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From: “Mamata & Satiish”
To: am-global@earthlink.net
Subject: Children’s Problems: Who Is Responsible
Date: Thu, 13 Dec 2012 21:27:36 +0530

Baba

== CHILDREN’S PROBLEMS: WHO IS RESPONSIBLE ==

Namaskar,
Here Baba outlines the early education process and the development of children, as well as who is responsible.

Baba says, “The mental outlook of children has already been moulded in a particular fashion by the influence of their family environment before they start school. No matter what or how much they learn at school, it is extremely difficult for them to free themselves from the influence of their family. Drawing on what they have learned in the family, the immature minds of children begin to learn about the world and understand it, and to receive ideas and master language so that they can express those ideas. Unhesitatingly they adopt their elders’ way of looking at the world. Hence the primary responsibility for acquainting children with the world lies with their parents or guardians. Children will become assets of society in the future to the extent that their parents or guardians discharge their duties properly.”

“I have no hesitation in saying that today’s adults have not yet developed a scientific method of training children’s minds. Even most so-called educated and refined people, let alone average adults, are either ignorant about or indifferent to the education of their children. Their ignorance may be pardoned, but how can we forgive their indifference? The family into which a child has been born will naturally have to bear the primary responsibility for the physical, mental and spiritual development of that child.” (Human Society – 1, Education)

MORE ABOUT EARLY CHILDHOOD EDUCATION

So Baba places tremendous emphasis on early childhood development. We all know that Baba wants us to have pre-schools and elementary schools in all towns and villages around the globe. So Teachers have a grand role to play; yet, as cited above and below, He also places great importance on the role of parents.

Baba says, “It must be the teachers’ responsibility to impart knowledge, teach restraint in social life, and give instruction about all the various aspects of collective endeavour, but the parents will have to take on most of the responsibility for the moral and spiritual education of the child.” (Human Society – 1)

Thus in our schools and in our homes, children are to be surrounded by loving, caring, responsible adults who are tuned in to the needs, problems and yearnings of our youths. And from an early age they are to be introduced to the ways of neo-humanism and a cosmic outlook.

If from the very beginning children feel a sense of connection to others around them and to the universe as a whole, they will feel they have a place in this world. They will feel loved and share love with others, seeing all as their family members. They will feel like they are a part of humanity – not alienated by it.

For these reasons, Baba places a grand emphasis on the early experiences of children, both inside and outside of school. If the child has this proper base, then bullying – and so many other childhood issues that abound today – will never be an issue in their life.

OUR RESPONSE

With the situation of bullying as serious as it is, the issue demands resolution.

Tragically, all too often, parents are too busy to even know that their children are going through such traumatic events. Parents work 10 or 12 hours days, see their kids for a few minutes at night, and hardly have time to eat dinner together let alone talk about meaningful matters. Besides, when there is a basic gap in parent-child communication, then things mostly go unnoticed and unaddressed.

If and when some parents do come to know that their kids are getting bullied, they often respond with a phrase like, “Don’t worry, just make some other friends.”

This is most harmful as it shoves the problem under the rug. This only worsens the situation and allows it to fester, causing lifelong problems like fear complexes, alienation, despair, nightmares, and depression.

As parents, our approach must be extremely pro-active when it comes to bullying.

1. Parents must tune in, come forward and pay concern to their child’s physical and emotional needs. For children, getting bullied is a frightening thing. Kids must feel that they are loved and that as parents we are concerned with their problem.

2. Parents must go to school and resolve the situation with the principal and / or teachers. This type of direct action is needed.

3. If needed, parents must place their kids in a different school or different learning environment.

4. Parents should also look into creating alternative social opportunities for their children by having their kids meet up with kids from a different neighborhood on the weekend. The kids should not be around those same children who bully them.

5. Parents must be very aware of what kinds of friends their children have. Friends are a huge component of a child’s life and can be a telltale sign of what direction your child’s life is progressing.

6. Again and again, parents must enforce the sentiment that “You are mine and I love you very much” within their child’s mind. This must start from Day 1 and be reinforced every day and every night by providing a safe environment for their kids where they are included, loved, and embraced.

We have to remember that school and friends are everything for children. Just as we work for a proper stature in society, our kids do the same. As devastating as it is for us to lose our place in the world, it is doubly scarring for children.

We must take their problems like bullying as monumental occurrences and not minimise the problem as being petty. Should we talk down or pooh-pooh the problem, our kids will never tell us anything again. It will block all communication and the problem will fester.

Tragically this is what we see happening again and again in today’s materialistic society. And the result is that we have children graduating from schools with a whole basket of psychic and emotional issues that hinder them for the rest of their life. And we have children who are grossly disconnected from their families and communities.

Thus, as parents, teachers, counselors, concerned neighbors and school administrators, we should address this problem of bullying in a very forthright and direct manner. Failing that, we are inviting a whole slew of issues for our children, as well as losing their trust.

CHALLENGES OF THIS MODERN WORLD

Here below Baba points out the challenges of living in today’s world which is marred by imbalances and incongruities.

Baba says, “It can be said that ordinary people, like teachers, face many types of problem in their lives; in fact teachers’ problems are only a reflection of larger social problems. It is quite true that in the modern material world strenuous efforts to conquer the limitations of time, place and person are apparent everywhere. It is as if human beings are being forcibly dragged forward by the hair of their heads. Speed is the main consideration; whether any good is accomplished or not is a secondary factor. Thus different social trends are unable to maintain a harmonious pace in their forward movement. Some trends are far advanced in their development while others lag behind. This causes some parts of the social structure which were close together to move apart, and other parts which were once apart to come together, leading to the collapse of the entire structure. The thatched hut is still the same, but electrical wiring has been strung through it. The only food available is salt and boiled rice, but the ordinary old clay stove has been replaced by an electric “heater” [hotplate]. Such incongruities are now common in society.” (Human Society – 1, Education)

Next Baba outlines key points about parenting in this modern era: Pitfalls and answers.

“The views established in our psychic world regarding the different trends of life have so unnaturally diverged from one another that the naturalness of the human mind has been spoiled. Human beings have lost the capacity to think anything, but somehow pass their days with a lot of hollow, mechanical mental objects. The caravan of our social life thus rolls on.”

“So today parents may rightly say, “We have almost no vital energy left after exchanging blows and counter-blows with life. We have no chance to mould the minds of our children with the care and tenderness of our hearts. All the sweetness and finer sensibilities of our minds have been sucked dry by the harsh realities of life. How can we take care of our children? We cannot even provide them with proper food and clothing. How can we know what they are thinking? Do we have the time to understand anything properly at all? We know children should be taught through the medium of play and entertainment, both at home and outside, but is it possible for us to do that? We even have to disturb our talented son at his studies to send him to the grocer’s to buy salt, cooking oil, spices, etc. We know it is wrong, but there is no alternative, for keeping a servant is beyond our means.””

“There may be some truth in this, but it is not the point at issue here. In order to develop a healthy outlook, the most important thing children need is robust idealism. To impart this, parents require only two virtues: self-restraint and good judgement. Let us discuss good judgement first.”

“The method of extracting work by terrorizing the minds of children is not only made use of by a particular type of teacher, it is also often still more harmfully practised by parents. They frighten their children, tell them lies, engage in scurrilous brawls before them, and deceive and torment them; but they still expect that some day their children will become respectable members of society – that their children will bring glory to their family name. When their children are reluctant to drink milk or sleep, they terrify them by invoking imaginary goblins or frightful ghosts. Children initially have no fear, yet a fearful panorama is played out before them. Through this practice the parents may achieve some temporary gain, but even if the children wait a lifetime, they can never be compensated for the harm done to them. Even when these same children attain young adulthood, the thought of ghosts will not leave their minds – ghosts will become their permanent companions.”

“When the parents are about to go on a trip or go to a show, or when they are invited to a pleasant function or a social outing, the children may start whining or nattering to accompany them. At such times many parents tell lies without a qualm; somehow they dupe their children and leave. When the children realize what has happened, they also learn to tell lies; and to hide their intentions or their actions from their parents, they gradually start lying more and more.”

“Parents deceive their children in many ways. By calling sweet things bitter and pleasant things unpleasant, they prevent their children from enjoying them. But by disregarding parental injunctions and prying inquisitively, as is the wont of human nature, children discover the truth. Then they realize that their parents have been deceiving them. As a result they start deceiving not only their parents, but their friends and classmates as well. So it is abundantly clear that children are taught the first lessons in the arts of lying and deception by their own parents at home.”

“In a family it is natural that differences of opinion will arise among the adults; when they do, the adults should reconcile their differences considering each other’s opinions. Unfortunately they often lack the requisite mental make-up to reach an amicable agreement – each tries to convince everybody else of his or her viewpoint without caring about the opinions of others. The result is an outburst of unreasonable obstinacy – the adults lose all self-control and behave in a gross and vulgar manner. The effect on the minds of the children is disastrous. Children thus learn obstinacy from their elders. If the mother or those with whom the children spend most of their time is obstinate, the neglected children will, in most cases, become noticeably obstinate, and they will have to carry this psychic ailment around with them for a long time. If, on the other hand, as is sometimes the case, the wishes and desires (if they are not unreasonable) of children are fulfilled, the children will not have the opportunity to learn obstinacy.”

“In some families the parents have lost their peace of mind due to poverty or some other cause and oppress their children with or without reason. Naturally the children lose respect for their parents, which further aggravates family indiscipline. The parents have to put up with more unrest, adding to their lack of peace.”

“Parents who are middle- or high-level officials in the public works or police departments have to get work done through others or supervise manual labourers or subordinates, so they often forget to talk sweetly. Some become accustomed to using abusive language, and some to issuing commands. Due to this their children do not have an opportunity to learn to speak with restraint. Such children suffer from a superiority complex, even within their circle of friends. In their future lives it will be extremely difficult for them to love people and create a congenial social environment.”

“Some parents may claim that it is impossible to maintain a balanced life in an age full of problems, where they are extremely busy with numerous activities. I maintain, however, that it is possible for an intelligent parent to avoid the mistakes I have discussed. If parents fail to carry out their basic duties, I am compelled to say that, although they live in society, they are guilty of encouraging an antisocial mentality. By encouraging their children to develop a criminal psychology, they give unnecessary trouble to the police. The main point is this: for want of a little care, children are deprived of the opportunity to become complete human beings, even though they have a human structure.” (Discourses on Neohumanist Education)

BABA’S BLESSING

By His grace, all have come into this world to flower, bloom, and blossom. That is the dharma of human beings. When society itself blocks this progress, problems abound. Many problems associated with child rearing and parenting are a direct result of materialism. From there, social ills abound. This entire situation demands our critical attention; otherwise, a neo-humanistic society will remain out of reach. I hope others will take up this important topic and share their thoughts – our kids deserve it, and our society needs it.

Namaskar,
in Him,
Mamata

PRABHAT SAMGIITA

“Toma’ya a’mi bhla’loba’si, a’mi toma’ra a’jina’ka’ri…” P.S. 4589

Purport:

Baba, I love You. By Your grace always I feel blessed to obey or carry out Your divine order. By Your endless compassion, I spend all my days involved in shravan, manan, and nidhidhyasana. All my time is spent chanting and hearing Your blissful name and thinking of You. By Your unfathomable grace, I am always engaged in Your ideation.

Baba, in true sense I do not know whether I love You or not. I do not even want to know whether I am loving You or not. All I know is that my heart is yearning for You. Baba, please be gracious and compassionate and bless me with more and more devotion. This is the only thing I want – to remain close at Your lotus feet.

Baba, with my whole existence – my body, heart, & mind, I do sastaunga pranam at Your lotus feet. Baba, please grant me ragatmika devotion so I may serve and love You and remain in Your closest proximity.

Baba, You are the most gracious One…

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Date: 07 Dec 2012 21:42:20 -0000
From: “Shanti Devii”
To: am-global@earthlink.net
Subject: Children Should Know How They Came Here & Their Relation With Others

Baba

== CHILDREN SHOULD KNOW HOW THEY CAME HERE & THEIR RELATION WITH OTHERS ==

Namaskar,
“We must consider: When and how should we guide our children about our Ananda Marga creation theory.

Should we wait until our children reach a certain age when they can understand philosophy, grasp abstruse concepts of “Idea & Ideology”, and comprehend challenging topics like jadasphota, shambhuliunga, sadrsha parin’a’ma etc?

Otherwise, when and how should we approach this topic with our kids.

After all, this is an everyday reality for most of us: What is the best way to guide our children. Because inevitably, either on the home-front, in school, or on the internet, this important topic of creation will be raised. And if we do not give a reply – or if our reply is not satisfactory to their ears – then our children will get the ‘lesson’ elsewhere.

If we don’t teach our children from where they have come, then they are bound to learn from the general society that human beings are just bones, flesh, and blood – nothing more.

That is why many margii parents, acaryas, neo-humanistic teachers, and sadhakas have concluded that, ‘Yes, we should teach Ananda Marga creation theory to our children’; and, one of the best ways is to emulate the exact manner in which Baba Himself has explained it to His simple devotees.

The content of this letter is based on Baba’s original Hindi discourse delivered in one general darshan in Patna (1965) where He explained Ananda Marga creation theory in very easy-to-understand language.” (From the posting titled: “Loneliness & Monotony Were the Cause”)

Yes, teaching creation theory to our young ones and youths is paramount. Without that they will not have a base in life.

Based on the aforementioned Patna darshan, I wish to encapsulate how we are to impart creation theory in story form to our children. It proceeds and concludes as a very simple story that should be narrated in a colourful and personal manner.

Parama Purusa was all alone. He was all by Himself. There was no one around. Naturally He wanted some companionship – someone to play with. After all, who likes to be alone – all the time? We all like to have family and friends around us. Then we feel joyous. Similarly, Parama Purusa also wanted some company – someone to laugh and smile with.

But there was nothing. He wanted to create something; He wanted to create someone, so He would not be all alone. But how?

If you want to create any toy, then material is needed like wood, plastic, metal, or rubber. And with that material you can create whatever toy you like. So Parama Purusa was alone and there was no material by which He could create various things. So He put one portion of His mind away. By doing so, the needed material was created. And that process of creating material is called saincara.

When that material was ready, He then created plants, animals, small and big birds, dogs, monkeys, chimpanzees and finally human beings. In that way, He made this creation where everyone has mind – in some the mind is less developed and in others it is more developed. All though are part and parcel of His universal family. By this way, Parama Purusa was no longer alone and humans came into existence. This is called pratisaincara.

Following Baba’s Patna (1965) discourse is such a beautiful and wonderful way of explaining this created universe. Parama Purusa was all alone and to have someone to play with He set aside part of His mind and manifested this whole cosmological order through this cycle of brahmacakra, i.e. saincara & pratisaincara.

Such is the way of Parama Purusa. He is the Cosmic Father and He loves all and He is attracting and calling all the jiivas back to Him. With His divine attraction He pulls everyone. This is the natural process that is unfolding in this universe.

This is the way our Ananda Marga creation theory works. As we introduce children to this through story, they will be greatly benefited.

THIS MAKES EVERY CHILD’S EXISTENCE GOLDEN

Ultimately, by Baba’s grace, this entire Ananda Marga creation theory gives children a huge lift in life. Because, with this teaching, with this outlook, in that tender age of early childhood development, our children will:

(1) Gain a clear conception of who they are, as well as from where they have come. They will know they are the sons and daughters of Parama Purusa and realise they have come from Him. Having these answers set in their mind gives tremendous reassurance and confidence in life.

(2) Understand what is their Goal in life. They will know that Parama Purusa is watching over them each and every moment. By this way, they will not run around searching “hither and thither” for meaning in life, but rather know that they already have a mission and a Goal.

(3) Know what is this universe. They will feel in the mind and heart that they live in a God-centered universe and that this entire cosmic expression is the manifestation of Parama Purusa, in various ways, shapes, and forms.

(4) Have an appreciation for what their relationship is with others. They will naturally feel that since Parama Purusa is their Father, then certainly all the other things which He has created – from mountains to hilltops and from oceans to ponds, from eagles to ants and from hippos to giraffes – are valued aspects of this creation. They will feel that they are to care for those landscapes, animals, and plants since they are also the expression of Parama Purusa – Cosmic Entity. Plus our children will have the inherent idea that all their neighbors, classmates, friends, and all humans are part of the same cosmic family, since everyone has come from Him. In that case, when in a natural manner this entire Ananda Marga creation theory has been suffused in the tender, young minds of our children, then surely their life on this earth will be peaceful and blissful. Their journey will be smooth and dharmic as they will have all the tools & insight to attain success in all the realms.

By instilling the ideas and values of our Ananda Marga creation theory in the minds of our young ones, there will be less of a tendency for them to stray from the path. They will march directly up to Him and be brought on His divine Lap.

MUST START AT AN EARLY AGE

So having this creation theory established in mind, then surely our children will grow in a benevolent way and look at the world in a neo-humanistic manner. They will feel that everything is part and parcel of Him and that they are connected with all.

In that case they will never feel alone or uncared for. They will not fall prey to cynicism nor feel that ‘nobody loves me’. And they will not think that they have come here to exploit everyone else – as if this entire creation is just for their own selfish enjoyment. The demerits of a materialistic outlook will never take root in their mind – so long as our Ananda Marga creation theory is nicely conveyed them in those tender years of early childhood development.

We should not wait longer than that. And this all fits with our entire spiritual approach since Baba Himself says that our children should start learning and practicing sadhana at the age of five.

Our Sadguru says, “It is very difficult to get a human life. Only after living life after life as an insect or a worm, etc., does one attain a human body – and then only if one is very lucky. Those who utilize this body for noble deeds are few, and those who utilize this life for spiritual progress are even fewer; so as I have attained a human body, the more I utilize it for noble deeds from an early age, the better it will be. As it is difficult to attain a human body, and even more difficult to attain a body which can be utilized properly, one should start a life of spirituality from the age of five.” (8 November 1978 morning, Kolkata)

Hence from an early age Baba wants that our young ones get all the fundamentals of neo-humanism and spirituality – and that includes knowing our Ananda Marga creation theory.

BABA’S BLESSING

By Baba’s grace, knowing our Ananda Marga creation theory, our children will easily realise their relation of love with Him and become inspired sadhakas who attain the height of human existence – life divine.

Baba says, “We have all come from Parama Puruśa – the Supreme Entity – and from the práńa-kendra, the nucleus of the universe – that is, Puruśottama. We have to return to the same place. It is like a boy who has played throughout the day away in the fields, and now that evening comes, returns home. Sádhaná is the process of returning home. The child has played outside for the whole day. As evening approaches, he thinks, “Father must have returned home. Let me also return home and sit next to him.” ” (Ananda Marga Ideology and Way of Life – 11, Mantra Caetanya)

Namaskar,
At His lotus feet,
Shanti

Note 1: DO NOT MISS THIS OPPORTUNITY

Young children embrace stories, fairy tales, and all kinds of imaginative activities. In those early years, kids do not like to be burdened with logic and reasoning. They relish the world of make-believe and various types of fables. This continues until the age of 10 or 12 when they enter into adolescence. With puberty, comes the analytical brain that thirsts for logic and reasoning. The above letter is geared towards young kids. So it does not contain all the technical aspects of creation theory. Then children would lose interest in the topic. The above was written in story form to best appeal to the young child’s mind-set.

By this entire viewpoint and perspective it is clear that there is no need to wait until children can gain an intellectual understanding of creation theory. We need not wait until they know terms such as va’yutattva, parashanti, anucchu’nya’ prakrti, bhava’nii, ka’mabiija. Rather then it will be too late and they will miss out on the essence of this teaching.

So best is to is explain how this universe was made using Baba’s easy-to-understand method as described above in their early childhood years. Then this whole concept will easily set in their heart and mind. And let us not forget that this entire method described above is Baba’s divine approach which He Himself used to explain this creation to some simple devotees back in 1965 (Patna).

Note 2: PART LIFE AND FULL LIFE

Baba says that life does not begin in the delivery room of the hospital nor does it end in the cemetery. Life starts when mind is first created. Then unicellular beings come into existence. And so many births and deaths occur as that mind evolves from one being to the next, and finally one gets human form. Then it continues further until one becomes a truly great sadhaka and attains nirvikalpa samadhi. Baba terms all these births and deaths as part lives; they are like the little beads on one big mala. The full life starts when mind is first created and culminates with moksa or salvation. In that sense, one’s full life is the entire mala, not just a single bead of that mala. This posting portrays life in a grand way. It addresses the big questions: Who you are, from where have you come, and where you are going. That deeper aspect is what we want to teach youths when imparting creation theory to them. They should understand who they are, from where they have come, and their relationship with the inanimate objects and living beings of this universe. The is the true utility of teaching creation theory to youths. And that is why it should be imparted at the earliest, i.e. when they are young.

PRABHAT SAMGIITA

“A’mi ca’i ni toma’re ka’che kon din, tumi krpa’ kare esecho…” (P.S. 2367)

Purport:

Baba, I was leading a crude, materialistic life; the divine feeling was not coming in my mind. Baba, I never tried or desired to come close to You – not anytime. O’ my Dearmost, You have bestowed Your cosmic grace on me by coming in my life.

Baba, I was completely submerged in crude life. I was not understanding anything about You – how sweet and divine You are. Baba, You have graced me by destroying my lust and worldly attachment and bringing me close to You.

Baba, in the past I wasted my time searching eternal happiness in this ephemeral, external world. With my clouded mind I was thinking that these
worldly achievements will satiate my heart. I was always busy boasting about myself and my own greatness, and bragging about my own achievements
and glory. In this way, my life got wasted.

Baba, You have graciously turned my vision from external to internal and transformed my worldly attachment into divine longing. In this way, You have graced me and opened my eyes. Now I do not have any interest to think about my own self. Baba, You showered Your causeless grace on me and filled up my dry deserted heart with Your divine love. Baba, I do not have any words to express my feeling.

Baba, prior to this, my ego was a huge burden on me. It was the cause of my all-round degeneration and downfall. Because of that ego, I never tried to move on the righteous and straight path – the path of dharma. Instead, I always chose to move on the crooked, unrighteous, and sinful path. I was just passing my existence in animal life. In that way I committed many sins.

Baba, with the showering of Your karuna You showed me the divine direction. You graciously put me on the righteous path and bestowed the energy to move ahead. This way You have made me into a human being. It is Your grace.

Baba, from my side there was no effort to come close to Your lotus feet. Only You graciously lifted me up from the mud, cleansed me, & lovingly placed me in Your divine lap…

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To: am-global@earthlink.net
Subject: Re: Wrong Way To Teach Children #3
Date: Fri Aug 03 2012, 22:54:36

Baba

== RE: WRONG WAY TO TEACH CHILDREN ==

~ Part 3 ~

(Note: This is the third letter in this series. Links to the two prior letters are appended below. – Eds)

Namaskar,

“If you give kids money as a means of motivating them to study, that type of psychology will spill over to other arenas of life. The day their mother is sick, they will only go to the store to get medicine if they get paid handsomely by their sick mother. So this idea of paying students to study will just make them spoiled and indulgent. It will wipe out their ability to grow into idealistic, sacrificing, and socially responsible human beings. Why? Because when they are young is the time to teach them these core values, but those are not inculcated. Instead, parents train them with monetary incentives. So children adopt materialistic, business relations as their ideal. In that case, everything is done for monetary return, and they are never given the chance to cultivate an inner drive to help and serve others.”

Here is another off-shoot to this problem that abounds based on this same formula:

1. Some parents in the US give money to kids to do house chores.

2. But it is not at all good to create this type of business relation – rather it is most harmful.

3. It sets the tone that children merely have a business relation with their family members and the greater society.

4. If this continues then they never develop a sense of duty or responsibility. They think that everything is a commercial transaction. They totally miss out on the ideals of familial and loving relations.

PERSONAL STORY

I can never forget the poignant account that I heard from a friend. He had fallen in his own home and could not get up – his ankle was twisted and broken. So he asked his 9-year-old son to bring the walking stick that was 20 feet away in the corner. The boy just looked at his father and said, “If you give me ten dollars then I will bring you the stick.” The father ended up lying there on the floor in his helpless condition for two hours because he did not have cash to give to his son. It was only when his wife returned home that he could get up. When I heard this from my friend (i.e. the father), I was aghast. I thought what kind of children are we raising nowadays.

JUST QUICK-FIX, NOT LONG-TERM SOLUTION

5. No doubt giving money to do chores or homework is a quick-fix for the immediate future or short-term. But over the long haul, by this way, children lose the opportunity to develop an inner sweetness and feelings of sacrifice. They become creatures of materialism – not human beings. They do everything for the dollar and never cultivate refined human sentiments and characteristics. All because that is how their parents trained them when they were young.

BABA’S MANDATE

6. We should adhere to Baba’s mandate and awaken within children a thirst for knowledge and a sense of duty.

Baba says, “The thirst for knowledge will have to be awakened among students, and reverence, devotion, orderliness and discipline will have to be taught as well.” (Problems of the Day, pt #33)

Namaskar,
Manomohan Deva

Note 1: BABA’S TEACHING:

MUST AWAKEN A GENUINE THIRST FOR KNOWLEDGE

Here below in so many ways Baba guides us that we are to awaken and support a child’s development by nurturing their inherent thirst for knowledge

Baba says, “How many teachers try to awaken a genuine thirst for knowledge in their students?” (Human Society-1, Education)

Baba says, “Children are by nature most inclined towards play, so a thirst for knowledge will have to be awakened in children through the medium of play – children should be educated through play methods. Children are also by nature inclined to listen to fantasies and stories. Through stories children can easily be taught the history and geography of various countries, and they may also be taught the initial lessons of how to practise universalism in their lives. Children love play and stories almost equally, so in their case the two should be equally utilized.” (Human Society-1, Education)

Baba says, “Students go to school and sit for examinations in order to pass. Examiners should bear this fact in mind. They should not adopt the rigid position that “Only such-and-such percentage of students will be allowed to pass.” Examiners should take into account only the range of knowledge and the extent of the thirst for knowledge the students possess.” (Human Society-1, Education)

Note 2: LINKS TO EARLIER LETTERS ON THIS TOPIC

#1: http://www.am-global-01.blogspot.com/2012/07/wrong-way-to-teach-children.html

#2: http://www.am-global-01.blogspot.com/2012/07/re-wrong-way-to-teach-children-2.html

PRABHAT SAMGIITA

“Jiivaner uts hate je srote bha’siya’chila’m…” (P.S. 3016)

Purport:

Baba, O’ Parama Purusa, since the very origin of my life – since eternity – in which current I was floating, in that very flow, You were also present. But I did not see You.

Baba, You were with me day and night, ever-awake, holding the lamp of effulgence in Your hand. But that time I could not recognise You.

O’ my dearmost Baba, still today You remain along with me. Indeed each and every single moment You decorate this grand universe in hundreds of
forms, shapes, and colors. Baba, You are always dancing in that divine vibration, but I did not see You because I was keeping my eyes closed.

Baba, since eternity You have been along with me. Today You have made me realise this very cosmic truth: I am surviving only due to Your boundless grace, affection, and love…

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Date: 03 Aug 2012 06:33:47 -0500
From: “Dharmendra” dg4750@corpnet…
To: AM-GLOBAL
Subject: Do You Think Doctors Are Your Friend

Baba

== DO YOU THINK DOCTORS ARE YOUR FRIEND ==

Namaskar,
The amount of radiation from even a single x-ray is extremely harmful. Over the years, the cumulative effects of the radiation are quite dramatic on the body. So just think how harmful one CT scan is when a single CT scan exposes you to more than several hundred times the radiation of an x-ray.

X-rays are dangerous for everyone: They damage the DNA and within 10 to 15 years cancer cells will develop in the body. People around the globe are suffering from cancer due to x-rays. And while it is dangerous to all, it is especially ghastly for children because their tender bodies are still developing. Their cells are very sensitive and highly susceptible to cancer from radiation. In that case, CT scans are a tremendous health risk which are far more harmful than x-rays.

So be aware. Avoid CT scans as far as possible – especially for children. Only if there is absolutely no other option – and without it you may die – then and only then should one get a CT scan. The basic approach is to steer clear from these CT scans.

One key point to keep in mind is that we are living in the culminating phase of the vaeshyan era – this is capitalism at its peak. Even doctors and hospitals are business entities and follow the profit motive. They think more about earning money than about the well-being, or life and death, of the patient. They will even push you up to the jaws of death if by that way they will earn extra money. Of course not every single doctor operates this way but certainly the majority.

Such doctors and medical professionals are paid commissions by diagnostic companies when they recommend patients for medical screenings and tests, like CT scans. That is why they may even resort to fear tactics to pressure you into getting tested.

So this is the general trend nowadays with doctors. If you are fortunate you may get good doctor – as there are some that are more concerned with patient’s care than their own profit. But again this is rare. Point being that if you see a surgeon they will almost always recommend surgery as that is they only way they earn money.

We should be careful. In order to diagnose a problem which may or may not exist, why invite cancer by getting a CT scan. Avoid this as far as possible.

In comparison, MRI’s are relatively harmless. So if you need such a diagnosis get an MRI – they are more clear than CT scans, but more costly. Or find other another option like an ultrasound exam. The main aim should be to spare yourself from the radiation of a CT scan.

Only in the worst case scenario, if really there is no other option, then one may get a CT scan – but be sure to educate yourself about the dangers ahead of time. The following articles are good and point to how Americans are often over-diagnosed.

Namaskar,
Dharmendra

CT Scans Boost Cancer Risks For Kids
Children who get CT scans are at slightly increased risk for brain cancer and leukemia, according to a large international study released Tuesday.
CT scans create detailed images of the inside of the body. So they’re great for diagnosing all sorts of medical problems — so great that their use has soared in recent years. More than 80 million are being done every year in the United States.

But the scans use a lot more radiation than standard X-rays, and evidence has been mounting that they may increase the risk for cancer. But no one could say for sure.

“This is the first study that’s looked at patients that had CT scans and then looked at their subsequent cancer risk,” said Amy Berrington de Gonzalez of the National Cancer Institute, who helped conduct the new study.

The study involved nearly 180,000 British patients who got CT scans between 1985 and 2002 before their 22nd birthdays. The researchers looked at kids because they are more sensitive to radiation than adults.

“We found that the radiation exposure from the CT scans was associated with a subsequent increased risk of both leukemia and brain tumors,” she said.
Based on the findings, researchers calculated that the amount of radiation from two or three scans of the head before age 15 would increase the risk of brain cancer threefold. It would take five to 10 head scans to triple the risk of leukemia.

Now, the researchers stress that the overall risk for brain cancer and leukemia is very low, so the risk remains quite low even among those who get scans.

“During the follow-up period of our study, which was about 10 years, we estimated about one excess brain tumor and one leukemia per 10,000 head CT scans performed in young children,” Berrington de Gonzalez said.
But scans of other parts of the body also look risky, and it’s probably not just a matter of multiple CTs and leukemia and brain tumors among kids, she said. There’s a good chance even one CT scan poses some risk to children — as well as adults — and possibly for all sorts of cancers.

“I think it’s really a landmark paper,” said Andrew Einstein of Columbia University Medical Center, who wrote an analysis of the study that’s being published along with the paper in the journal The Lancet.

“It’s the first paper that’s convincingly established that radiation exposure at low doses — in this case from CT scans — is associated with an increased cancer risk to patients,” he said.

Previous research has been based primarily on victims of the atomic bombings of Hiroshima and Nagasaki.

Now, Berrington de Gonzalez, Einstein and other experts stress that it’s important to remember that CT scans save a lot of lives.

“There are clearly situations in which CT is indicated: major motor vehicle accidents where there’s multiple potential organ injuries. In abdominal pain where surgery might be required for, say, a bowel obstruction or in some patients with apendicitis,” said Donald Frush of Duke University, speaking on behalf of the American College of Radiology.

If we just focused on the negatives, there are lots of things in life we wouldn’t do. “Just hearing the downsides of driving a car, or crossing a street or flying in an airplane,” he said, “if you only discussed the risks of all of those things no one would drive a car or walk across the street or fly in an airplane.”

Other experts agree. But many argue that a lot of CT scans — maybe as many as half — are unnecessary. So doctors have to be much more selective about how they use them, they say.

“It’s absolutely fair if your physician suggests that you or your child has a CT scan to ask that physician, ‘Why?’ Ask, ‘Are there good medical reasons why the CT scan is justified?’ ” said David Brenner, another Columbia University Medical Center researcher who has long studied the safety of CT scans.

Meanwhile, work is also under way to reduce the dose of radiation from each scan.

http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2012/06/07/154421129/ct-scans-boost-cancer-risks-for-kids

CT Scans Boost Cancer Risk in Young Patients, Study Finds
A study involving thousands of British children provides the first direct evidence that low-dose radiation used in diagnostic imaging produces a small but real increase in a child’s risk of developing cancer within 10 to 15 years, researchers say. The study, published today in Lancet, found that two to three head CT scans can triple a child’s risk of getting a brain tumor. Five to 10 scans that deliver radiation to the bone marrow triple the risk of leukemia, the research showed…

… the number of CT scans done in the United States is soaring. The most recent data suggests that U.S. doctors perform at least 70 million scans each year, 5 percent to 10 percent of them in children.

A CT scan—a computer-enhanced series of X-rays routinely used to identify brain trauma, cancer and other conditions that might be missed or take longer to diagnose by other means—delivers at least 10 times the radiation of a mammogram and up to 600 times the radiological punch of a single X-ray…

Children are especially susceptible to radiation-induced cancers, because their cells multiply rapidly. Radiation can damage the cellular controls that keep multiplication in check, over time transforming healthy tissue into tumors…

To avoid inappropriate scans—such as those for chronic headache, minor trauma, and low back pain—Swensen advises every person offered a CT scan—and every parent advised that their child might benefit from one—to ask the doctor:
• How could the test result change my (or my child’s) care, if at all?
• Can you recommend an alternative, such as an ultrasound or MRI, that doesn’t involve radiation?
• Can a dose at the low end of the scale be used?
• What is the accuracy of the test at the recommended center? Some operators are better at getting clear images than others, Swensen says.
• Do you have a financial interest in the scanner? Doctors that do, he says, have a greater incentive to refer patients for tests.
http://health.usnews.com/health-news/blogs/second-opinion/2012/06/06/ct-scans-boost-cancer-risk-in-young-patients-study-finds

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Subject: Child Trafficking
Date: Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:31:04
From: “Sudanshu Deva” ………@gmail.com
To: AM-GLOBAL

Baba

== CHILD TRAFFICKING ==

Namaskar,
As Ananda Margiis, we should be critically aware about harmful activities going on around the world. First and foremost, our duty is to save the children. It is the collective responsibility of society to watch for the welfare of children. If our youths are exploited, we are all to be held accountable.

With the extreme growth of capitalism, exploitation is multiplying.

At present, in the US, 100,000 children are forced into prostitution. The condition in so-called 3rd world countries is far worse. Criminals are kidnapping young girls from poor countries and selling them in rich countries.

Here is how it works: First such kidnappers gain the trust and friendship of these girls, and then befool those girls into thinking that they will get a good job and have a bright future. Thus, girls are manipulated and deceived into thinking that their lives hold great promise. Little do they suspect the vileness that actually awaits them. The situation is grave and tragic and needs our intervention.

Most shocking is that teenage girls from our children’s homes in India are also missing – and, some say, caught up in this mess.

Now please read this below article that details this horrible scene of child / teenage prostitution.

Namaskar,
Sudanshu Deva

FBI: Nationwide child prostitution sweep leads to
104 arrests, 79 children rescued
By Carol Cratty, CNN
Washington (CNN) — During a three-day law enforcement sweep targeting the problem of teenage prostitution, officers rescued 79 children and arrested 104 alleged pimps, the FBI announced Monday.
Operation Cross Country 6 took place from Friday though Sunday with more than 2,500 state, local and federal officers working in 57 cities.

FBI Acting Executive Assistant Director Kevin Perkins said the children law enforcement freed from their handlers ranged from 13 to 17 years old with one girl saying she had gotten involved in prostitution when she was 11.
“Many times the children that are taken in in these types of criminal activities are children that are disaffected, they are from broken homes, they may be on the street themselves — they are really looking for a meal, they are looking for shelter, they are looking for someone to take care of them, and that’s really the first approach that’s made,” said Perkins.
“Once the child has been taken out of harm’s way, then really the story just begins at that point,” said Perkins. “That’s where the real work starts, where we have to call upon the community, various social welfare agencies, our own office of victim assistance has to work with each child on an individual basis to see what their requirements are.
“This is a very difficult task. These children are very damaged — very harmed, and they need a great deal of help — it’s really taxing the social welfare agencies and it’s something that, going forward, we need to pay particular attention to.”
Even though the FBI says 79 children were rescued, officials said there’s no guarantee those minors won’t be lured back into prostitution.
“A lot of these kids feel like they are in love, and therefore many of them will go back, so it’s not only important that they get help, but they need a specialized kind of help,” said Ernie Allen, president of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.
According to Perkins, the people exploiting children in this manner are engaged in organized crime and have business plans and strategies. He said such criminals know their market and will move kids from state to state to service clients. The criminals use various methods including the Internet to find vulnerable kids. They also may find them at bus stations or truck stops and offer them help as a first step to winning their confidence.
Operation Cross Country is part of the FBI’s Innocence Lost National Initiative which was started in 2003. With 47 task forces and working groups, the FBI says more than 2,200 children have been pulled off the streets along with more than 1,000 convictions of people exploiting kids. According to the FBI, many of the convictions have resulted in long prison sentences, including eight life terms.
Despite those figures, the FBI and child advocates said child prostitution continues to be a serious problem and they called on the public to realize it can happen in any town and neighborhood.
Allen said the best estimate is that at least 100,000 American kids get lured into prostitution every year.

http://thecnnfreedomproject.blogs.cnn.com/2012/06/26/fbi-nationwide-child-prostitution-sweep-leads-to-104-arrests-79-children-rescued/

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Date: Fri, 13 Jul 2012 21:44:36 -0000
To: am-global@earthlink.net
From: Ganesh_Deva
Subject: Re: Wrong Way to Teach Children #2

Baba

== RE: WRONG WAY TO TEACH CHILDREN #2 ==

(Note: This is the second letter in this series. A link to the first letter is appended below. – Eds)

Namaskar,

On 7/11/12, Ranjiit Deva wrote:

“In the general society, there are three main ways that parents and educators force learning onto child learners:
(a) Offer students money and gifts for studying and achieving academic attainment;
(b) Punish students in various ways if they do not study by employing fear tactics or taking away their favourite food and dessert etc;
(c) Give the allurement of prestige, professional status, or guarantee a bright future.

These are the common ways that parents and educators pressure or force students to study.

But, according to Baba, this is not the way to motivate students.”

My Comment:

The inability of the present system of education in materialistic countries to harness a child’s desire to learn is then capitalised on by the mass media and corporate institutions.

HOW BIG BUSINESS CAPITALISES

WHERE EDUCATION FAILS

Big business, advertisers, the television and film industry – along with so many pillars of the pseudo-culture world – understand well that children have an inherent desire to learn. When the schools fail to harness this desire, these businesses, marketers, & the media jump in and fill the gap. Big business employs crafty and psychological methods to arouse a thirst of learning within students to learn about their own products, while education fails to develop a thirst for true knowledge.

In turn, kids and students memorise commercials, advertisements and become living and breathing advocates of those brands etc. And not only that, those kids become faithful customers and their families spend huge sums of money buying those products and paying for that type of entertainment. Along the way, the school system fails to instill within students a desire to learn classical knowledge and practical skills. This misstep by education gets converted into a “boon” for big business. Youths become active followers of corporate brands and pop media, and simultaneously they disregard their formal education.

So it is a complete switchover. The present system of education fails to inspire children to learn and instead forces them and offers monetary incentives. In the end, the students have no real interest and ultimately forget what they were taught. They cannot retain their classroom knowledge. Whereas, marketers and corporations successfully goad children to learn everything about their films, pop songs, slogans, video games, logos, and more. Businesses awaken a thirst within children to learn about their company products, and they need not directly pay any money to children. They learn about it on their own and retain all that information.

The whole scene is backward. Education fails to awaken a thirst for knowledge and fails to teach children what should be taught; while, businesses inspire children to learn about their company brand and their pseudo-culture gimmicks and gadgets.

BABA’S GUIDELINES ON THE ROLE OF EDUCATION

Here again is Baba’s teaching.

Baba says, “Education must awaken the thirst for knowledge in the students’ minds. The students themselves will create environmental pressure by persistent demands for answers to queries like: What is the answer? Is it correct? The longing, “I wish to know…I wish to understand and assimilate the entire universe” should be created. Such a thirst for knowledge should be created in the minds of students…So a tremendous thirst for knowledge must be awakened in the students’ minds. They will constantly pry their teachers, their parents and their neighbours with questions like: Why is this so? What is that? Why does that happen? Why does this not happen? etc. They are ready to assimilate the entire universe.” (Prout in a Nutshell – 18, Talks on Education)

Baba furthermore gives this guideline:

Baba says, “Society will gain no lasting benefit if teachers force students to swallow knowledge like quinine pills instead of awakening the thirst for knowledge in the minds of young children, or for that matter in the mind of any student.” (Human Society-1, Education)

Namaskar,
Ganesh Deva

Note 1: LINK TO INITIAL LETTER ON THIS TOPIC

http://am-global-01.blogspot.com/2012/07/wrong-way-to-teach-children.html

PRABHAT SAMGIITA

“Tumi a’ma’y hrdaya ma’jhe eso go priyo madhurata’ ma’khi…” (P.S. 747)

Purport:

Baba, please come in my heart and saturate my entire being with the showering of Your sweetness, O’ my dear most. Baba please remove my all impurities and negative samskaras – and whatever other stains that accumulated over the ages. Please inundate my entire existence with the showering of Your love and divine grace.

Baba, thoughout this entire universe, these seven lokas, nothing is beyond Your reach. Everything is within You. Because everything resides in You, that is why You know all my merits and demerits – whatever I have. By Your grace, today I am surrendering whatever is mine unto You. With the only desire that You please look towards me with Your compassionate eye, eyes full of karuna’. This wee-bit of grace I long from You.

Baba, since ages, since many lives, I have been crossing through the negative path, path of dogma. You graciously awakened my samvit (spiritual awareness), now for the first time in my life, I have understood my mistakes. And I rectified them, by Your grace. Baba, all my actions, my entire being, my whole heart, everything I offer at Your lotus feet. I do not want to keep anything as my own, from this moment forward. With this pointed mind, I am doing sastaunga pranam to You. Please accept it…

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From: “Ranjiit Deva”….@varun…
To: am-global@earthlink.net
Subject: Wrong Way to Teach Children
Date: Wed, 11 Jul 2012 22:23:46

Baba

== WRONG WAY TO TEACH CHILDREN ==

Namaskar,
In the US, nowadays some primary and high school students are paid money by the government – and even by educators and parents – as an incentive for attending class, studying, and doing their homework. We should think: Is this appropriate or not?

Some parents, guardians, teachers, policy-makers, and researchers believe this is a very good way to motivate students. They think a monetary incentive will inspire them to study.

Yet, on this very matter, Baba teaches us that children should not be given a monetary incentive or forced to learn. They will not retain any of that knowledge if it is forced upon them.

WAYS CHILDREN ARE FORCED TO LEARN

In the general society, there are three main ways that parents and educators force learning upon today’s children:
(a) Offer students money and gifts for studying and achieving academic attainment;
(b) Punish students in various ways if they do not study by employing fear tactics or taking away their favourite food and dessert etc;
(c) Give the allurement of prestige, professional status, or guarantee a bright future.

These are the common ways that parents and educators pressure or force students to study.

But, according to Baba, this is not the way to motivate students. This notion of pressuring them to study creates bad habits that will carry on throughout their life, in all realms of existence.

For instance, regarding point (a), if you give kids money as a means of motivating them to study, that type of psychology will spill over to other arenas of life. The day their mother is sick, they will only go to the store to get medicine if they get paid handsomely by their sick mother. So this idea of paying students to study will just make them spoiled and indulgent. It will wipe out their ability to grow into idealistic, sacrificing, and socially responsible human beings. Why? Because when they are young is the time to teach them these core values, but those are not inculcated. Instead, parents train them with monetary incentives. So children adopt materialistic, business relations as their ideal. In that case, everything is done for monetary return, and they are never given the chance to cultivate an inner drive to help and serve others.

Second, if punishment or fear tactics are used to force kids to study, then the day that fear is gone, they will neither remember what they learned, nor retain any of that information. For example, if a father threatens a child to study then the moment that father is not there, that child will not study. So this approach of forcing a child to learn is not effective. (See Note #1)

Third, the matter of prestige does not work with kids aged 5 – 11; and for teenagers this is not the right incentive because they will become prestige oriented and not care what is proper. They will indulge in whatever will make them popular, regardless of what effect it has on them. They will do everything for the sake of getting more prestige. So if their parents do not have prestige in society then those kids will not go out in public with their parents.

MUST AWAKEN A THIRST FOR KNOWLEDGE

So these three aforementioned techniques do not work. What then is Baba’s guideline for motivating students?

Baba clearly states that the “thirst for knowledge” should be aroused. That is the main approach that teachers and parents should adopt.

It is nature’s law: Every child has the capacity to develop a great thirst for knowledge. It is the duty of parents, family members, teachers, and school officials to cultivate this longing – and not to extinguish it. The child’s inquisitiveness and intellectual growth should be wholeheartedly encouraged. (See Note #2)

HOW TEACHERS AND PARENTS GO WRONG

Unfortunately, due to defective educational strategies and human misunderstanding, often such educators and parents stifle that inner drive in students.

How does this happen?

Well, when children are very small and start speaking, they ask all kinds of questions: What is this? How does it work? Children at that age are extremely inquisitive and pose innumerable queries. Often times parents and caretakers become overwhelmed. To quiet children, they terrorise them, or give false answers, or scare them. In that way, children become timid and lose their curiosity and zest for knowledge.

WAYS TO ENCOURAGE LEARNING

Baba guides us that the best way to help the child and foster their growth is to answer their questions truthfully. So, either give an honest answer based on the facts; or, if you do not know the answer, then directly say, “I do not know, but I will find out and tell you.” That will be extremely helpful and will advance the child’s learning. Whereas, scaring them or telling them lies is very dangerous, and indeed quiet harmful, with long-term negative repercussions.

Every child enters this world with the potential for so much inquisitiveness and a strong desire to learn. That quality should be encouraged in a very natural way. Then the child will develop the inner inspiration to learn and grow as a human being. Then there will be no need to offer some type of external incentive to learn – such as giving them money.

If that innate longing is already crushed, then it must be rekindled. Then it is the job of parents and educators to awaken that thirst for knowledge through story, queries, or other ways that interest and challenge the child. That will create hunger to learn in which case the then real learning process will start. This should be done by parents, family members, caretakers, teachers, and general citizens – all are involved in raising the child.

Baba says, “The thirst for knowledge will have to be awakened among students, and reverence, devotion, orderliness and discipline will have to be taught as well.” (Problems of the Day, pt #33)

Namaskar,
Ranjiit Deva

Note 1: FORCING STUDENTS TO STUDY DOES NOT WORK

Here is Baba’s teaching that employing fear tactics to force children to study is a defective approach. Rather it is important to cultivate a genuine desire to learn.

Baba says, “So as I was saying, it will not do to impart education through intimidation. A thirst for knowledge must be awakened, and, to quench that thirst, proper education must be given. Only then will education be worthwhile and develop the body, mind and ideals of the student.” (Human Society-1, Education)

Note 2: MUST INSPIRE THEM TO LEARN

Here Baba guides us that educators must inspire children to develop a desire to learn; in result, the child’s innate curiosity will awaken and they will want to know more.

Baba says, “Education must awaken the thirst for knowledge in the students’ minds. The students themselves will create environmental pressure by persistent demands for answers to queries like: What is the answer? Is it correct? The longing, “I wish to know…I wish to understand and assimilate the entire universe” should be created. Such a thirst for knowledge should be created in the minds of students…So a tremendous thirst for knowledge must be awakened in the students’ minds. They will constantly pry their teachers, their parents and their neighbours with questions like: Why is this so? What is that? Why does that happen? Why does this not happen? etc. They are ready to assimilate the entire universe.” (Prout in a Nutshell – 18, Talks on Education)

PRABHAT SAMGIITA

“Jeo na’ ogo prabhu, anek katha’ a’che ba’kii…” -P.S. #683

Purport:

Baba, O’ Prabhu please do not go away. Please remain with me – I have many a tale to tell You. Please come to my home. Please understand this unique opportunity: I am all alone in the house. Nobody is here, so please come.

Baba, in pleasure and pain, during both negative and positive situations, all the time I am calling You. And always I am remembering Your name. During all the 24 hours, whatever I do, my hands are always busy in work; but, my mind is at Your lotus feet. I remember You; it is Your grace. Even if I risk losing everything I want You to my heart’s content. Baba, You understand my entire situation but You never console me. I am surrounded by the darkness these days. I do not have any happiness.

Baba I do not want anything from You, only this much I want: That You please come close and sit beside me. The doors & windows of my mind are always open in longing for You, waiting for Your arrival.

Baba, my Lord, please do not go away leaving me deserted. Always remain in my heart…

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