepathic clairvoyance are intrinsically the same as supramental vision. They are born of the inspiration of the unconscious mind, the knower of the universe. To believe in ghosts and spirits is merely to perpetuate the cowardly mentality of the pre-historic people. But compared to supramental vision, the incidence of telepathic vision is very much less frequent, and still less is the occurrence of telepathic clairvoyance due to the activeness of the Kámamaya Kośa or the conscious mind. Nevertheless the supramental vision itself does not occur more than 8 to 10 times in the life of a person. The greater or lesser frequencies of such experiences wholly depends on ones sádhaná (intuitional practices) or saḿskáras (reactive requitals). (One, however, must bear I mind that self-acquired telepathy or self-acquired clairvoyance is something different.) (6)

If you want to read more details on this subject please read Ananda Marga Philosophy, Intuitional Science of Vedas-5 and Faculty of Knowledge-3. If you do not have either one of these discourses than kindly let us know.

MORE ABOUT THE SUBCONSCIOUS MIND

What is the subconscious mind? It is that part of the mind which memorises the day to day events. This aspect of mind is our power of recollection. With this subconscious mind you can remember your friends, what you ate yesterday, what you did 10 days back or 10 minutes back. Everything is stored in the subconscious mind. This subconscious mind does not need help from the indriyas, i.e. sensory and motor organs, to re-create stored images in the mind. For instance, even if your grandmother lives 100 miles away, with your subconscious mind you will be able to visualise your grandmother in your mind. The motor and sensory organs are not needed.

Without the help of the the subconscious mind we cannot do anything substantial because one will not have the required memory or knowledge. One will not even remember one second into the past. One will forget.

The conscious mind only works with the help of motor and sensory organs. When those organs are not functioning the conscious mind cannot do anything. It does not store any information. When you saw the monkey at the store then it is the subconscious mind that memorises that image. Later on when you tell your story about the monkey with the help of the subconscious mind then you will be able to clearly visualise that monkey in your mind.

“TO DREAM IS TO THINK WHILE SLEEPING”

“It has been said, “When a person creates a kingdom in his dream…” What is a dream? To dream is to think while sleeping….”

“During sleep these thoughts, in the absence of contact with the hard realities of the external world, appear to be real. Thus people who are not at all affected in the waking state by propensities of fear, anger, etc., may be deeply affected by them during dreams; because, as I said earlier, in the waking state, people know that they are imagining; but during sleep, they do not realize that the play of their imagination is going on. So during that period their dream-thoughts become hard reality for them.”

“During the time of waking, because there is much resistance from the external reality, there is not much speed of imagination; but during sleep, in the absence of this resistance, there is great acceleration. Within one second people can imagine a vast epic like the Mahábhárata. Sometimes during dreams the dreamers, propelled by such propensities as anger or greed, restlessly move their limbs about. If those moving limbs come in contact with any hard object, the imaginary dream is broken, the dreamer’s sleep is disrupted and the dreamy fantasy woven in nets of imagination comes abruptly to an end.” (7)

“WHY PEOPLE DO NOT ALWAYS DREAM IN THEIR SLEEP”

“Dreaming means thinking or recollecting during sleep. Now the first question that arises is this: Why do people not always think or recollect during sleep? During the wakeful state, people are always thinking or recollecting. Even when people meditate in the wakeful state, they are thinking of, or recollecting, Supreme Consciousness. In the waking state, the mind never remains inactive. Then why does it not always dream during sleep?”

“The answer is, the sleeping state means a state of rest for the mind. But if, before or at the time of sleep, one is tormented with deep sorrow, or becomes overjoyed with extreme happiness, or is afflicted with a serious disease, or is brooding over imaginary pains and pleasures – then during sleep if the gases in the body rise and create vibrations in the nerve cells, one starts thinking and recollecting. That is why people do not always dream during every sleep.” (8)

MEETING BABA IN DREAM

“In the lives of many people, a time may come when their days are full of the thorns of miseries, but at night, during dream, they transcend their pains and pleasures. Then, meeting their Iśt́a in dream, they beam with joy and laughter in the ocean of bliss. All the sufferings and sorrows of their lives, great or small, merge into that indescribable ocean of bliss. Those who experience this type of dream are truly fortunate.”

“Even in the waking state their lives are drenched in the drowsy sweetness of that dreamy atmosphere, and then in their lives, that dream becomes a reality. As a result, the waking state for them becomes meaningless.”

“Then cannot those dreamy persons do any good to the society? Yes, certainly they can, and in a better way. This state of drowsiness is not dullness or crudeness; rather it is the golden opportunity to fully utilize one’s existence by touching the feet of Táraka Brahma, as long as there is life.” (9)

“MAINTAINING A BALANCED MIND”

By Baba’s grace, we have all the tools and teachings to lead a balanced life – free from all complexes and fears, including nightmares. We should help others in this regard as well.

“Maintaining a balanced mind is one of the greatest virtues. There are no complexes in a balanced mind. One neither feels inferior nor superior to others; one never fears anybody nor ever gets perturbed. One maintains a mental balance.” (10)

Namaskar,
Sastaunga Pranam To Baba
Ram Sahay

REFERENCES:
1. Ananda Marga Philosophy in a Nutshell, Part 6
2. Ananda Marga Ideology and Way of Life – 5
3. Strange Experiences, ‘Preface’
4. Tattva Kaomudii – 3
5. Subhasita Samgraha – 4
6. Subhasita Samgraha, part 2
7. Namah Shivaya Shantaya, Disc: 16
8. Namah Shivaya Shantaya, Disc: 16
9. Namah Shivaya Shantaya, Disc: 16
10. Ananda Vacanamrtam – 5

The section below demarcated by asterisks is an entirely different topic,
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Misunderstanding about Non-Aryans

“In the Vedic era, the Aryans used to steal food grains and animals from the non-Aryans to perform their sacrifices and rituals (yajinas). In retaliation, groups of non-Aryans used to attack the Aryans to recover their possessions while they were performing their rituals. These attacks were grossly distorted in the Vedas, which gives the impression that the Aryans were good while the non-Aryans were evil. In fact, the non-Aryans were forced to attack the Aryans to recover their food to ensure their survival. Did the non-Aryans do anything bad? No, they did the right thing.” (PNS-16, p.56)

In India, even today the common public thinks in dogmatic way. That Asuras were destroying the yajina of Aryans. Because of their evil nature. And they believe that Asuras are some type of special creature who has very long teeth and dangerous claws like lions, and horns on their head. And very terrible face. This type of mythological story is propagated. But actually, Asuras were none else than indigenous Indians, people of those days. They were the original inhabitants of India, living there prior to the invasion of Aryans. And nowadays, even today they are condemned as so-called low-caste creatures, by so-called upper-caste people. These Asuras are the unjustly treated community known as harijans which are regarded by upper caste people as so despicable and low. But actually, these are the indigenous people of India.
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From: Kiran
Date: Thu, 21 Feb 2013 21:53:58
Subject: Why Some Marriages Fail in AM
To: am-global@earthlink.net

Baba

This entire email is composed of 3 parts:
(1) Prabhat Samgiita #2429;
(2) Posting: Why Some Marriages Fail in AM;
(3) Trailer Quote: Structural Defects May Be The Cause
Each section is demarcated by asterisks (*).

**** Here begins the Prabhat Samgiita ****

Note: This Prabhat Samgiita is opening the window for how life society will be after the establishment of neo-humanism.

“Sakal duya’r khule dile prabhu, Va’ta’yan-pathe a’lo elo…” (P.S. 2429)

Purport:

O’ Parama Purusa, O’ Baba, You are so gracious; You have come and opened all the doors and windows, and inundated this world with Your divine effulgence. O’ Baba, You are so gracious; You have taken advent and given the divine teaching of neo-humanism and Your universal philosophy. By this way, You have eradicated all dogma and narrow-mindedness. On the eastern horizon the crimson dawn is visible. The darkness has been dispelled. There is a brilliant new era on the rise. The statictiy of narrow-mindedness and misunderstanding is vanishing, by the propagation of Your neo-humanistic philosophy.

O’ Divine Entity, in the past there was the domination of dogma and groupism all around. Countless superstitions, rituals and dogmas were doing their naked dance. In the past there was a lot of division and narrow-minded people had the upper-hand. Now the era has changed.

Now, with the presence of Your divine effulgence, in the blink of an eye those creatures of darkness along with their dogmas dissolved into thin air. With the arrival of Ananda Marga philosophy and neo-humanism, the demons cannot spread their venom anymore – they have all been destroyed. O’ the Embodiment of effulgence and shelter of all, with Your affection and punishment, scorching heat and cool shade, Your love is vibrant. Irrespective in all these situations – good or bad – tough times or good times – Your grace emanates in various ways. You are always present with Your mood of causeless grace. O’ Parama Purusa, You have only one motive – to help jiivas. In Your divine liila, You create all kinds of events – good and bad – yet everywhere Your well-wishing is present. There is no other motive than the welfare of all. Baba, Your grace is always flowing and showering bliss…

== WHY SOME MARRIAGES FAIL IN AM ==

Namaskar,
Here are more points which I think will be helpful for understanding this entire issue of failed marriages.

BEWARE OF INTEREST GROUPS

1) One should be prudent – even skeptical, about receiving advice from stakeholders – ie sometimes even family margiis also carry a bias. For instance, let’s say that in their unit or bhukti, there is a girl or boy nearing 30 years of age and it is obvious that this person needs to get married soon. Then with the intention of supporting them, such people falsely praise that boy or girl up to the sky in order to attract an interested party. Under the notion of helping to marry that older boy or girl, some such people may say things that are not true. Out of sympathy they may say, “Oh he or she is very good and has always been exemplary in our community.” When in fact that is not at all true. Just they are saying like that in order to get that person married. Actually they want to help but what they are doing is not at all good. Encouraging false perceptions as will lead to a bad marriage – or the marriage may simply implode or break apart.

FINANCE

2) Finances play a big role in any household. So the boy and girl should have in-depth discussions and get to know each other’s lifestyle and views on money. Someone who wishes to live like a king or queen should not marry someone with a sadhu mentality, or vice-versa. There should be clarity on all financial matters including credit, debt, cash allowances etc. The expectations on points of finance should be very clear.

CHILDREN & EDUCATION

3) One of the most defining points of any marriage is child rearing. Ahead of time – before they marry – the boy and girl should discuss how they are going to raise their children. What values will they impose? How far will they goad their child into Ananda Marga way of life? How far will they go to never compromise with dogma? The child must be brought to the path of sadhana at any early age and encouraged in this practice wholeheartedly.

Is one going to let the child play always while the other parent tries to instill a sense of discipline toward spiritual life? Is one going to let the child eat garlic while the other wishes to raise the child on a sentient diet. There are so many points of possible contention.

One must also remember that those children will one day be teenagers. Will you raise a person who will be a slave of pseudo-culture. If so, that teenager may bring meat into your kitchen, alcohol into your study, and harsh, loud music into your sadhana room. If one parent emphasizes spiritual life and the other does not, there are going to be problems – many of them.

So this should be thoroughly discusses beforehand, lest you become a stranger in your own house where your own children have become like non-margiis. In that case, they and your spouse will form a majority vote in your own home. If you do not educate them about our AM way of life from their infancy, this is going to happen.

POINT OF AWARENESS

4) If the groom follows the Indian tradition that females should cook and do all sorts of house chores – if this is his preconceived notion – then it should be be discussed ahead of time.

Here I don’t want to debate the which role is proper or improper for the male and female in a marriage, only this is brought as a point of awareness and that discussion ahead of time is helpful.

Otherwise this might be the cause of a marriage break-up.

NATURE OF TRANSITORY WORLD

5) Here is another critical point that the boy and girl must review. They both must be educated about, as well as discuss, how this world is transitory. The beauty they both possess today will not last forever. At any time, they may lose much of that beauty. One might contract some terrible disease like diabetes or multiple sclerosis, or get involved in a road accident etc. So many things can happen. The boy and girl should be told about how this world is transitory; they must understand the impact of this. If anyone gets married based on external beauty that marriage will fall apart. We have seen this so many times. They should discuss with one another how they will treat and regard each other when they are sick, disabled or helpless. Because, after all, their youthfulness and beauty will not last forever. Hearing and seeing this, do they still want to get married.

ANANDA MARGA IDEOLOGY

6) The teachings of Ananda Marga have to be a central aspect of any margii marriage. Both boy and girl have to be of the mind-set that what Baba says on any given topic is the defining opinion.

It is not enough to renounce one’s caste and get married. Yes, we have to overcome all caste sentiments etc, but our Ananda Marga ideology encompasses all realms of existence.

Both have to be ready to follow Baba in each and every aspect of life. So when there is any disagreement between the husband and spouse, then the answer must be found in Baba’s guideline. And that must be accepted by both as final. This must be discussed ahead of time.

OATH

7) The boy and the girl should be ready to strictly follow the oath of our Ananda Marga marriage: To live like Shiva and Parvatii. This should be formally written down and both the boy and girl should be educated as to what that means and then sign that piece of paper as a veritable contract. This contract must be binding on each and every Ananda Marga marriage. One must be extremely careful and aware if their spouse will Ananda Marga way of life or not.

DO NOT RELY ON WTS FOR MATCH-MAKING

8) It is important to remember that Dadas must NOT act as a mediator for any Ananda Marga marriage. Invariably, Dadas will give preference to the family giving them more money. So if the boy is not interested in AM and drowned in pseudo-culture, that Dada will paint a false picture and say how the boy is spirited and meticulous in 16 pts. This may not happen every time – but certainly there is scope for such issues. It has happened in the past and must be avoided in the future. And the best way to avoid this in the future is not to involve Dadas.

Besides it is not good for our wholetimers to act as matchmakers. In that process some accidentally get themselves matched up and they leave their Wt ship. This also has happened.

Thus for everyone’s well being, no Wt should be actively involved in match-making. Rather Wts should refrain from match-making entirely. That is Baba’s rule.

TREMENDOUS BENEFIT

By making all of the above perfectly clear between the boy and girl before marriage, then so many misnomers, false perceptions, and bogus expectations will be washed away. The mind will be clear and pointed and one can truly decide whether to marry that person or not. Or should they marry someone else. This will have tremendous benefit in both the personal lives of those who wed as well as in the greater society. People will be successful and productive in their marriages and society will not be plagued by mis-matched marriages and divorce. Mis-matched marriages are commonly looked upon as normal to others, but those involved in that marriage suffer internally and feel like an alien in their own house. Children will not be left shelterless but rather empowered by having dedicated parents who live by a spiritual ideal. Then society can truly be done in the real spirit of the term.

POSITIVE OUTCOME

Some may complain that after reading this now no one will want to get married. They will argue that there are to many stipulations and it is an impossible endeavor. But theirs is not a well-reasoned approach.

We have to remember that when drugs were initially given as medicine then the side effects were never listed and patients were getting harmed. Finally the government intervened and demanded that all medical side effects must be stated. After this judgment, some were concerned that no one will take those medicines if companies are forced to list the side effects. Yet here we are years and decades later, and people still take those medicines and they are aware about the side effects so they can protect themselves. The end result is positive.

Similarly, if people are aware ahead of time about the difficulties of married life, they will be better off. Then they can properly prepare for getting married and select the right spouse and create an ideal family.

Finally, the main idea is that the entire institution of marriage cannot be stopped. It has been going on for thousands of years. It satisfies a basic human need. Thus listing the pitfalls of marriage is not going to deter anyone from getting married. Only it will fortify them with the requisite knowledge to make an educated decision.

NEGATIVE INFLUENCE

After all, we are living in a materialistic society, so what is going on all around affects us. Not only that, we live in world that is dominated by gross materialism where “love” marriages are the norm. Two people get attracted – give in to sensual desires – and then divorce when any problem comes or difficulty arises. Or they leave one another when their become infatuated with someone else.

We must not allow this disease to affect our Ananda Marga way of life. Rather we are to positively affect the greater society.

RESULT OF MIS-MATCHED MARRIAGE

Here Baba graphically points out the fate of those who suffer from mismatched marriages.

Baba says, “The spouse of a certain gentleman that I knew was quite ill-mannered. One winter evening I saw this gentleman sitting quietly at the foot of a tree. I asked him: “Why are you sitting under this tree on a winter evening? You’ll freeze.” He replied: “You know, my young friend, if I go in the house I’ll hear only khankhan jhanhan [unpleasant and disturbing sounds]. It’s a lot more peaceful out here.” (1)

VIVAHA

Baba has graciously given the perfect system for building a great human society. Marriage is one of the key elements. Every marriage within the Marga should be done only after thoughtful consideration. All should be very aware of what marriage means and they should know who they are marrying.

Baba says, “[Shiva] declared that women must be kalatra, which means that women must discharge their obligations to their husbands and their children in such a way that the latter will not have the least difficulty. Those who accepted this new arrangement were declared married…The Sanskrit equivalent for marriage is viváha (vi – vaha + ghaiṋ): it means, after the ceremony, the man and women can no longer live as libertines or as irresponsible so-called family people. They have to discharge their full obligations as bharttá and kalatra, responsible husband and responsible spouse…The liberal meaning of the term viváha is “live one’s life in a new way with a special type of responsibility.” This is the underlying significance of the Shaeva system of marriage.” (2)

Namaskar,
In Him,
Kiran

REFERENCES:
1. Varna Vijiana, Disc: 19
2. Namah Shivaya Shantaya, Disc: 9. Shivokti 3

Note LINK TO SIMILAR TOPIC:

Here is a link to an earlier letter on this issue

http://am-global-01.blogspot.com/2013/02/story-of-broken-marriage-infighting.html

The section below demarcated by asterisks is an entirely different topic,
completely unrelated to the above letter. It stands on its own as a point of interest.
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Structural Defects May Be The Cause

There are all kinds of reasons why people may succumb to dogma. It may happen due to self-interest, cowardly nature, political gain etc. And here Baba points out how it may be due to defects in their physical structure. That may be why they cannot follow Baba.

Baba says, “If there is under-secretion of the hormones of the testes glands, a youth will develop less kindness, and less hair will grow in the armpits and pubic region. If you see a man with these physical characteristics, then and there you can come to a conclusion about the extent of his kindness. Moreover, such a person will most likely support dogma. He will not have the moral strength to protest against dogma (including scriptural dogma), and he will not support a new idea.” (Yoga Psychology)
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From: suelekha@trade.bekr…..
Subject: How My Son Became Non-Margii
Date: Mon, 18 Feb 2013 20:51:28 -0000
To: am-global@earthlink.net

Baba

This entire email is composed of 3 parts:
(1) Prabhat Samgiita #2496;
(2) Posting: How My Son Became Non-Margii;
(3) Trailer Quote: Benefit of Dhyana

Each section is demarcated by asterisks (*).

**** Here begins the Prabhat Samgiita ****

PS: In this following song, Parama Purusa is addressed as Iishana. More about this term is explained below.

“Iisha’n toma’r vis’a’n’ bejeche, alasata’ du’re sare geche…” (P.S. 2496)

Purport:

O’ Parama Purusa, Your divine call in thundering voice is resonating all around; it has removed the staticity, dogma, and lethargy from everyone’s mind. The new dawn has come. Those negative issues which were impeding the path of human progress have disappeared into the far distant horizon. Now the stain of staticity and dogma cannot remain any longer. The ailment of inertness is no more. By Your grace, living beings have gotten new life, smiles, and joy due to the rejuvenating spirit of neo-humanism.

O’ Divine Entity, Baba, by Your grace, the world which was sleeping in the past has arisen. New leaves and flowers are beautifying the green vegetation and trees. The flowers and fruit are bursting with colours. Everything has been touched by Your colourful panoramic display. Under the effulgence of Your auspicious and divine grace, all that was negative has become positive.

Now there is no one to create obstacles on our path towards our cherished Goal. Now there are no narrow sentiments or mean, dogmatic thoughts which can hinder our forward movement. The time has come – under the vast blue sky and in this beautiful environment – I should go on marching forward undauntedly towards You. O’ Parama Purusa, victory is Yours, victory is Yours, victory is Yours…

NOTES FOR PRABHAT SAMGIITA #2496:

[1] Iisha’na: When Parama Purusa comes in the form of Mahasambhuti to guide human society He expresses Himself through 5 moods. It is said that Parama Purusa has 5 faces. For example, if a mother is a police officer then in one role she is very tough and stern with criminals and in another she is very tender and soft with His children. Similarly, Parama Purusa has 5 faces – not biologically or anatomically, just 5 different moods. On one extreme He is very tender, soft, and loving; in this aspect He never scolds the devotee. Then on the other extreme He is very tough and fierce. In that role He is a strict disciplinarian and hands out stern punishment. Other roles are a mix of these two extremes. One such role of Mahasambhuti, Parama Purusa, is Iishana.

“The face next to Dakśińeshvara is called Iishána. It says, “Look, my child, follow this path. If you follow any other path, it will bring you only sorrow. Don’t make such a mistake. Prakrti will never pardon you. The result will be disastrous.” Iishána clearly states the consequences of misdeeds and gives a few pieces of advice.” (1)

For more info read Baba’s discourse: Sambhúti and Mahásambhúti, and related chapters.

[2] Theme: Baba’s below teachings uniquely reflect the theme of the above song.

“You will observe that the young generation today is not willing to accept outdated, dogmatic theories and isms. If the knowledge of Bhagavat Dharma (the path of spirituality) is infused in young minds at the first flush of the new dawn, then dogma will be torn asunder in an instant. The upholders of dogma partly realize that clear, penetrating vision portends their doom.” (2)

“Human history today has reached such a transitional phase that universal humanity, forgetting all spatial, temporal and personal differences, shall have to move, hand in hand, shoulder to shoulder towards the new dawn with rapid steps. Humanity must respond to this call. With the reddish glow of the dawn, the collective body, mind and soul will be radiant with joy. And that alone will be the real progress of universal humanity, the firm establishment of unified humanism.” (3)

“Human civilization now faces the final moment of a critical juncture. The dawn of a glorious new era is on the one side, and the worn-out skeleton of the past on the other. Humanity has to adopt either one or the other. You are the spiritual soldiers, you are the worshippers of life divine. Hence I call upon you to adorn this crimson dawn deluged with glorious light. Victory is surely yours.” (4)

PS REFERENCES:
1. Ananda Marga Ideology & Way of Life – 10
2. Prout in a Nutshell – 16, Religious Dogma – Excerpt A
3. Ananda Vanii #61
4. Ananda Vanii #26

== HOW MY SON BECAME NON-MARGII ==

Namaskar,
We all want our Marga to grow and every parent in Ananda Marga wants for their child to become a dedicated sadhaka. After all, who does not want to have a beautiful devotional and ideological flow under their own roof. My husband and I certainly did.

Unfortunately, with our eldest child, we could not gain success – by Baba’s grace with our second, things have been much better in that regard.

Perhaps other parents have experienced or are experiencing similar results as our family. The reality is that raising a margii child is no easy feat, especially in this ultra-materialistic era. But it is not at all impossible either. There are some excellent examples in our Ananda Marga, all over the world. There are however, no shortage of cases where things did not turn out too well.

Here I wish to share some of the errors which we made due to ignorance – we were not aware, so I write today in hopes that others will avoid such issues. Also I will offer what has worked for us with our youngest.

Most certainly, if you have anything to add – as I am sure all parents do(!) – please write in about this crucial point. You will be doing a big service to our entire margii family. I look forward to hearing about it…

THE MAIN MISTAKE WE MADE

This letter is not easy for me to write as the growth and development of our children has been quite trying for us.

On the one side, our eldest child is fine in many regards, but admittedly he is not an Ananda Margii, and at this point it seems that it will take nothing short of a miracle for this to happen.

Here is the main mistake we made.

With our eldest – a son now 29 – we just naturally assumed that as he got older he would see the value and rational approach of Ananda Marga. We thought that he would organically understand how doing meditation and eating vegetarian was the best way to go – but it did not turn out like that at all. This was a big blow to our psyche, and to this day I regret the choices we made in raising him.

I naively thought that I should not push him into Ananda Marga and that it would be “healthier” if this was something he decided on his own. After all, that was how my husband and I came into the Marga. So we let our son grow up in a “normal manner” – play, homework, video games, etc – without forcing him to attend Ananda Marga functions or going to Marga retreats or doing sadhana together etc. He would go to friends’ houses while my husband and I went to dharmacakra or any Ananda Marga function.

However, once on that loose leash, my eldest child just strayed farther and farther from the path. Today he drinks alcohol, eats meat, is covered by multiple tattoos, and has even experimented with being gay.

I love him dearly, but I see that without my pushing and insisting when he was young (i.e. in his early childhood years), he just got pulled into the dirty current of materialism. It is those values and choices that govern his day to day life – not the ways of Ananda Marga.

This has been the cause of so much tension, arguing, and regret in our household. Now he even criticises us for being in Ananda Marga – he thinks we are ignorant. It is a headache to live together or even visit. In the kitchen he eats meat and smokes cigarettes in the house. I cannot even begin to tell you all the problems. I really wish I knew back then what I know now.

It is very painful to see and even more painful to admit. What was the point in my becoming a parent if I could not raise my child(ren) according to the precepts of dharma.

Somehow it all got away from us.

THE ROLE OF IMPOSED SAMSKARA

One of the reasons I am writing about this is to recount the day Dadaji stayed with us for an entire week. Dada came at our request when I told him that our child could not be controlled. At the time our eldest was 14 and he was not listening to anything.

We had known Dadaji for years and had complete trust in his evaluation. He could see very clearly what transpired within our family – with respect to our eldest. And he pointed out one key mis-step that my husband and I tripped over long ago.

Dada reminded us that inborn samskaras play a huge role in life. That is not to say that everything is pre-destined and that we should just be passive observers. Rather the opposite is true. Without a very positive inborn samskara then coming into Ananda Marga is not easy – a lot of help is needed. This is the point we missed.

Rather than doing lots of kiirtan and sadhana with our oldest child when he was young, and always taking him to dharmacakra, we just let him play etc. We were too relaxed, when it was in those years (from 0 to 12) that we needed to instill the values & practices of Ananda Marga.

On that occasion, Dada warned if we are not strict strict with our second child then our youngest will also fall into problem, but if we instill Ananda Marga values early then everything will be fine. That was 15 yrs ago. And I have to say that Dadaji was absolutely right. Today our youngest is 19 and all is well, whereas I still regret how I raised my eldest, now 29.

THE ROLE OF IMPOSED SAMSKARA (Cont)

Here is more of Dada’s explanation – via a short synopsis. Then I will tell more of my story…

All over the globe there are millions and billions of people who get caught up in the social norms of the day, and comparatively few who break away from those dogmatic traditions and steer clear of pseudo-culture and come into Ananda Marga.

Dada told that those not born in margii families and enter into Ananda Marga is due to their extraordinary inborn samskara combined with Baba’s divine grace. These sadhakas had such a remarkable inborn samskara that no matter what life situation they were born into, they would have come into Ananda Marga.

Then Dadaji explained that most of the population is not like that – including many of our margii children. For such persons to enter Ananda Marga, it will take a huge amount of support and guidance, i.e. imposed samskara, from the parents from infancy through their childhood. Regular kiirtan, telling devotional stories, coming to dharmacakra, making friends with other margii children – all of these things and more are needed in order to bring our own children into the Marga.

When I heard this it was as if I swallowed a rock.

It seemed so plainly obvious when Dada explained this, but somehow as parents we missed the boat on this one. My entire adult life I assumed the opposite. I figured, “Oh, of course our child will choose AM” – and I waited and I waited and I waited, but it never happened. And now my oldest is far past his formative years, and he is making his own life decisions, and AM does not even come into the picture.

When he was a teenager I tried to guide him but by then it was too late. I would give advice and he would argue and quarrel. It was then that Dada told me that I had to teach all this when he was young – then he would listen. During his teenage years when he was rebelling was not the time to teach – it just created more fights.

Thus it was when my oldest was 13 and my youngest 3 that I made the switch in my approach. The result being that now nearly 17 yrs later, my oldest is far, far from the Marga and our younger son is an inspired and true Ananda Margii. I will tell the story about my youngest down below.

So now I clearly understand that had I adopted a proper parenting approach then both my children could have become margiis. By Baba’s grace that is what has happened with our youngest. And it could have been that way with our oldest, but I naively assumed that he would come on his own. I have now realised that if as a parent I had been more vigilant and fortified my children with strong guidance – i.e. imposed samskara – they would both have entered onto the path of pure spirituality, by His grace. In spite of how good an inborn samskara may be, without proper company then it does not bear fruit. Proper guidance is needed, not rely on inborn samskara.

BABA’S PRACTICAL APPROACH

Baba guides us that we are to guide our children along the path of morality and spirituality from a very young age.

Baba says, “One should follow bha’gavata dharma from one’s very childhood, because human life is rare and is very precious…So a wise person should get initiated and should start sa’dhana’ in his very childhood, or kaoma’ra.” (1)

So Baba’s guideline is that from the very birth of their child, parents should be very sensitive to the needs of the child and guide them along the path of sadhana.

Baba says, “Parents will have to take on most of the responsibility for the moral and spiritual education of the child.” (2)

And indeed, during DMC and general darshan, Baba always welcomed mothers who brought their young infants. Baba’s teaching is that from the earliest age children should be raised along the tenets of dharma and when they are old enough to go to school, then they should go to an Ananda Marga school. Because the mind is very impressionable at the tender age of 5. What they are taught they will remember and follow with implicit faith and trust.

For these reasons and more Baba guides us that parents must introduce their child to spiritual ideals very early on – further down in this email is that very beautiful account from Baba about how the great saint Madalasa raised her children.

Then in addition to parenting, a proper education is needed that instills the right values in life.

Sa’ vidya’ ya’ vimuktaye

Baba says, “The real meaning of education is trilateral development – simultaneous development in the physical, mental and spiritual realms of human existence.” (3)

For this reason Baba was vigilant that Ananda Marga should establish primary education schools all over this earth, in every country, region, city and village. Baba’s point is that from their birth right up through their childhood is when our children formulate their ideas and visions about the world and how they will live their live. What our children see and hear at that age makes a huge impact on who they become later in life.

RELIGIONS MISUSE THIS TECHNIQUE

While our Marga is the voice of bhagavata dharma, the various religions indoctrinate young minds into their dogmatic ways. And they do this by employing the very same techniques Baba recommends. They misuse this method to suite their own needs and interests.

All the organised religions – Christianity, Islam, Judaism, etc – preach and teach their kids those principles from a very early age by enrolling them in daily or weekly religious education schools and programs. They understand well that what a child sees and experiences in those younger years (from 0 – 12) will stick with them their entire life. Christians put their kids in Sunday school, Jews use Hebrew school, the Muslims put even their 2 year olds in madarsa (Islamic faith schools). In that ways they are able to indoctrinate their children into their dogmatic faith.

While we are still struggling to implement Baba’s ideas within the Marga, we need look no further than the dogmatic religions to see this approach in action. Unfortunately, again, the various religions employ this method to spread their dogma – not the glorious ways of bhagavata dharma.

Thus our Ananda Marga approach is grossly needed on this earth.

MORE REFLECTION

So it is really a question of parenting & schooling for all children. If they are guided in a particular direction they will have those experiences and ideals for life. Children remember and learn so much in those early moments. Now I really wish I always kept my oldest with me nearby when doing sadhana. I did that with my youngest but not my older one.

Coming into the Marga lies almost cent-per-cent with the families and then with the schools later on.

Once again we can look to the dogmatic religions for proof.

These days many Christian families are less strict than before, and the degree to which they are remiss is the degree to which the church loses followers in that area. This has happened to a large extent in Europe. In contrast, to the degree that parents are strict in their households – as is the case with many Muslim families – is the degree to which their children get fully indoctrinated into that approach.

As parents in the Marga we should clearly understand this issue and put it into practice. Because unlike the dogmatic religions, we have all the wonders of the universe to share with our children. Our Marga is the path of dharma. Yet without our prompting and clear cut approach, our children will continue to miss out on this opportunity. And this is an injustice to them – and it is not the way we are to raise our children in service to Guru Dev.

ANANDA MARGA IS NOT AN EXTRA-CURRICULAR ACTIVITY

IT IS THE MAIN THING

Part of the problem that can happen is that we may feel that Ananda Marga is something above and beyond the rest of life. There is so much to do as parents that we can get caught up just following the basic worldly checklist without putting proper emphasis on Ananda Marga. When in fact it is the spirituality of AM that is the essence of life – not all that other stuff.

We missed this lesson with our oldest child and instead got caught up in general societal values and in result our son did not develop into a sadhaka. We paid attention to his physical and mental (mostly) development like clockwork, yet never inculcated the spiritual side into his daily life, neither as an infant nor as a toddler and young boy. And now the sad reality is that this is not part of his life.

I would not raise this point if I did not see this happening with other margii families. Many of the parents in my circle of communication are in the midst of similar circumstances – they openly say so.

I suppose the main thing is not to rely on the idea that somehow magically our children will walk into the door of Ananda Marga at the age of 18, when up until that time Ananda Marga has not been a major factor in their lives.

THE MAIN ISSUE

Here again Baba points out that root cause of the problem

Baba says, “The main point is this: for want of a little care, children are deprived of the opportunity to become complete human beings, even though they have a human structure.” (4)

Thus to bring our children onto the path of Ananda Marga we cannot merely passively wait for that magic day to happen as if they will realise it with their own rational approach. Rather we have to be assertive and inculcate spiritual values within our children on a daily basis.

If we do that our children become opponents and hate Ananda Marga. That is what happened with my first born and I feel the fault is entirely mine – not my son’s.

The problem has escalated to such a degree that he does not merely passively oppose Ananda Marga, but actively by eating meat, smoking, drinking alcohol and speaking badly about Ananda Marga.

In India there is a saying that I have heard, “Those who kept their babies away and did not bring them to DMC etc , then those children got lost, never made it into AM and the whole house became hell.”

This happened with many margii families within in India and the essence of that problem has occurred with many families outside India, including my own.

The point is that we must bring our young ones into the fold by including them in all Marga activities and building a strong social network for them. By Baba’s grace we did this with our youngest and it worked out great.

PRACTICAL POINTS TO PROCEED

Here is a short list of things we can do as parents to ensure our children grow to be strong sadhakas and active Ananda Margiis.

1. Create a community of friends by having our margii children play with other margii children;
2. Bring children to DC and organise a children’s dharmacakra;
3. Have them in the room with you when you do your personal sadhana;
4. Sing kiirtan & bhajans with them throughout the day;
5. Tell them Baba stories before bed;
6. Inculcate a spiritual outlook in life;
7. We must remember that our kids see what we do and follow accordingly;
8. If a child gets bullied or taught to be fearful of ghosts, then that is a lifelong problem; similarly if child gets raised in AM then they will think Ananda Marga is their home and they will follow the basic do’s and don’ts their entire life.

Finally, may we all remember that we cannot teach someone about the danger of drowning after he has already drowned. Similarly, we must not passively watch our children grow thinking that by their inborn samskara alone they will make it into Ananda Marga. We must be vigilant to guide them every step of the way – the moment they emerge from the womb – and even before then.

PARENTING IS BIG RESPONSIBILITY

Baba tell us that forming children into proper human beings is a big job. The most difficult task is to make children into proper human beings.

To do that we must follow the example of the great mother / saint Madalasa who taught her children from their very infancy about, “Why you have come into this world and what is your goal.”

““Dear son, although you are but a child in a small human frame, you are the veritable expression of the Supreme Consciousness. You are an ever-holy, ever-enlightened entity. As long as you think that you are only a small child, you are spiritually ignorant, but when you realize that you are a part of that Supreme Entity, you become that Supreme Entity, you become spotless (nirainjano’si).”…“My dear child, there is no black spot in your mind. You are spotless. You are unassailed by any kind of sin.” Sam’sa’ra ma’ya’ parivarpito’si: “You are beyond the spell of the illusory ma’ya’ of this mundane world. You are the embodiment of the pure and unblemished self.”…“This is how Mada’lasa’ teaches her son.” (5)

CONCLUSION

We must teach our children about Ananda Marga from a very early age. When we go to our Marga functions then all families should bring their children. If we instill the values of AM early then even if those children want to give up and walk away from AM then they will not be able to do it. Because that AM ways of life will be in their blood. In contrast, if we keep our children separate then only those few exceptional children with only the greatest of inborn samskaras will become Ananda Margiis, and all the rest will be lost in the sea of materialism and dogma.

Baba says, “Children will become assets of society in the future to the extent that their parents or guardians discharge their duties properly.” (6)

STORY: MAN ABOUT TO BE HUNG

Once there was a man who was about to be hung for the many crimes he committed. Before the hanging, he was granted one last wish and he requested to talk to his mother.

When his mother arrived he asked her if he could whisper something in her ear. She said, “Why of course my son” and and leaned towards him.

Then the man softly pinched his mother’s ear.

The mother felt some pain and asked, “Why did you do that?”

The son replied, “Because you are the cause of my imminent death. All those years when I was a young boy stealing and thieving you never disciplined me nor told me that what I was doing was wrong. Because I did not get that important teaching, I grew up to be a criminal. And now today I am going to be hung.”

Here the whole point is that as parents we have a huge effect on what our children become in life. It is out duty to do right by them and bring them along the path of dharma, otherwise they will meet all kinds of troubles and even blame us for their problems – and rightly so.

“The mental outlook of children has already been moulded in a particular fashion by the influence of their family environment before they start school. No matter what or how much they learn at school, it is extremely difficult for them to free themselves from the influence of their family. Drawing on what they have learned in the family, the immature minds of children begin to learn about the world and understand it, and to receive ideas and master language so that they can express those ideas. Unhesitatingly they adopt their elders’ way of looking at the world. Hence the primary responsibility for acquainting children with the world lies with their parents or guardians. Children will become assets of society in the future to the extent that their parents or guardians discharge their duties properly.”
“I have no hesitation in saying that today’s adults have not yet developed a scientific method of training children’s minds. Even most so-called educated and refined people, let alone average adults, are either ignorant about or indifferent to the education of their children. Their ignorance may be pardoned, but how can we forgive their indifference? The family into which a child has been born will naturally have to bear the primary responsibility for the physical, mental and spiritual development of that child.” (7)

Namaskar,
in Him,
Sulekha

REFERENCES:
1. Subhasita Samgraha – 21
2. Human Society – 1
3. Prout in a Nutshell – 18
4. Human Society – 1
5. Ananda Vacanamrtam – 7
6. Prout in a Nutshell – 1
7. Human Society – 1

The section below demarcated by asterisks is an entirely different topic,
completely unrelated to the above letter. It stands on its own as a point of interest.
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Benefit of Dhyana
“Question: If the medicine or mother tincture required for homoeopathic medicine is prepared in a sentient environment which contains positive microvita, will the medicine prepared from that medium or mother tincture have more effect than ordinary medicine available in the market?”
“Answer: There is no doubt that the medicine prepared in a sentient environment by sentient people, from a medium or mother tincture which is also prepared in a sentient environment, will attract more positive microvita than ordinary medicines, so it will have a much greater effect in curing a patient.”
“If a person contracts a disease caused by negative microvita before initiation and does dhyána sincerely after initiation, the disease will not spread but be contained. However, for different types of diseases one has to follow different food restrictions and practice dhyána at specific times.”
“If a person contracts a disease caused by negative microvita after initiation, does dhyána perfectly and follows certain food restrictions, the disease will be completely cured. Dhyána attracts many positive microvita. Negative microvita can only be controlled by positive microvita. The positive microvita eat the negative microvita and this is the reason why the disease is cured. For example, if a person is suffering from jaundice, a disease caused by negative microvita, and if dhyána is practised perfectly, the disease will be cured very quickly. In the case of cancer, say stomach cancer, certain food restrictions will have to be strictly followed. When pain starts in the stomach one should sit for dhyána, but just prior to this one should take some juice from a sweet tasting, not a sour tasting fruit. After performing dhyána, one should take another drink which is different from the first drink. The patient should also avoid any food which causes gas in the stomach, such as pappad, cauliflower, cabbage, turnip, etc.” (Microvita in a Nutshell, Questions and Answers on Microvita – Excerpt C)
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From: “Liila / Leslie”
To: am-global@earthlink.net
Subject: Human Existence Reduced To One Third
Date: Thu, 24 Jan 2013 22:34:56 (00:00)

Baba

== HUMAN EXISTENCE REDUCED TO ONE THIRD ==

Namaskar,
By nature humans are psychic beings, dominated by mind – not physicality. If the mind is light and happy, then one’s whole existence is joyous. In contrast, if one is physically fit and surrounded by comforts and conveniences, yet mentally disturbed and unhappy, then they themselves will feel dejected and sorrowful. Life will lose its lustre and seem meaningless. So mind is the controlling point of human existence.

NO PLAN FOR LIFE

Nowadays, generally people are oblivious of their true self and remain meaninglessly busy in countless materialistic ventures. They have neither the time nor the mental space to think: “Who am I”, “From where have I come”, and “What happens when I die.” Rather if they do think about this they become terrified. They do not want to think about it.

But if you ask for business strategy or travel plans etc, they have an immediate answer. Yet they have not thought about the goal of their life. That is their unfortunate state.

As sadhakas, we know that spiritual life starts when one formulates a true plan of life: “I have come from Parama Purusa, and I am journeying back to Him.” Empowered and inspired by this ideal, one moves ahead on the spiritual path.

HUMANS ARE MENTAL BEINGS

To get back onto the path, one must first recognize that humans are essentially psychic beings. Here is one clear-cut proof.

Baba says, “If you insult a dog, and the next moment call the dog to take food, it will accept that food from your hands. But if you insult a person and ask that person to take food, even a very delicious food, he or she, in order to maintain prestige, or save himself or herself from humiliation, will not accept.” (1)

This shows humans are mind dominated. Since the dawn of civilisation people have been trying to satisfy their mental longing. Everything big or small starts in the mind, and humans act accordingly. The present humanity longs to find psychic comfort and satisfaction but due to the strong pull of materialism landed in a different direction. Today, matter and money are everything. So people give tremendous value to the physical body, not the mental body. The physical body is king.

The faulty ways of materialism have limited and degraded the human mind where people unfortunately believe and think, “I am this human body.” Of all the social complexes and psychic diseases that materialism has brought, this lowly concept of self – “I am this physical body” – is perhaps the most detrimental.

When anyone thinks that this body is everything, then there is no scope for the development of mind; instead, people plunge into sensual pleasures and enjoyments, thinking that bodily satisfaction is the be-all and end-all of life.

Tragically, this is what we see happening in so many places, and it is only spreading more.

SEX BECOMES EVERYTHING

Nowadays, in materialistic societies, people think sex is the greatest thing in life. This degraded outlook is born out of the notion that: “I am this physical body.”

That is why in materialistic nations like the US, European nations, and any place harboring extreme capitalism, sexually alluring images are prevalent throughout the community: Billboards, internet ads, fashion designs etc. Everything has become sexually suggestive; to sell it must be “sexy.” In the west, some have become so engrossed in this that the best thing in a field of life is called sexy. Such as a sexy automobile etc. The term “sexy” is used as a superlative. Even then, one cannot say it is limited to the west. This mentality is in vogue wherever materialism has taken root.

The end result: Females have become objectified for their sexual appeal.

This societal trend leads men to mentally and physically lust after females, and makes women do anything and everything to make themselves alluring. The mass of people have been bound in this way. It is a sad and tragic tale.

In the west, many commonly leave their wife for a young lady half their age. Rarely do marriages last long. Once the sexual appeal is gone, the relationship is over – in many cases. This is rampant with movie stars and sports heroes, and very prevalent in the general society. At the same time, there are many moral, upstanding citizens in the west. But that number is shrinking as the older generations age. Now – more than ever – youths are hooked into materialism all around the globe – east and west.

However, this way of life does not bode well for human beings.

Baba says, “Sensual objects are naturally crude and mean; and those who take these as their goals in life, naturally become crude and mean as well – they gradually turn into brutes.” (2)

MANIFESTS IN SO MANY WAYS

This concept – “I am this physical body” – manifests in so many ways. People work, live, eat, drink, sleep, shop, think, and plan everything in life based on this unfortunate understanding. Their everything has been painted in the color of materialism.

Even the intelligentsia like lawyers, doctors, writers and university professors live a life guided by materialistic enjoyment and security. So through all sectors of society, physical expression becomes everything. In turn, people spend billions on cosmetic surgery, clothing, cosmetics, perfume, jewelry, tattoos, etc. All because they think their physical existence is the epitome of who they are.

In that case their entire human personality is standing on shaky ground. If their boyfriend leaves them then they may commit suicide; if they gain a few pounds they become depressed; if someone calls them “fat” even when they are not fat, they became enraged or even break down and cry. Plus men become consumed by desire and take formulas to heighten their potency while women get augmentations to increase their value. It is a sad and superficial approach to life. Yet it is rampant and spreading to wherever materialism is in vogue.

Indeed on so many levels and so many ways people define themselves by their own physical body. People think that is who they are and that is all they have. They do not realise that the body is a tool or temporary house for the mind. For this reason they fall victim to so many complexes from fear of death to so many personal insecurities. This happens even to people of high regard – governors, businessmen, judges etc. All because their approach to life is defective – defined by materialistic principles.

The point here is that human life needs a proper base and Brahma is that base.

Baba says, “Everything requires a base; if life does not have a strong base, it is disrupted by an ordinary storm. Brahma is the strongest base.” (3)

But when one thinks that “I am this physical body”, then Brahma is not the base, rather one’s body is everything. In that case, their whole personality is standing on shaky ground.

WHEN DOES LIFE START

This entire discussion begs the question: “When does life start.”

As sadhakas in Ananda Marga, we know that our present life is but a part life, chained together with so many past lives as the mind gets one body after another in order to one day merge back into Parama Purusa.

But materialists believe their life began when they emerged from the womb. In turn, they think their life will end when their physical body is no more. Such is the material perspective. They do not acknowledge the existence of the mind.

Followers of the dogmatic religions often fall into this same pattern. They equate life with this physical body and unknowingly follow the principle, “I am this physical body.”

In that way, there is little or no concept of mind, and people lead a life of materialism, devoid of any spiritual value.

ALMOST LIKE ANIMALS – OR WORSE!!

This type of limited concept of self is slightly higher than animal life, and the irony is that it will degrade one into the depths of animal life or worse.

Animals do not know they exist; whereas humans know they exist. But when a human being merely thinks, “I am this physical body” and “my life is a quest to satisfy mundane desires”, then upon losing their physical human framework, they will unfortunately undergo negative pratisaincara.

Baba says, “A human being who behaves like a goat or a dog may be born as a goat or a dog in the next life, because such an animal body is the proper base for the congenial expression of the latent sam’ska’ras. Hence it is not at all impossible for a human being to be reborn as a hog, a worm, a tree, or even a piece of stone. One’s destiny will be decided according to the nature of one’s karma – this is an infallible
law.” (4)

Hence, when one leads a life prone to carnal pleasure, forgetting the existence of mind, we cannot call that human life. When one lives for sensual gratification, then that is not a life befitting of a human being.

Baba says, “The unlimited expansion of intellect is the predominant quality of human beings. When they lose this quality and become like beasts drawn to sensual pleasures, then regardless of what they might have achieved, they hardly deserve to be called human beings.” (5)

Yet nowadays, so many people define themselves in this way – “I am this physical body” – they are sure to degrade.

MUST LEARN TO “THROW IT AWAY”

Suppose you have a bicycle, then you will never think that “I am this bicycle”, rather one will think, “This is my bicycle”. And one will be ready to throw the bicycle away when it is no good anymore. We should view our bodies in a similar manner. Our bodies are mere tools or vehicles. They are not the essence of who we are.

Ananda Marga philosophy says, “When the clothes become old and tattered, they are replaced with newer ones. This is the law. Nobody wants to wear old, tattered, and dirty clothes. Similarly, when the body becomes old and worthless, it is changed for a newer one.” (6)

Anyone who sincerely practices sadhana clearly understands the existence of mind and will be mind oriented. In contrast, victims of materialism are unable to learn this point and fall prey to the belief, “I am this physical body.”

PROPER WAY TO TEACH OUR CHILDREN

Baba has given us many ways to properly grow in this world. When we do sadhana then we always think, “I am Brahma, I am Brahma.” That is the essential idea behind our ista mantra.

To make life proper from the very beginning and to teach our children in the right way, we should pay heed to Baba’s below story about the great sadhaka Madalasa. She was a very honorable and spiritual lady who married one king under the condition that she and only she would be in charge of raising the children.

Baba says, “Madalasa started imparting spiritual education to [her son] Vikranta. She would put him in the cradle and sing lullabies in very sweet and rhythmic tunes which were full of the highest spiritual truths. One of her lullabies was:

Shuddho’si buddho’si nirainjano’si sam’sa’rama’ya’ parivarjito’si;
Sam’sa’rasvapnam’ tyajamohanidra’m Mada’lasolla’pamuva’ca putram.

“This means, ‘O my son! You are that [pure] Entity; you are that all-knowing Entity; you are that spotless Entity. This world is a passing show, is ever-changing. It is all like a dream. O my son, awaken from your sleep of ignorance and realize the Reality’.” (7)

Having grown up in this deeply spiritual environment, Vikrant had a strong vision and did not fall prey to the mundane and lustful allurements of this world. He did not think that, “I am this physical body”, but instead understood the existence of mind and the real value of human life. He grew up to become a great sadhaka, as did the other sons.

Baba says, “I have already said that Mada’lasa’s sons were the first sannya’sis to embrace missionary life and serve the common people.” (8)

WAY TO VIEW ONESELF

By Baba’s grace, we should view ourselves as children of Parama Purusa who will one day become one with Him. Never should we fall prey to the lowly concept that, “I am this physical body”. That will only invite our destruction.

“A rational person should always think in this way…’I have also been born into the glorious human family. I am also a blessed child of Parama Purus’a.’ One who has been born a human being will certainly remain a human being if they do glorious deeds and will ultimately become an ideal follower of the Supreme Benevolence. Their life is sure to meet with glorious success.” (9)

“Those entities in whom psychic and intellectual powers are looked upon as more gorgeous than the physical ones are called humans – predominantly mental beings. Hence, to bring about the real well-being of humanity, greater attention has to be paid to the psychic and intellectual expressions of human beings, for that will lead to perfect spiritual composure and all-round fulfilment in human life…” (10)

“Human beings develop a desire to know more about those external objects. They question what they are, where, when and how they originated, and so on. Likewise they seek to discover more about themselves and pose the same fundamental questions. Kasya tvam vá kuta áyatah. “Who am I?” they ask. “Where have I come from? And why? Where shall I go from here?”” (11)

“The subject of today’s discourse is, “To Whom Do You Belong? Where Do You Come From?” These are eternal questions of the human mind. When human beings first came onto this earth, the first questions that confronted them were “To whom do I belong? Where do I come from? Where shall I go?” People have been researching the answers to these questions since time immemorial, but they have not always found the answers. When people ask questions just for the sake of asking, they usually do not find the proper answer. In order to get the correct answer, they have to realize the inner import of the questions – otherwise the questions will remain forever unanswered.” (12)

“I shall return to the source from where I came, in whom I exist, and who is that entity? Unless human beings discover the answer to the question, “To whom do you belong?” they cannot answer the question. “From where do you come?” The answer is that they belong to that supreme indestructible Entity. When He was unmanifest, he was in His eternal stance – His nityabháva. When He becomes manifest, He remains in His liilábháva, His playful stance. And when He is in the latter state, the microcosms come into the world.” (13)

“Those who have fallen today may become evolved people, great personalities in the future – mahápuruśas. This is why no one should ever be disappointed in life. Parama Puruśa is calling everyone and He will continue to call everyone: all shall find a safe shelter on His loving lap. He does not hate or neglect anyone. Hence the only answer to the question, “kasya tvam” – “Whom do you belong to?” – is: “I belong to Parama Puruśa, to Him and Him alone, because I have come from Him and I am in Him, and finally I will return to Him.” And the only answer to the question, “Kuta áyátah” – “From where have you come?” – is: “I have come from Parama Puruśa and I will go back to Him. He is my permanent abode.”” (14)

“Very often people become victims of disappointment for the sole reason that they forget their goal of life. If they look towards their goal, then their disappointments and frustrations will cease. Whenever a human being is created, he or she comes within the Cosmic mind. So when the microcosms move towards Macrocosmic Consciousness, Parama Puruśa is watching: Parama Puruśa is with them holding their hands. It is the humans who do not look towards Him – this is their misfortune, not His. They may sometimes request Him to hold their hands and lead them towards the goal but even this is not necessary, because He is always holding them. The tragedy is that in their foolish effort to walk alone, people often stumble and fall down. This is not the fault of Parama Puruśa, for He is with everyone. This movement of Parama Puruśa with each individual is called His ota yoga: and when he looks upon the entire universe at a time collectively, it is called His prota yoga. Thus He is with the microcosms both in individual and collective association. So the answer to the question, “Whom do you belong to?” is “I belong to Parama Puruśa.” And the answer to the question “From where have you come?” is “I have come from Parama Puruśa, from the nucleus of the universe, and finally I will return to Him, my permanent abode.”” (15)

“All entities, living or non-living, are rotating around Parama Puruśa – some consciously, some unconsciously, – with so many thoughts and idiosyncrasies, so many bodies and structures. When will their movement come to an end? It will end only when they realize that Parama Puruśa and they themselves are one and inseparable; then will they become one with Parama Puruśa. The more sincerely people will follow the spiritual cult, the more their distance from Parama Puruśa will decrease; and when that distance becomes nil, the microcosms will merge in Macrocosmic Consciousness – jiiva will become Shiva. This is the parágati, the supreme culminating point of all microcosmic movement.” (16)

“O human beings, you are fortunate. The clarion call of the Universal has reached you. Not only has the call come, but you are hearing it and it is vibrating in every cell of your body. Will you now lie in the corner of your house as an inert being and waste your time by clinging to old skeletons and bemoaning them? The Supreme Being is calling you in the roar of the ocean, in the thunder of the clouds, in the speed of lightning, in the meteor’s flaming fires. Nothing good will come from idleness. Get up and awake the clouded chivalry of your dormant youth. It may be that the path is not strewn with flowers and that inferiority complex will be attempting to hold fast your each advancing step, but even then you have to proceed onwards tearing the shroud of darkness. You will tear the thick darkness of despair as you advance in the racing chariot radiant with the Sun’s brilliance towards the attainment of the Supreme state.” (17)

“O human beings, the path is ready for you, you just come!” Whoever is endowed with a human mind and a human body is entitled to follow this path, and at the end of the journey, one day, one is destined to attain Parama Puruśa. When Parama Puruśa, the Cosmic Cognition, is your goal, success is a must, success will be with you.” (18)

“Human beings came onto this earth about a million years ago. In this universe, our earth is not only the only planet, nor is the sun the only star. There are numerous stars and luminous bodies and planets. Wherever there is a proper balance amongst the five fundamental factors, there life has evolved. Various species of animals have evolved on various planets, are living today, will remain for some time, and in the future will disappear. History shows that so many animals roamed this earth with great prowess, but their strength gradually waned and they have become totally extinct. One day human beings will also be extinct on this planet. But this does not mean that they will become extinct on all other planets also. Before this earth becomes unfit for human habitation or faces a complete thermal death the developed human beings will travel to other planets. Thus they will never become completely extinct in this universe.” (19)

Namaskar,
in Him,
Liila

Note 1: ABOUT THE TITLE

The titled of this letter is – Human Existence Reduced To One Third. Why was this title selected? Because in Ananda Marga we know that human life is trifaroius: spiritual, psychic, and physical. Yet when the mass of people only think of themselves as physical beings, then they disregard the other two realms of life – psychic and spiritual. In that case they have been reduced to one third.

Note 2: REFERENCES

1. Ananda Vacanamrtam – 30, Human Expressions and Human Movements
2. Subhasita Samgraha – 3
3. Caryacarya-2, ‘Sadhana’, point #5
4. Ananda Marga Ideology and Way of Life – 7
5. Namah Shivaya Shantaya, Disc: 14
6. Ananda Vacanamrtam – 23
7. Ananda Vacanamrtam – 31
8. Ananda Vacanamrtam – 7
9. Ananda Vacanamrtam – 4
10. Ananda Vanii #73
11. Ananda Marga Philosophy in a Nutshell Part 6, Ekendriya – 2
12. Subhasita Samgraha – 12, To Whom Do You Belong? Where Do You Come From?
13. Subhasita Samgraha – 12, To Whom Do You Belong? Where Do You Come From?
14. Subhasita Samgraha – 12, To Whom Do You Belong? Where Do You Come From?
15. Subhasita Samgraha – 12, To Whom Do You Belong? Where Do You Come From?
16. Subhasita Samgraha – 12, To Whom Do You Belong? Where Do You Come From?
17. Subhasita Samgraha – 1, The Call of the Supreme
18. Neo-Humanism in a Nutshell – 12, Existential Flow and Its Culminating Point
19. Subhasita Samgraha – 12, To Whom Do You Belong? Where Do You Come From?

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This Earth is Not Our Permanent Abode

We Do Not Know When, But One Day We Will Go

Baba says, “Numerous rich and beautiful cities of the historic past are now buried under the earth. Many splendid palaces and mansions, many churches, temples, mosques and synagogues, and many pyramids have been reduced to rubble. With the constant change in the flow of time, how many major changes have occurred in the universe? Similarly, with the change in time and space, people also change. A small two year old child becomes a smart and active twenty-five year old youth. And the same energetic youth becomes an infirm, inactive old person in due course. Thus, nothing in this universe is permanent. Many gigantic animals of the past have become totally extinct from the surface of the earth. Royal pomp and opulence, the pride of power, the vast knowledge of mighty scholars have become things of the past, thrown into the dustbin of history. Many objects emerged in the past, remained on earth for a short time, and then disappeared according to the inexorable law of nature.”

“The only eternal truth is Parama Purus’a. He is Ana’di, beginningless, endless, all-pervasive; an entity beyond the scope of time, place and person. He is the only eternal, undecaying, imperishable, immutable entity. He is the Supreme Source from which the inanimate, plant and animal worlds have emerged. He is the starting point and the culminating point of everything. Hence, wise people should utilise their
physical, psychic and spiritual power to realise that supreme omnitelepathic entity, to become one with Him.” (Prout in a Nutshell – 18, p.6)

Note: Please read Baba’s above teaching again carefully. It explains everything.
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From: dgp.1@mananerssmarket….
To: am-global@earthlink.net
Date: Sat, 12 Jan 2013 21:58:43 00:00)
Subject: Answer: Parents Who Had Police Arrest Their Teenage Daughter

Baba

== ANSWER: PARENTS WHO HAD POLICE ARREST THEIR TEENAGE DAUGHTER ==

Namaskar,
Many replied to the recently posted article (link below) about the parents who had police officials arrest their teenage daughter and her friend. Here below is a point-by-point evaluation, according to the tenets of Ananda Marga teachings and philosophy.

The following then is in response to the query: Was it appropriate and beneficial for the parents to have their daughter and her friend arrested?

PARENTS ARE TO BE HELD RESPONSIBLE

– As parents, they are responsible for imparting proper ideals to their children. But this they failed to do: They are the cause, not the kids.

– Those parents had the power to forgive those kids for doing wrong as it was a mistake in personal life, not collective life. That is Baba’s teaching: To forgive people for personal mistakes, i.e. if they harm you personally.

Baba says, “In individual life you can extend maximum forgiveness – rather, the more forgiveness, the better.” (1)

But those parents did not take such an approach. Rather, by arresting their teenage daughter, those parents acted out of vengeance and spite.

– When the parents took that big step to call the police and have their child arrested, then they essentially ruined the short and long-term relation with their child. Instead of acting as benevolent parents watching for the welfare of their priceless child, they acted like agents interested in punishing a wrongdoer. Naturally, that child will always recall how their parents acted towards them.

HOW PARENTS TEACH THEIR CHILDREN TO LIE

Here are some of Baba’s key teachings on this topic:

“When the parents are about to go on a trip or go to a show, or when they are invited to a pleasant function or a social outing, the children may start whining or nattering to accompany them. At such times many parents tell lies without a qualm; somehow they dupe their children and leave. When the children realize what has happened, they also learn to tell lies; and to hide their intentions or their actions from their parents, they gradually start lying more and more.”
“Parents deceive their children in many ways. By calling sweet things bitter and pleasant things unpleasant, they prevent their children from enjoying them. But by disregarding parental injunctions and prying inquisitively, as is the wont of human nature, children discover the truth. Then they realize that their parents have been deceiving them. As a result they start deceiving not only their parents, but their friends and classmates as well. So it is abundantly clear that children are taught the first lessons in the arts of lying and deception by their own parents at home.”
“In a family it is natural that differences of opinion will arise among the adults; when they do, the adults should reconcile their differences considering each other’s opinions. Unfortunately they often lack the requisite mental make-up to reach an amicable agreement – each tries to convince everybody else of his or her viewpoint without caring about the opinions of others. The result is an outburst of unreasonable obstinacy – the adults lose all self-control and behave in a gross and vulgar manner. The effect on the minds of the children is disastrous. Children thus learn obstinacy from their elders. If the mother or those with whom the children spend most of their time is obstinate, the neglected children will, in most cases, become noticeably obstinate, and they will have to carry this psychic ailment around with them for a long time. If, on the other hand, as is sometimes the case, the wishes and desires (if they are not unreasonable) of children are fulfilled, the children will not have the opportunity to learn obstinacy.” (2)

PARENTS MUST IMPART MORAL AND SPIRITUAL EDUCATION

“It must be the teachers’ responsibility to impart knowledge, teach restraint in social life, and give instruction about all the various aspects of collective endeavour, but the parents will have to take on most of the responsibility for the moral and spiritual education of the child. It should be the duty of society as a whole to ensure that the children of immoral and unrighteousness parents are brought up as virtuous citizens. If possible such children should be removed from the unwholesome environment of their parents.” (3)

PRIMARY RESPONSIBILITY LIES WITH PARENTS OR GUARDIANS

“The mental outlook of children has already been moulded in a particular fashion by the influence of their family environment before they start school. No matter what or how much they learn at school, it is extremely difficult for them to free themselves from the influence of their family. Drawing on what they have learned in the family, the immature minds of children begin to learn about the world and understand it, and to receive ideas and master language so that they can express those ideas. Unhesitatingly they adopt their elders’ way of looking at the world. Hence the primary responsibility for acquainting children with the world lies with their parents or guardians. Children will become assets of society in the future to the extent that their parents or guardians discharge their duties properly.” (4)

“But who will impart moral training or education? Parents find fault with teachers, and teachers in turn argue that they cannot give personal attention to an individual child in a crowd of two or three hundred children. Although it is true that most parents are either uneducated or semi-educated, and while it is not unreasonable to expect that teachers will be well-educated, it is not proper to place the sole responsibility for children’s moral education on the shoulders of their teachers. Increasing the number of teachers in educational institutions may partially solve the problem of moral education, but the key to the solution lies with the parents themselves. In cases where the parents are unfit to shoulder this responsibility, the teachers and well-wishers of society will have to come forward and demonstrate their greater sense of responsibility.”
“Remember, humanity’s very existence is based on morality; when morality leads human beings to the fullest expression of their finer human qualities, then alone is its practical value fully realized. The concerted effort to bridge the gap between the first expression of morality and establishment in universal humanism is called “social progress”. And the collective body of those who are engaged in the concerted effort to conquer this gap, I call “society”.” (5)

GUILTY OF ENCOURAGING ANTI-SOCIAL MENTALITY

“Some parents may claim that it is impossible to maintain a balanced life in an age full of problems, where they are extremely busy with numerous activities. I maintain, however, that it is possible for an intelligent parent to avoid the mistakes I have discussed. If parents fail to carry out their basic duties, I am compelled to say that, although they live in society, they are guilty of encouraging an antisocial mentality. By encouraging their children to develop a criminal psychology, they give unnecessary trouble to the police. The main point is this: for want of a little care, children are deprived of the opportunity to become complete human beings, even though they have a human structure. (6)

ROLE OF SAMA’JA GURUS

“Whatever thoughts any small child, or boy or girl, or adolescent, youth, middle-aged person or old person may have in their individual lives, in family life it is the responsibility of the guardians of the family to control them. Children are generally like their parents. But the overall responsibility of guardianship lies with the samája gurus. They should see that no one’s thoughts cross the line from that which it would be better to forsake, to that which is actually punishable. And as in individual life, so in social life, the samája gurus should see that the collective thinking does not cross the line from that which it would be better to forsake, to that which is actually punishable. If, in spite of everything, people’s defective thoughts do reach the stage of punishability, indiscipline will affect the entire social structure. To put an end to the indiscipline and restore order to social life is the major responsibility of a sadvipra. For this reason there is no place for carefree relaxation in a sadvipra’s life. A sadvipra has to bear, and staunchly bear, the entire responsibility of protecting society. If the mentality of any group of the society reaches the punishable stage, sadvipras will have to form another and more disciplined group.” (7)

KEEPING BAD COMPANY CAUSES DEPRAVITY

“If the parents or older members of a family are quarrelsome, the children will also become quarrelsome due to constant association. Similarly, if the women of a family have a highly critical nature, the children will invariably become critical because they will learn how to criticize from their elders. Children will also tend to become depraved if they associate too closely with older children in schools or colleges. When they stay among children their own age, however, they generally play in an innocent, joyous way. Childhood companions should be selected with great care, but young children are incapable of doing this.”
“The base propensities which lie dormant in everyone are easily stimulated by constant association with bad people. Through the united efforts of parents, people living in the locality and educators, it may be possible to save children from bad company. But it is very difficult to save them from the evil influences which reside in their own homes or preponderate in their neighbourhood. The only way to overcome such influences is to popularize the ideals of dharma, spread moral education and train an honest police force.”
“In the modern world there is a wide variety of films which excite the passions and have a degrading influence on boys and girls, adolescents and young men and women. Such films create in cinema-goers the desire to emulate in their individual lives the criminal activities, the vulgar expressions of love, or the adventurous behaviour that they see enacted on the screen. This is another example of how keeping bad company causes depravity. Many cinema-goers imagine that the characters that they see on the screen are their actual acquaintances, but when they try to emulate these characters, they discover that the real world is much tougher than the world portrayed by the cinema. If their family ties are weak, if they are their own guardians or if they have no high ideals to inspire them, it will be extremely difficult, although not impossible, to save them from bad influences.
“As long as those who become criminals due to keeping bad company are not transformed into habitual criminals, they will return to their normal good behaviour as soon as they give up the bad company. Therefore, during the trials of such criminals, corrective measures should be taken only after giving due consideration to the company they keep and the influence of this company on their behaviour. But in the case of those who have become habitual criminals, simply removing them from bad company will not suffice, because they themselves are their own bad company. For them, stricter measures will be needed.” (8)

With regards to the current case, certainly those teens must have gotten such an idea by reading novels, watching films, or playing video games etc. That is why we say that society is responsible.

IN ANANDA MARGA KIDS ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE (FOR THEIR WRONGDOING)

By reading Baba’s above teachings it is clear that kids are not responsible for their wrongdoing. The responsibility lies first and foremost with parents. They must inculcate moral and spiritual codes to the child. Next, teachers are responsible for inspiring students and imparting knowledge. And finally, society is responsible for the upbringing of the child.

According to Ananda Marga philosophy, here is the hierarchy of responsibility for the child’s proper growth and development:
1) Parents;
2) Teachers;
3) Society.

Here following are points for how to address the situation if the kids are older and more mature (i.e. above 18 years of age). Then these following steps are important considerations that may help to resolve some of the issues.

WHAT TO DO IN SIMILAR SITUATION

IF BOYS AND GIRLS ARE MORE MATURE ETC

– Another key point to bear in mind is that in Ananda Marga, if anyone does any wrong, then we follow Baba’a given steps for shasti – rectification. And the first step is: “First attempt to bring the guilty person around through sweet words.” (9)

As the article did not indicate that the girls were repeat offenders etc, then we can safely assume this is their first offense of this nature. In that case, according to Ananda Marga ideals, the parents should have talked to the children in a kind and gentle manner. Most kids are soft-hearted and by explaining things in the soft and safe way, the children might have immediately felt terribly about what they had done. This is a highly possible outcome, but it seems such an opportunity never came their way.

Yet this approach would have helped so much: The children would have understood their wrong; the children would have realised that their parents really do love them and are not out to get them per se; the children would have gained a greater perspective of the situation; and, the teens would have realised they themselves could have done things differently.

This is a distinct possibility if Guru’s teachings on shasti had been followed:

“First attempt to bring the guilty person around through sweet words.” (10)

KIDS WERE NOT TAUGHT ABOUT THE RULE

– From the outset, the parents may not have tried to teach and show their teenage daughter that their rule about internet use was for her well-being. If they spoke in a gentle manner, this could have been conveyed. But the kids were never lovingly taught this idea. Instead they felt that a harsh and unfair rule had been imposed on them. So they took action to side-step this rule.

YOUTHS TAKE RISKS

– First off, we have to bear in mind that these two girls are just teenagers. Their minds and bodies are not fully developed; their brain is not fully developed, including the frontal lobe which is critically important for evaluating risky situations. Being teens, only 15 years old or so, they cannot assess the inherent dangers of a situation. They did not consider the consequences of their action. The following article explains more about this:

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2396566/

– It seems quite clear that their intention was not to seriously harm their parents. If so, they would have inserted a lethal dose of that drug. Instead, they aimed to put their parents to sleep earlier. That does not justify what they did, but it does give a perspective of their overall motivation and intention.

KIDS PRISONS ARE NOT THE SOLUTION

– Once parents take the radical step of having their child arrested by the police, then it is basically certain that those kids will never remain at home again. As soon as possible they will leave their parents and never look back.

– Kids prison is not the right place to learn good habits. Rather in such institutions, detained youths (inmates) brag about the wrongs they did. When those kids tell everyone what they did, then those inmates will not be impressed. Rather they will say, “You should have done more.” In kids prison, prestige is earned by how much harm one has done. Teens will get all the wrong teachings in such a detention center.

– Kids prison itself is not the solution – that is purely a punitive measure where teen inmates will become emotionally and psychically scarred. Here we have to remember that in Ananda Marga, our approach towards justice is towards rectification; it is not punitive in nature.

Ananda Marga philosophy says, “People only have the right to take corrective measures and not punitive measures…for the preservation of society, if people want to take measures against others, those measures will have to be corrective, not punitive. Even if the judicial system is defective, if only corrective measures are taken then there is no possibility of anyone coming to any harm.” (11)

MUST PERSUADE TO DO GOOD – CANNOT FORCE IT

– Ultimately, the parents want their kids to be good. But one cannot make others become good through force – i.e. by threatening them and by having them arrested etc. That does not make a person good; goodness cannot be achieved through forced. Rather, to make a person good one must persuade, nurture, and encourage them.

“You can help someone to become good by making him understand, but no one becomes good through the application of force. You may persuade, you may bring them onto the path of righteousness by helping them to understand. This you can certainly do. If the sinner is engaged in sinful acts or keeps moving ahead on a sinful path, you can prevent that person from doing so by the application of force. But you cannot rectify him in this way.” (12)

AFTER BEING ARRESTED…

– After being arrested, the kids will have a poor self-image. They will not think highly of themselves, but will rather feel that they are lowly. This is the unfortunate psychic complex that they will suffer from: low self-esteem, i.e. that they are not good people.

– After being arrested, the future of those kids might be severely compromised. The distinct possibility is that their record may or may not be stained for life. Certainly if they try to run for public office their criminal history will become known to all. And even if they do not aim for public office, the police and society might always look upon them as convicts – in which case they will have trouble even getting a job. In many other fields of work such as childcare, nursing, counseling etc, they may be forced to give an oral or written response to queries about their past legalities etc. All because the parents chose to arrest those two teens, instead of talking to them in a caring and loving way.

Namaskar,
in Him,
Dharmendra

Note 1: LINK TO THE ORIGINAL LETTER ON THIS TOPIC

Here is a link to the first letter on this topic – and that posting contain the entire news article about this case of the parents having their child arrested.

http://am-global-01.blogspot.com/2013/01/domestic-issue-what-will-you-do-in-this.html

Note 2: CITATIONS

1. Ananda Marga Ideology and Way of Life – 11, Taking the Opposite Stance in Battle
2. Human Society Part 1, Education
3. Human Society Part 1, Education
4. Human Society Part 1, Education
5. Human Society Part 1, Moralism
6. Human Society Part 1, Education
7. Human Society Part 1, Justice
8. Human Society Part 1, Justice
9. Caryacarya – 2, Society, Pt # 28(a)
10. Caryacarya – 2, Society, Pt # 28(a)
11. Human Society Part 1, Justice
12. Ananda Vacanamrtam – 10

The section below demarcated by asterisks is an entirely different topic, completely unrelated to the above letter.
It stands on its own as a point of interest.

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One Should Assess Oneself on the Following
Baba says, “When human beings feel that, ‘Parama Purusa is my everything’, then that is called as sharan (shelter). No being can come under the sharan (shelter) of two different Entities. So what is the meaning of sharanagati (surrender)? When living beings give up their ‘I-feeling’ by withdrawing the mind from any other object and completely adopt the feeling that Parama Purusa alone is my everything.”
“Up to the time when any person is thinking that they are working with their own strength, then we should understand that the feeling of sharanagati has not yet come in them. And when human beings think that, ‘I am doing the work only with His strength’, it means the feeling of sharanagati has come in their mind. So when living beings start thinking that, ‘Whatever work I am doing, I am doing with His strength’, then they have the feeling of sharanagati.” (General Darshan, Patna DMC, 1970, [from audio tape])
Note: In general parlance people think, “I have done this or that”, but whatever may be, according to this quote such persons do not have sharanagati. In various meetings, sadhakas might brag, “I did this, or this was done by me.” They may think they are a devotee but they do not have sharanagati. All should measure their spiritual status by their inner feeling.
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From: “Sushiila” s.u.bhakti@lab…edu
To: am-global@earthlink.net
Subject: Domestic Issue: What Will You Do In This Situation?
Date: Sun, 06 Jan 2013 11:21:48

Baba

== DOMESTIC ISSUE: WHAT WILL YOU DO IN THIS SITUATION? ==

Namaskar,
Please read the following short article where parents had their teen-aged daughter arrested: “A daughter and her friend allegedly put sleeping pills in the drinks so they could break a rule and use the Internet past 10 p.m.”

According to Ananda Marga philosophy, what is our perspective on this matter? As an Ananda Margii, what you you think should be done in such a circumstance – should the daughter have been arrested?

Awaiting your reply,
Yours in Him,
Sushiila

Girls accused of spiking parents’ milkshakes

A daughter and her friend allegedly put sleeping pills in the drinks so they could break a rule and use the Internet past 10 p.m.

Kate Mather, Los Angeles Times
January 4, 2013

Two teenage girls were arrested in Northern California this week after they used sleeping pill-laced milkshakes to drug one girl’s parents because they wouldn’t let her use the Internet past 10 p.m., police said.

The incident unfolded in Rocklin — about 20 miles northeast of Sacramento — the night of Dec. 28, when the parents fell asleep about an hour after drinking milkshakes their 16-year-old daughter and her 15-year-old friend brought them from a fast food restaurant, Rocklin Police Lt. Lon Milka said Thursday. The parents woke up in the middle of the night feeling “really groggy” with “hangover symptoms,” Milka said, but had not been drinking.

When they woke up again the next morning, they still felt “really odd,” Milka said, and “figured that something was wrong.”

The couple went to the Rocklin police station and picked up $5 drug kits typically used by parents to test their children for drugs, Milka said. After the tests picked up traces of drugs, the parents contacted authorities and took their daughter to the police station.

Investigators later learned that the girls crushed prescription sleeping pills and put them in the milkshakes so the parents would fall asleep and they could use the Internet past the 10 p.m. curfew.

“Mom and Dad had the Internet cut off nightly at 10 p.m.,” Milka said. “The daughter wanted to use it past 10 because I guess they’re like most teenagers and the Internet is their life.”

The parents didn’t end up drinking all of the milkshakes because they were “kind of gritty” and “really funny tasting,” Milka said.

The girls, whose names were not released because of their ages, were booked on Dec. 31 in Placer County Juvenile Hall on suspicion of conspiracy and willfully mingling a pharmaceutical into food. Milka said it would be up to prosecutors to decide whether charges would be filed.

Milka said it was unclear what websites the girls accessed while the parents were asleep.

“It’s the first I’ve ever heard of it,” he said. “Kids are crazy these days.”

http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-0104-parents-drugged-20130104,0,6488064.story

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